I’ve mentioned NFP and referred others to Engaged Marriage blog, which does a better job with that topic than I do, because we never practiced that in my marriage. I do take issue with NFPers saying things (in a better-than-you way) like “We have given our sexuality completely to God,” because that implies that you wouldn’t practice any form of birth control…and you do. You time your sexual intimacy within a cycle to prevent pregnancy.

And while I’m not a big fan of hormonal birth control, saying that its function is to kill babies is way off. Its purpose is preventing fertilization, although some forms can also cause a fertilized egg not to implant properly, so I understand the concern. But that’s not the point of hormonal contraception. And barrier methods, when used properly, work well in preventing fertilization.

I applaud you for figuring out what works for your marriage, but I caution against judging others, and especially their faith, for their choices. If you have a case to make against a form of birth control, make it without criticizing others.

We have never used artificial contraception. Hormonal birth control is an abortifacient: it kills babies. That is its function. We have never used condoms or any other barrier method. We have given our sexuality completely to God. We will not keep any part of our lives for ourselves, our lives are for God. What is also amazing is that married couples that practice NFP only have a 5% divorce rate.

I almost never read anyone else using NFP on these blogs, and it makes me sad. It’s such a wonderful, and selfless method. My wife enjoys all of me. My hope and prayer is that all Christians commit themselves completely to God including their sexuality. It’s so needed in todays selfish society.

LOL.

Oops! Caught skim reading! Saw the second part, missed the first.

Just ignore the man behind the curtain.

We use the Trojan Lambskins too and they are the best thing we have found as far as condoms go! We recently found them on Amazon for $1.99 a piece (10 pack), which is the cheapest I’ve seen so far. My husband says WAY worth it 😉

Great idea, Paul! Um, which is why I’d written this in the post:

“Also, brands make comfort fit or ‘pleasure-shaped,’ which means it’s tapered at the bottom and wider at the tip to allow for that tight fit around the shaft and more room around the head.

“Finally, one interesting suggestion is to squeeze a small amount of personal lubricant into the tip of the condom before putting it on, with the idea that the squishy feeling mimics the feel of a lubricated vagina.”

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Thank you! Many blessings.

Exactly J. We do this many times in fact. Sometimes we will start out in missionary for my wife (I love it too but it seems the most amazing for her). Later I might ask her to turn over. Or she might want to be on top at first but we finish in missionary. For me it makes a huge difference.