I’d love my husband made this a priority. I don’t know the reason but he always get his climax while I do 10% and when it happens it is because we began making love when I was already super excited, near to climax. If we start with me at cero and he is excited already, it is for sure he will finish in about 10-15 minutes while I am still warming up. After 20 years of marriage making love 1-3 times per week, the last year I had many nights of crying for hours. I feel so frustrated, even when I love my husband so much, but I feel I can’t go on with sex any more. Please pray for me.

Our upcoming Sex Chat for Christian episode will be on orgasm. Stay tuned on Tuesday, May 28, and maybe you can get your wife to listen? Or perhaps she’d like you two to listen together.

It’s so frustrating to want her pleasure and orgasm to be a focal point of our sex life, and have her be so unwilling to go down that road. I don’t know how, or if, we’ll ever get there. To say the least, it’s causing quite a bit of tension. How can I help her understand that there is so much more that we’re both missing out on?

Works. Every. Time!

I’ve certainly written posts to wives about needing to prioritize sex in their marriage and not doing it as “pity sex” (Sex and the Pity). That’s just not where this post was aimed. Praying for you!

He just kept adding positions, until some of them are, well, I can’t do a bunch of them either. But hey, if someone wants to go for it, knock yourself out! There are many do-able positions on the site, though.

This is so true! I cannot emphasize how much the things that happen outside the bedroom matter. During the years where my husband was angry all the time and nagging me about things he felt I wasn’t doing right, I wasn’t very interested in sex. When we did it, I would orgasm because, I think, I happen to be able to do that easily. And my husband couldn’t understand why I wasn’t more interested in sex, since, from his perspective, I always seemed to enjoy it.

But there’s a big difference between physically feeling pleasure and actually being satisfied. It’s hard to explain. But I know that my desire before sex and feelings of being satisfied after are hugely affected by whether I feel an emotional intimacy with my husband beforehand or not. And there is, for me at least, a big difference between a surface level physical orgasm and one that actually creates a satisfied intimate feeling of wanting more. Maybe that’s also a difference for women who have more trouble having an orgasm at all.