Good point! And I did talk a little about proper names here: Teach Your Kids the Correct Words for Body Parts

Well, I don’t know how to convince you, Chris, if you deny all the good research on this. It’s a common finding that married people are having more sex than singles. That doesn’t mean that all married couples are having more sex, just like it doesn’t mean all singles are having less sex. But overall, that’s true. At least I and others believe it, given both studies and anecdotal evidence.

Well, #9 is still statistically true, even if your own marriage (oh so sadly!) isn’t experiencing it. So that’s something you can still teach, as in “Want great sex? You’re more likely to get it in marriage!” No guarantees, but your odds are definitely improved. In addition, you can teach your kids to do smart things like learn about sexuality, discuss it with their future fiancé in appropriate ways, and—as best you can—choose someone who is humble enough to work through problems together.

As for #10, maybe the lesson those not getting the sex they and their marriage deserve can teach is that that they still desire their spouse after all those years. You might not (and probably shouldn’t) reveal how little sex is happening in your marriage, but you can convey that married people are supposed to have sex by how you view and talk about your own partner.

Hope that helps a little! And saying a prayer for you and and John and breakthroughs!

I ache with stories like this. I’m sorry you’re going through such an emotionally painful experience! But at the same time, I genuinely believe that if more people learned these lessons, they would enter marriage with an understanding of God’s design for sex. They would know that it’s a gift, and that it matters to a covenant relationship in Christ. By teaching these principles to our kids, we equip them to pursue something better in their lives than we experienced ourselves. Praying for you and your wisdom!

Thanks!

Second, and turning to the serious points in your article, you really have an excellent list. In fact, I am rather impressed. My wife and I wanted the same things to be understood by our (now adult) children. OK, maybe we would have been OK if they didn’t have a clue what happens behind locked doors … but definitely everything else. It is really important that kids know that sex is an awesome gift from God, one that comes with challenges, but one that can bring incredible closeness within the boundaries of marriage. We also told our kids that no subject was out of bounds. We wanted them to get information from us, so it was based in facts. Of course, kids still seek out information from other kids, but sometimes it works. Finally, we all make mistakes and violate God’s law, but there is always forgiveness, even if the consequences can’t be avoided. We can never mess up so badly that God cannot bring restoration. Again, excellent article.