Hey, J… what Brian said; dittos Me, too. Mea Culpa. So many guys read you because you are so “fair and balanced, but cultural gynocentrism is a real problem. We’re just more likely to fight back than the ladies are, it seems, hence, the “mansplaining.” Plus, we believe you hear us.

Thanks! And I believe I did cover that, in that I talked about the difference between God-given sexuality and sinful uses of our sexuality. Being selfish is definitely a problem!

Tim, I get what you’re saying. But I think that the idea of “on behalf of men” reinforces the stereotypes that should be resisted. Individuals should be accountable, not groups. If I have offended unintentionally, I’m truly sorry. I try to measure my words and make thoughtful and helpful comments.

J points out that because of attention focused on perpetrators, whether it be of sexual assault or portly chosen words, make it seem like that the problem is more widespread or more deeply-rooted than it is.

Frankly, I’m tired of being lumped into a group and treated as a stereotype, not as a man with his own strengths and weaknesses. Let’s find common ground and help individuals and couples. There are general principles and tendencies, to be sure. But one thing I learned quickly as a teacher, is that everyone is different.

However we’ll-intentioned, please don’t apologize for me as a man. I can take responsibility and do it on my own when necessary.

You know, I get frustrated with those stereotypes on both sides. Jesus addressed people from all kinds of backgrounds with all kinds of problems, and we should do the same.

I find it fascinating that your women’s retreat never once dealt with sexual sin. Just as high libido wives are often invisible to the church, so is the whole area of the sexual struggles of women. Our women’s ministry has basically one female profile in mind – hyper busy homemaker who struggles with low self esteem and wants to learn how Jesus can talk directly to her and encourage her that she is beautiful and wonderful, despite the fact that she wonders if she’s good enough for God. Our men’s ministry has one male profile in mind – married guy who doesn’t properly lead his family and struggles with porn and needs to man up and take responsibility and learn how to become sexually pure by eye bouncing off other attractive women. For women, it’s all about encouragement. For men, it’s all about accountability. But it is never the reverse.

I have the same struggle on the XY Code. Moderation is my friend!

Praying the men will see the power of their words for good and for harm and work for good.

I agree that’s tough about body image. I did have some thoughts on that here: Husbands, Help Us Feel & Be Beautiful And thank you for your beautiful words!

Thanks, Mark!