Comments on: Q&A with J: Are Separate Bedrooms Okay? https://hotholyhumorous.com/2018/12/06/qa-with-j-separate-bedrooms/ God's Design for Marital Intimacy Fri, 04 Jan 2019 20:21:53 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=7.0 By: A Loveliness of Links ~ December 2018 - The Forgiven Wife https://hotholyhumorous.com/2018/12/06/qa-with-j-separate-bedrooms/#comment-74286 Fri, 04 Jan 2019 20:21:53 +0000 https://hotholyhumorous.com/?p=25895#comment-74286 […] Q&A with J: Are Separate Bedrooms Okay? Hot, Holy & Humorous […]

]]> By: April Gaddis https://hotholyhumorous.com/2018/12/06/qa-with-j-separate-bedrooms/#comment-74204 Thu, 20 Dec 2018 16:15:43 +0000 https://hotholyhumorous.com/?p=25895#comment-74204 Great article! My husband and I sleep in the same bed, but there are some nights I can’t sleep so I like to go in the living room and watch tv and fall asleep on the couch. I think it is what you said about what is the reason. If someone is using excuses just so they don’t have to be in the same bed then that is different, but if someone genuinely sleeps better alone but the entire intimacy of their marriage (emotionally not just physically) is still intact then I agree with you that there is no big deal. Can’t wait to read more!

– April from wifeinreallife.com

]]> By: Mark https://hotholyhumorous.com/2018/12/06/qa-with-j-separate-bedrooms/#comment-74201 Thu, 20 Dec 2018 05:44:39 +0000 https://hotholyhumorous.com/?p=25895#comment-74201 In reply to L.

L,

You might consider getting a new bed,,, what I mean is a good solid bed frame made out of wood and good box springs place on top. The mattress itself doesn’t necessarily need to be extra firm.

Try that before going with twin mattresses.

]]> By: J https://hotholyhumorous.com/2018/12/06/qa-with-j-separate-bedrooms/#comment-74200 Thu, 20 Dec 2018 01:29:31 +0000 https://hotholyhumorous.com/?p=25895#comment-74200 In reply to Anonymous.

Praying for your situation.

]]> By: Anonymous https://hotholyhumorous.com/2018/12/06/qa-with-j-separate-bedrooms/#comment-74199 Wed, 19 Dec 2018 17:17:35 +0000 https://hotholyhumorous.com/?p=25895#comment-74199 In reply to J.

Thank You this is the best post I’ve seen for my situation in our marriage. I forwarded it to my wife a couple of days ago and she has given no response about it to me. I just can’t get over how simple explanation is it doesn’t have to be an outside Source destroying your marriage it could be either spouse.

]]> By: Hubby m https://hotholyhumorous.com/2018/12/06/qa-with-j-separate-bedrooms/#comment-74197 Wed, 19 Dec 2018 16:05:06 +0000 https://hotholyhumorous.com/?p=25895#comment-74197 In reply to Laura.

I’m the higher drive in my marriage,with my BEAUTIFUL wife, but I would be happy with once a day, lol… we’re figuring it out ?

]]> By: J https://hotholyhumorous.com/2018/12/06/qa-with-j-separate-bedrooms/#comment-74196 Wed, 19 Dec 2018 14:53:37 +0000 https://hotholyhumorous.com/?p=25895#comment-74196 In reply to Anonymous.

Wow, thank you.

]]> By: Anonymous https://hotholyhumorous.com/2018/12/06/qa-with-j-separate-bedrooms/#comment-74195 Wed, 19 Dec 2018 04:28:49 +0000 https://hotholyhumorous.com/?p=25895#comment-74195 In reply to J.

I found this post of J’s. To me the best I have ever read on our marriage problem I have ever read. 100% to the point, doesn’t matter if it’s the husband or the wife. The selfish one is separating the marriage.

https://hotholyhumorous.com/2016/01/are-you-separating-what-god-joined-together/

]]> By: Diane https://hotholyhumorous.com/2018/12/06/qa-with-j-separate-bedrooms/#comment-74164 Sun, 16 Dec 2018 08:46:27 +0000 https://hotholyhumorous.com/?p=25895#comment-74164 I read your post the day you put it out. Pondered it and decided to add my story. My in-laws sleep in seperate beds/ seperate parts of the house. She says it’s due to his snoring and she’s a light sleeper, I believe her, I’ve heard his snoring. But over the past 30 years I see little love shared between them. They have 2 kids, my husband and his sister, 14 years younger. In current life she has increased pain in her joints and goes out very little. My father-in-law works for himself and closes shop on Fridays. So every Friday morning he gets her up and takes her out, to shop, for lunch, to walk. All to get her out of the house. If that isn’t love, then I don’t know what that is. But don’t you know I had to point this out to M in L. We still see little love exchanged between them.

Now to my own story. My husband works a 12 hour shift, 3 nights a week, from sundown to sun up. When our kids where small I slept nights and our lovelife suffered. Today our kids are grown with only one at home. I sleep days with him 95% of the time, only getting up early if the child needs to go somewhere. We are struggling hard to get our love life back to where we feel like we have one. But he is 49 and fighting migraines, low energy, and a lot of aches & pains. So it is really slow going. Im just glad that we took advantage of every day and every opportunity to be together that we’ve had over the past 30 years.

The best advice I can offer is the advice I give myself, pray and talk. Pray for yourself and your spouse. Talk about your feelings, but own those feelings, don’t dump it on your spouse. And the advice I take away from my observations? If you sleep apart expect to work twice as hard at keeping your marriage alive!

]]> By: Anonymous https://hotholyhumorous.com/2018/12/06/qa-with-j-separate-bedrooms/#comment-74158 Sat, 15 Dec 2018 07:48:53 +0000 https://hotholyhumorous.com/?p=25895#comment-74158 In reply to J.

I would love to know also. The only thing she will tell me is she has gained to much weight and thinks she looks disgusting. She will not go to counseling or even talk to our Pastors wife.
I have no idea what to do from here.

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