Comments on: 5 Sex Words I Really Want to Change

By: Unicorn

Unicorn — Wed, 05 Feb 2020 17:58:28 +0000

We call it tiger position rather than doggy

By: BP

BP — Tue, 02 Oct 2018 16:18:38 +0000

In reply to Percy. Thank you Percy. It seems it is possible to over-sanitize bedroom language between married couples. Communication about sex in marriage is inherently difficult, is it not? I respect all that has been suggested of course; however, in keeping with your comment society does not get to co-opt our personal love language, nor denigrate it.

By: Greg

Greg — Wed, 04 Jul 2018 21:00:09 +0000

I was reading your “Talking Flirty vs Talking Dirty” post, and you—well, Song of Songs really—provided a term for cunnilingus (which wasn’t included in your list of 5), which is ‘gathering lilies’ ( Song of Songs 6.2). I would hope wives would respond to their husband’s desires to “gather her lilies tonight.”

By: Greg

Greg — Wed, 04 Jul 2018 20:51:10 +0000

In reply to E. ‘Allergic reaction.’ I might have to adopt that one, E.

By: Greg

Greg — Wed, 04 Jul 2018 20:37:08 +0000

In reply to J. And what are your thoughts—J.’s and fellow commenters’—on c-m (n. = semen) vs c-m/come (v.= to orgasm)?

By: Greg

Greg — Wed, 04 Jul 2018 20:33:55 +0000

In reply to J. There was a company out where I live that were ‘Bridgemen & Aggressive Erectors’—if THAT doesn’t sound like an ED treatment, I don’t know what does.

By: Greg

Greg — Wed, 04 Jul 2018 20:28:04 +0000

In reply to MH. I like Valysium and I particularly like Honeyglow, as I call my wife Honey because, like in The Incredibles, she is the greatest food I have ever known.

By: Greg

Greg — Wed, 04 Jul 2018 20:21:53 +0000

In reply to J. The butterfly emoji—inspired.

By: Greg

Greg — Wed, 04 Jul 2018 20:16:46 +0000

Awesome post as ever, J., and I couldn’t agree more. The term I’ve recently adopted for ‘intercourse’ is ‘communion.’ Google defined ‘communion’ as “the sharing or exchanging of intimate thoughts and feelings, especially when the exchange is on a mental or spiritual level.” If that doesn’t sound like what sex between and husband and wife, I don’t know what does.

I like tunnel of love, but I think I also like Quincy Jones’ term (and sing title): Secret garden.

For a verb term for fellatio, what about poppin’ lolli? If a wife is savoring her husbands popcicle, or lollipop, then she’s poppin’ lolli on him.

My 2 ¢

By: J

Wed, 28 Feb 2018 13:38:50 +0000

In reply to Percy.

I hear this argument all the time: They’re just words! But you know, words mean something. Go through the Bible and find all the scriptures that talk about our speech; it’s surprising how many there are. And the way language develops, words are symbols that represent both a denotative (actual) and a connotative (implied) meaning. The connotation of many curse words — acknowledging a difference between slang and curse words — is negative.

Since I believe that all of God’s Word applies in every area of my life, including the marriage bed, why would I want to say something that I wouldn’t say if Jesus were standing right there? I have a lot of private language with my husband about our sex life, but all of it has a positive connotation. That’s what I advocate.

And I’m not making decisions for anyone by advocating for that. Spouses make their choices, and they don’t report to me — it’s between them and God. But I do take a position on this one, based on my study of God’s design, that words matter.