Comments on: 5 Ways to Get Your Church to Address Sex

By: Charlie O

Charlie O — Wed, 18 Apr 2018 16:12:40 +0000

As a pastor I am whole-heartedly in favor of sound Biblical, practical instruction on marital sexual relations. However, be careful what you wish for. No teaching is better than bad teaching. I have been stalking the Christian ladies’ blogs for years, and there is some really good stuff on them, so I’m not finding fault with them. Even as a man I have benefitted a great deal. Howver, I am reminded of the statement I heard as a child when an outrageous stunt was performed on television: “Don’t try this at home.” I tremble when I think of some of the preaching that I have heard about married sex from pastors, evangelists, etc. Let’s do it, but let us observe extreme caution. Obviously, one need not be a certified sex therapist, psychologist, physcian, etc. But one must combine the Biblical understanding of the role of sex in marriage with the knowledge of God’s description of marriage. Unfortunately, this is often not grasped by many pastors. Those who know their limitations could call in specialized help. Those who don’t could cause more harm than good.

By: Brian

Brian — Mon, 16 Apr 2018 11:42:51 +0000

I wish there were. I honestly don’t even know what good teaching for boys on sex should look like in the modern culture.

By: Ruth

Ruth — Mon, 16 Apr 2018 03:54:09 +0000

Sorry, but at this time the class for men is only taught locally. Jim and i just got funding to make videos for the men. Hopefully we will release them sometime in the next year.

By: Lynn

Lynn — Sun, 15 Apr 2018 17:28:02 +0000

Your illustration for people’s reaction to your testimony was hilarious! I laughed out loud!

By: Lizzy

Lizzy — Sun, 15 Apr 2018 15:26:24 +0000

In reply to Brian. I love the idea of more resources for boys and young men!

By: Brian

Brian — Sun, 15 Apr 2018 03:01:19 +0000

I’m not very familiar with Awaken Love. I’ll check them out.

By: J

Sat, 14 Apr 2018 23:04:45 +0000

In reply to Vicki brewer. I didn't know that she'd released that one yet! Thanks.

By: Vicki brewer

Vicki brewer — Sat, 14 Apr 2018 22:22:15 +0000

In reply to J. Awaken love has a class for men as well

By: Brian

Brian — Sat, 14 Apr 2018 14:59:30 +0000

I guess it makes sense that porn and lust are targeted because these are huge problems for almost every man. But there are a whole lot of other areas men need solid teachings about sex. Actually, I wish there was a directed effort towards young men both before and during the teenage years to show them what sex and their sexuality should be about. It’s during this pivotal period in a boy’s life that his view on sex is developed, usually with no useful instruction from parents. By the time a boy becomes a man so much damage has already been done that we’re basi in damage control and repair mode.

By: J

Sat, 14 Apr 2018 12:45:12 +0000

In reply to Brian.

Yes, I targeted this post to wives. Are there resources intended for men or couples? Yes, I’m sure there are. However, (1) I haven’t done as much research into that stuff lately, so I wasn’t quite sure which ones to recommend, and (2) a lot of resources aimed at men or couples (often provided by male presenters) doesn’t just cover sex but marriage as a whole with sex as one component.

But let me say that I entirely agree with you! Some of the male presenters about sex are talking to husbands almost completely about sexual sin. And while I believe that’s important, it’s not enough. Sure, we need to move away from sin but TOWARD something better. Also, not every guy is looking at porn! We need to talk about what healthy and holy sex in marriage looks like, so we can aim for that.