Comments on: Wives, Why Aren’t You Commenting?

By: J

Wed, 30 Sep 2020 19:20:14 +0000

Thanks. I appreciate that.

However, in all honestly, statements like this one—”For men, this is not an optional thing. It is, quite literally, life-and-death”—actually don’t help that case. It is not literally life and death, so when it’s framed that way, it becomes easier for a reluctant wife to view a persistent husband as exaggerating, selfish, etc. Believe me, I KNOW sex is super-important. As such, I want to help higher-drive spouses learn how to better communicate their deep longing for intimacy in ways their resistant spouse might better understand. Blessings!

By: Notdedyet

Notdedyet — Wed, 30 Sep 2020 18:05:35 +0000

As a male reader, and an all-too-willing- commenter, I am duly chastised by some of the ladies’ comments in that regard. I think it comes from the place of most of us who are trying to address the issue, rather than avoid it, are absolutely DESPERATE for some clue, some answer. For men, this is not an optional thing. It is, quite literally, life-and-death. And if we come off angry, it’s usually because women SEEM to treat it like a take-it-or-leave it issue. I promise to be more cautious and circumspect in the future.

By: Jen

Jen — Wed, 26 Jun 2019 17:32:44 +0000

I don’t tend to comment as here it is end of June and Im just now reading this in my email. I dont keep up and its old news by the time I read that my comment is usually not needed. Thanks for your work.

By: J

Sun, 23 Jun 2019 02:47:52 +0000

In reply to Alex.

Thanks! New Facebook group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/HHHMarriage/

By: Alex

Alex — Sat, 22 Jun 2019 02:06:27 +0000

Well I used to comment more, but have just gotten so busy. I’ve been reading your blog for a few years, and have started a whole new career in that time.
Also, I used to comment right after reading a post. Which I enjoyed doing regularly when I needed a break. I would just sit down and take a quick little break. BUT the kids can read now and love to look over my shoulder. LOL. And while we’re open with them and want them to feel comfortable talking to us and asking questions they don’t really need to know all the issues you help people with quite yet.
And sadly to be honest too, because my own personal issues haven’t gotten better. I love your blog and others similar to it. But I still have the same sexual issues. So it just gets frustrating. Plus I don’t want to bum out your other readers. Like if you post about helping women orgasm, I don’t want to be the poster that’s like almost 15 years of marrage and nothing yet. I think that would have made me cry if I’d read that myself at the beginning of our marriage.
So lots of reasons. None of them personal. I do miss your FB group, though I was definitely more of a lurker there. Here I can use a pseudoymn but there I was terrified someone I knew would also be on it. The men’s comments don’t bother me at all. Especially because you do a good job of filtering out the bad ones. So any thoughts on some other platform now that the FB group is gone? To be honest I’d prefer one I can keep my anonymity on.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Tue, 28 May 2019 04:06:44 +0000

In reply to J. Oh wow! I didn’t know you write fiction. Cool, I’ll have to have a look ? And thanks for the accent compliment ??

By: J

Thu, 23 May 2019 05:26:47 +0000

In reply to Jessa. Thanks for reading!

By: Jessa

Jessa — Thu, 23 May 2019 04:17:02 +0000

Hi J,
I have never commented before even though I am a frequent reader and often glance at what others say. I haven’t because I just usually don’t have a lot to add in online settings, in person it’s different and I do feel that my voice matters. I would think many other readers are in the same boat as me. Thanks for the blog, I love your style!

By: J

Tue, 21 May 2019 19:06:26 +0000

In reply to Misi. Thanks for reading!

By: Misi

Misi — Tue, 21 May 2019 18:30:04 +0000

In reply to Krysten T.

HHH is very insightful and helpful to me as I seek to understand the female perspective, which aids in conversing with my wife. It’s also helpful to my wife; she’s not alone in how she thinks and feels about sex.

I avoid responding because I think it’s most helpful if ladies have their own space. If I can listen and learn, that’s good enough for me.

So ladies, please continue on freely and safely. I’ll be in the corner…taking copious notes.