Comments on: What Husbands Long to Hear from Their Wives (In Their Own Words)

By: Amber

Amber — Mon, 11 Oct 2021 16:58:12 +0000

To add to the humor.....I came home from an OB appointment at 9 weeks to tell my hubby we were having triplets. He spent the next 3 hours outside trying to breathe, ending up in the ER over the next 6 months with anxiety attacks and on anxiety meds. It definitely wasn't a turn-on for him. However, now having a lot of friends in the infertility world being a triplet mom, I can definitely see how it possibly could be.

By: Chris

Chris — Sun, 27 Jun 2021 19:04:11 +0000

In reply to J. Glad to know that. I am very, very opinionated in some things, but I really don't want to offend. It can be tough in written words, when you don't have the voice inflections.

By: Eric

Eric — Sun, 27 Jun 2021 18:27:08 +0000

RE: food. I must be similar to Spock. Food doesn’t do anything for me. I could eat pretty much the same thing every breakfast, every lunch and every supper. As long as I stay alive, that is what food is for. I like your sign! I’ve heard another version (Julie S maybe??) “What I lack in the kitchen, I make up for in the bedroom!” More to my liking.

RE: support a hobby. She does that. And I appreciate it.

RE: have sex with me. Yep! I would love to hear any type of words like were suggested AND follow thru. As to the ‘huge penis’ type comment, that would do nothing for me. Like most men I’m sure, we know if we are huge or not. So for her to say that would be a little patronizing. I am comfortable being what God made me-average. Just for her to say during a sexual moment that she “loves my penis” (or better yet- ‘I love your ____!’) would be a HUGE turn on. She says nothing during sex.

RE: tell me you love me. Words aren’t my LL. But like you posted, I need to feel it and know it. Showing the love in ways that it impacts me deeply would be wonderful. I.e. Making time for us. Saying NO to some things that keep her extremely busy. Maybe reading HH&H (or similar blogs). Working on our sex life. etc….. It would make me feel loved in ways that she has no idea.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Sat, 26 Jun 2021 11:08:43 +0000

In reply to J. I think women as a generalization are more likely to 1. Follow your Facebook, Instagram, or Pintrest page and 2. Infinitely more likely to post on a public forum such as that.

By: J

Fri, 25 Jun 2021 18:59:49 +0000

In reply to Chris. I wasn't offended. Did I seem so? Sorry, Chris. I was just curious whether you thought men would say more if asked privately rather than on a public Facebook page. That's all.

By: Chris

Chris — Fri, 25 Jun 2021 18:44:34 +0000

In reply to J. Sorry, J. I guess I took that wrong. I can't speak for others, but I would definitely be open to an anonymous survey. I would never want to hurt my wife and am very protective of her, so I am always cautious about what I write here. You are always free to reach out to me via email if you want more detailed answers, since you have my email. I don't mind sharing honest thoughts with you.

By: J

Fri, 25 Jun 2021 16:29:29 +0000

In reply to Chris.

Oh, I agree. That was an attempt at humor.

One husband suggested that men would likely respond more in an anonymous survey, where they wouldn’t get called out for their honest answers. I’m curious whether you agree.

By: Chris

Chris — Fri, 25 Jun 2021 12:40:11 +0000

“I guess you gents are already hearing everything you want from your wives!” Sorry, but this is definitely not the reason for so few responses. Perhaps there is some husband somewhere to which this applies, but I don’t know of a single one. After 30 years of marriage, it still holds true. I’m not trying to be a downer, but just want to let you and your readers be realistic.

By: Terry

Terry — Thu, 24 Jun 2021 17:09:01 +0000

Here’s a shout out to all Brown Coats! Firefly (and sci-fi in general) is something we share, to the extent that one of us can quote this and other shows to fit a given occasion and the other knows exactly where the quote came from – and then we laugh at ourselves for being such geeks.

I would have thought “Give me some space” would also be among the requests as my understanding is men like to have the freedom to pursue interests independently of their wives, in addition to having us share in some of them. Nothing inappropriate of course but hobby clubs, bro-mances and general guy-time are necessary and healthy as men actually aren’t the lone-wolves and islands society expects them to be much of the time. My own husband doesn’t galavant much but he does attend the odd Lego (or AFOL – Adult Fan of Lego) club meeting (or did before Covid hit) and recently attended a drag race with his dad; and as he’s very attentive the rest of the time I’m happy to send him off to have some fun.

By: J

Thu, 24 Jun 2021 15:45:03 +0000

In reply to Kim. Oh yeah, that's an angle (infertility) I hadn't considered! How shortsighted of me. Thanks for that insight.