Hey really sorry to hear about it…I understand the stress of being a high school teacher, especially when it comes to grading. Teaching is a complicated job and she needs to come to the realisation that this will eventually cause burn out in the future, if not to her, then to her family. It’s not worth it…there’s something about teaching and martyr syndrome but the teacher has to realise that it is causing damage to herself and her family (most of them do eventually realise though). Personally, I would recommend her to put in strategies to be more time and task efficient (do not reinvent the wheel, give little chunks of hw for easier marking, do work in every spare moment she has, do not take work home and have a cut off time mentally because there’s never-ending tasks to do). I would say that a balanced approach is needed and sacrificing marriage/kids for other people’s kids is not worth it – at the end of the day, she needs to actively put in some strategies and shift her mindset.

A fair point J. Although it is getting easier with time. I go through seasons with it but i have been noticing that my seasons of accepting the situation are getting longer and longer. The point is well taken though.

🙁 I’m not sure you have, or at least, want to accept it. After all, you’re reading a sex blog… Just sayin’.

Hahaha!

I have just come to accept that this is just the way our lives will be. It just is what it is.

Thanks, but please don’t send me minions. I have four of those already ?

Maybe he doesn´t want to give you flowers specifically? He want to make you happy because he loves you. If he learns giving you flowers now and then makes you happy, he probably will. Not because he has to, but because he wants to.

But it´s tricky when one person orientates the world by feelings and the other by thinking. Neither is wrong or one superior over the other, but you have to learn to see the signs of love shown and interpret one another benevolently when it comes to different expresssions of love.

When me and my husband first got engaged it took him a while to learn my date of birth. I just told him “it´s important to me that you learn my date of birth, it makes me feel loved”. He just said OK and took the effort to learn it by heart. I was happy he learned, he was happy he hade found a way to please me. This is just an example.

If you were married to me and said “it would really make me happy if you bought me flowers about for times a year when I don´t expect it”, I would happily make sure to do it, out of love, not obligation. The love is not in how the gift is chosen, the love is in doing what makes the other person feel loved and secure.

But your personality is equally important of course and the challenge is to find out how to best show love to the other. But the most important thing is learning to discern the other person´s way of showiing love, even if it´s not the way you would prefer.