I entirely agree! I did not wait, and while God redeemed and brought about beauty and joy and holiness, we had obstacles to overcome that would have not been there but for our choices. Kudos to you!

Was it hard?

Yes.

Would I do it again and recommend it to my son? YES.

Still biblical to wait! So many more blessings come from waiting. if not… God wouldn’t have told us to do so.

He knows best!

I will be praying for you Straw. My husband is the same way and it can feel so very lonely. It may not mean much when things are bad but know that you aren’t alone, there are a lot of high drive wives out there.

Oh, this breaks my heart! It isn’t about comparing to others, but obviously you have had a difficult marriage, particularly when it comes to sex. I’m glad your husband is trying more now, and I pray that you experience a revival of intimacy. May God heal your heart. I’m saying a prayer for you right now. ♥

Tory interesting comments. But once a week and you are not happy?? Dear girl, I’m a HD wife and it was try once every 4 months by my 21 yr old LD husband!! I was devastated to say the least. I have very poor self esteem anyways. To me, I was “not very good at it”, extremely ugly and just plain awful as a wife. It has taken me literally 33 yrs to make some sort of peace about this. LD husband has never once explained why and won’t apologize or even talk about it. I have cried, prayed and sobbed to a counsellor more times then I care to remember about this situation. I keep trying to keep my marriage vows in the front of my mind but it has been a long hard slog. I would have been so keen on my LD husband being a “once a week” man especially when we were younger. It just kills me to write this but I guess some of us just aren’t cut out for marriage God’s way. Having said that LD husband is now trying to be more enthusiastic but I can’t help but think it’s too little too late. Best of luck to you tho.

That’s such nonsense.
There’s no conceivable way that even makes sense. It took me 18 months before I even had my first orgasm.

I like the anology in “Sheet music”. Apparently the man hands a couple a violin and tells them to play it. If they try, it comes out terrible, which is of course what everyone expected. He then asked if they expect to have amazing sex the first time they try in the light of the experience they just had.

Wow, what a great story to share! Thanks.

Regarding waiting till marriage, my 2 middle kids both waited until they were married before enjoy sex together. To take it a little bit further, my son kissed his wife for the first time on their wedding day! My eldest child? Not so sure and my youngest is still single.

I always believe there is hope, no matter the situation. My wife has always been the LDS is our marriage but we were determined to make our sex life work. Maybe I should say she was determined? She never denied me and I tried to never force her and we probably enjoyed sex 2-3 times a week. Because of our commitment to try and never let our drives become the focal point or reason why we were able to freely talk about our sex life. When we became separated because of covid-19 my wife decided to spend some time with the Lord to work out why and what regarding her low sex drive. She started reading blogs, she attended an online ladies course, she openly shared with me and together we journeyed how to navigate this long time of separation. My wife came to the conclusion that her major hurdle lay in her mind. She is a fiercely determined woman and so she embraced on a mission to love and embrace sex. The upshot of all this is that she now loves sex. I was able to take a repatriation flight to be with her (after nearly 3 months of separation!) and I can honestly say, she is a changed woman, a different woman. We actually decided to face the challenge of 100 days of sex and are currently completely our 17th. It’s been an incredible journey. We are learning so much about each other, our communication has increased exponentially as has our sense of intimacy and connectedness.

So J, sex lives can be turned around and my wife is living proof of that. I did NOT coerce her, force her, strongly encourage her or even hint to her that she should change. I simply sought to love her as she was. Now I’m loving what she is becoming! 😉