Comments on: 5 Answers to Emails Sitting in My Inbox https://hotholyhumorous.com/2018/06/30/5-answers-to-emails/ God's Design for Marital Intimacy Thu, 02 Jul 2020 21:55:58 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=7.1.3 By: Have You Received Bad Marriage Counseling? | Hot, Holy & Humorous https://hotholyhumorous.com/2018/06/30/5-answers-to-emails/#comment-75058 Mon, 06 May 2019 13:00:52 +0000 https://hotholyhumorous.com/?p=25238#comment-75058 […] who have shared sexual problems with me on this blog or through email, someone else has shared a similar problem. So I can see how that would happen. It’s an easy stretch then to have a counselor spend an […]

]]> By: Greg https://hotholyhumorous.com/2018/06/30/5-answers-to-emails/#comment-71655 Mon, 02 Jul 2018 19:30:07 +0000 https://hotholyhumorous.com/?p=25238#comment-71655 In reply to J.

Thanks for accepting it and providing this arena to publish it. If someone can find some inspiration or insight in what I’ve shared, all the better.

]]> By: J https://hotholyhumorous.com/2018/06/30/5-answers-to-emails/#comment-71644 Mon, 02 Jul 2018 16:13:38 +0000 https://hotholyhumorous.com/?p=25238#comment-71644 In reply to Greg.

Beautiful. Thanks so much for sharing your story.

]]> By: Greg https://hotholyhumorous.com/2018/06/30/5-answers-to-emails/#comment-71643 Mon, 02 Jul 2018 16:07:11 +0000 https://hotholyhumorous.com/?p=25238#comment-71643 As the spouse (husband) who was the jerk—and had that characteristic pointed out—I’ve worked to own that and concertedly change my attitude and approach. Part of this was also Reading and Researching, but among the principal drivers of how I interact with my wife are…

1) learning—and working to become fluent in—her love language. I discovered that I was in a situation like the old George Bernard Shaw quote: “Don’t do unto others as you would have them do unto you—their tastes may not be the same.” I was expressing love how I’d like to receive it, and that’s not my wife’s love language at all. Tuning into what resonates with her was tremendous.

2) I turned the focus away from myself and onto her, expressed simply in the question pair, “What do you need? How can I help?” I started embracing wanting to help her, which fostered a belief that in doing so, I am helping us—this partnership that God put in both of our care.

As a result, many more aspects where we seemed to have diverged are starting to synch up, which is pretty great, especially in our 25th year of marriage.

]]> By: J https://hotholyhumorous.com/2018/06/30/5-answers-to-emails/#comment-71608 Sun, 01 Jul 2018 12:56:15 +0000 https://hotholyhumorous.com/?p=25238#comment-71608 In reply to Chris.

Thank you for that discretion. I guarantee you’re not alone in that struggle, but it’s good that you know it and are working on it. Blessings!

]]> By: Chris https://hotholyhumorous.com/2018/06/30/5-answers-to-emails/#comment-71607 Sun, 01 Jul 2018 12:50:32 +0000 https://hotholyhumorous.com/?p=25238#comment-71607 In reply to J.

J, now that I have had some time to calm down. I have struggled all my life with not biting my tongue when i should have. I am working on it. Its a cross i carry. I really enjoy your blog and it should be a safe place for women to come to and my comment that i deleted really would have stung a lot of women. My apoligies.

]]> By: J https://hotholyhumorous.com/2018/06/30/5-answers-to-emails/#comment-71596 Sun, 01 Jul 2018 03:14:31 +0000 https://hotholyhumorous.com/?p=25238#comment-71596 In reply to Chris.

Huh. Curiosity piqued, but then I also know of times I’ve deleted a comment and it was the right thing to do. So… Blessings!

]]> By: Chris https://hotholyhumorous.com/2018/06/30/5-answers-to-emails/#comment-71594 Sun, 01 Jul 2018 00:57:07 +0000 https://hotholyhumorous.com/?p=25238#comment-71594 So. J. I have to say this. This whole “I wouldn’t sleep with you either” thing……ya never mind, i just deleted my comment because well nevermind.

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