Comments on: Q&A with J: “Is It Okay to Use Sex Toys?”

By: Q&A with J: "He Won't Touch My Clitoris" | Hot, Holy & Humorous

Thu, 11 Jan 2018 12:00:35 +0000

[…] Perhaps the next step is touching your vulva through your panties, feeling some of the wetness on the fabric but not making direct contact. You could also insert steps among the ones I mentioned here: like having him watching you stimulate yourself to climax so that he can clearly see what happens and become more comfortable with the fluids there, or him stimulating your clitoris with a vibrator (see Q&A with J: “Is It Okay to Use Sex Toys?”). […]

By: J

Sat, 21 Oct 2017 16:46:30 +0000

In reply to della gorrell. I'm sorry for the long delay in answering. Perhaps these posts will help: Q&A with J: I Long for the Sex I Had with my Late Husband Q&A with J: Staying Sexually Pure When You’re Divorced & Dating – Part 1 - obviously not your situation, but there are some helpful tips within Q&A with J: Staying Sexually Pure When Your Divorced & Dating – Part 2 - same here

By: A Loveliness of Links ~ September 2017 - The Forgiven Wife

A Loveliness of Links ~ September 2017 - The Forgiven Wife — Sun, 01 Oct 2017 11:02:33 +0000

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By: J

Wed, 20 Sep 2017 13:11:22 +0000

In reply to Dave. Isn't that more or less what I said? Sex toys can do damage in the marriage bed, when used in the wrong way. But sex toys can also help those who truly need a marital aid to be sexually responsive.

By: Dave

Dave — Tue, 19 Sep 2017 20:52:19 +0000

If sex toys can ruin you marriage then spoons can make you fat. Tools themselves are not good or evil, they are inanimate objects; it’s how you use them.

By: della gorrell

della gorrell — Thu, 14 Sep 2017 18:58:54 +0000

I am an older single woman, and find I miss the sexual part of my life.. So what do I do to either forget about that part of my life or is there another way.?

By: Another high-drive wife

Another high-drive wife — Wed, 13 Sep 2017 22:16:16 +0000

I agree that a toy should not replace intimacy, nor should it be used as a replacement for taking the needed time to get to know how to use “all God has given us.”
I hope those who may need the “tool” aspect did catch on that there is a place for these. I’ve read that as many as 70% of women cannot orgasm with intercourse alone. I was able to for many many years but my post-menopausal body will not cooperate at this point. Frustrating isn’t a strong enough word. A vibrator has made that possible and kept my willing-to-spend-whatever-time-and-effort-it-takes husband from feeling like a failure. Plus, many times after getting my body to respond with it, he can get my body to respond to his touch as well. Win-win!

By: J

Sat, 09 Sep 2017 13:48:13 +0000

In reply to Matt. Thank you! :)

By: Matt

Matt — Sat, 09 Sep 2017 00:15:56 +0000

Your blogs have been a blessing to my marriage as well as myself personally as a man trying to figure it out. I’m 18 years in to marriage and still humbled by what sex does for us as we try to do life, raising kids. Early on, it was ego driven on my end. I had to get aligned with God’s design and as I’ve done so it’s become so much more powerful. Many Thanks to you and your husband for supporting your ministry.

By: J

Fri, 08 Sep 2017 02:29:16 +0000

In reply to G. Oh my! What a heartbreaking and cautionary tale. I'm so sorry you've been through this. I really think your husband needs to practical teaching on what's realistic in the marriage bed and about women's sexual response. I pray that you can find ways to communicate your desires to him and that his heart will change. May you feel God's presence throughout.