Comments on: Why I’ve Always Hated “Boys Will Be Boys”

By: Tom Potter

Tom Potter — Mon, 05 Sep 2022 21:06:16 +0000

Men without chests. CS Lewis saw it coming.

By: Matthew

Matthew — Tue, 30 Aug 2022 21:53:22 +0000

Great post J! Thoughtfully argued and well written from a Biblical perspective. You're absolutely right about men being equally responsible as women. Like Dolly Parton said in one of her movies, the person who said "letting sleeping dogs lie" was a dog themself (same principle here). From one guy's perspective you hit the nail on the head! PS. I also hate the line "all men are pigs"

By: Josh

Josh — Sat, 27 Aug 2022 12:49:06 +0000

Makes me think of this:
“You see, what we have now is a world of uninitiated men. Partial men. Boys, mostly, walking around in men’s bodies, with men’s jobs and families, finances, and responsibilities. The passing on of masculinity was never completed, if it was begun at all. The boy was never taken through the process of masculine initiation. That’s why most of us are unfinished men.”

– John Eldredge

By: J

Tue, 16 Aug 2022 17:34:48 +0000

In reply to Mark. Well said. Thanks.

By: J

Tue, 16 Aug 2022 17:34:22 +0000

In reply to Chris. Thank you. This comment heartens me.

By: Chris

Chris — Tue, 16 Aug 2022 17:33:21 +0000

I will only address one point of your article. Yes, men can be tempted, but there is no excuse for giving into temptation. Yes, there is a lot of sites one can indulge with to feed that temptation. However, it really isn’t difficult to keep emotions and hotmones in check if boundaries are set early in temptation. If you are finding yourself thinking about sexual ideas, don’t go online while the house is empty. Attracted to someone at work or church? Don’t spend time with them out of the office, where those emotions can cause you to make excuses. Not married yet? Don’t sit behind closed doors with your girlfriend, but instead leave it open. God gives us boundaries in scripture for our protection. We can also set boundaries to protect ourselves and our wife / girlfriend.

By: Mark

Mark — Tue, 16 Aug 2022 17:07:52 +0000

Good read.

Though the sex drive can be extremely intoxicating for a teenage boy and most of his adult life, doesn’t give him a free pass to follow the “boys will be boys” ideology that justifies immoral behavior and trivialize the act of making love.

Much of society isn’t mentoring our youth to embrace intimate restraint but instead are nurturing the mindset of boys (and girls) with a locker room mentality by allowing a drug induced porn industry to cloud their minds and gossip media is championing a celebrity’s personal life (rolodex) of multiple partners.

Even before they reach the age of 13, much of our youth are fed to the lions when it comes to sex and are already surrounded by an unrealistic understanding of what it means to emotionally connect and exclusively be in love with our (adult) life partner.

The mentoring should come from parents, but with marriages either breaking down or parents aren’t paying enough attention to their kids and then witnessing their parents practicing toxic bickering, doesn’t help either.