I am confident from the nature of your response that you have not read many of J’s posts. I have found that her posts are always well thought out, balanced and scripturally sound. The tone of your response here is condescending, ill informed and totally lacking in love. This does not reflect well on you as a pastor. I would hope that you take time to read her posts with an open mind. You may actually learn something even though she is “just” a woman. Then you should send J an apology because your response here is way off base.

Thank you! I appreciate the encouraging words. I try to give people the benefit of the doubt, as I’ve benefited so much when people take that attitude with me. (I’m sure I’ve gotten something wrong on this blog.) 🙂

Thank you!

Keep doing what you believe God has called you to. I admire not only your insight and clarity (no, we don’t always agree, and that’s ok!). but I super admire your tough skin. Reading what people have to say, seeking out where the truths may be, but then letting the negatives and anger roll off those waterproof feathers of yours. Thank you for so many grace filled responses.

And I will also add this – I am not in a desperate marriage. I have an amazing husband I love deeply. But I still seek out blogs and read articles that may improve our relationship or give us talking points or help me understand those around me. Thank you for what you do.

I prayed for you today.

“Dr. E knows men”…except he doesn’t represent all men. I’ve asked a fair number of them if certain statements reflect how they feel and heard back that they don’t. Yes, the respect thing is a big deal, and I supported that idea in this series. But I’m not “bashing his work” to suggest that some statements are problematic. Moreover, it’s not just wives who need to understand men, but men who also need to understand wives. So if certain statements comes across as highly offensive to women, wouldn’t husbands want to know that and adjust their explanations accordingly? Believe me, I don’t want to offend men (whom I generally think are pretty awesome), and I often advise wives to consider HOW they say something their husbands, because that matters.

Thanks.

You are presuming that if God cared, He would intervene in a particular way, and there’s not biblical support for that perspective. Because this world is broken and others have free will, sometimes we will experience bad things, but that doesn’t mean God does not care. As a loving Father, anything that hurts His child, He cares about.

God may be for me personally, but He’s not for my sex life. He doesn’t care whether I enjoy sex or not. Your experience tells you that He cares but mine tells me He doesn’t. We’ll have to agree to disagree on this point.