Comments on: 4 Ways Sex Can Comfort in Crisis or Grief

By: J

Fri, 02 Feb 2024 19:54:29 +0000

In reply to Chris. My sincere condolences. Thanks for sharing this.

By: Chris

Chris — Fri, 02 Feb 2024 01:40:52 +0000

It has taken me a bit to respond again to this post. So much has happened since it came out. My amazing father passed unexpectedly on January 7th. I will admit, this Army Chief Warrant Officer (retired) still has leaking eyes even writing this. Intimacy changed for a while after my dad passed. It wasn’t that I didn’t desire it, there were just too many things to process, which evidently I am still processing. We have had some precious time together since and I find it even more of a treasure now than when my dad was alive. However, I know he loved Jesus, so I know he is celebrating today. Tomorrow would be my folks anniversary and he had scheduled the first ever anniversary card to be delivered to my amazing mom today. He didn’t know what an incredible impact that would have. Intimacy is somehow just that much sweeter knowing how short life really is.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Wed, 20 Dec 2023 17:29:58 +0000

In reply to J. Thank you. I really appreciate your comment.

By: J

Mon, 11 Dec 2023 19:11:24 +0000

In reply to Chris. My sincere condolences! That's rough. So glad that you were there for her.

By: Chris

Chris — Fri, 08 Dec 2023 05:00:00 +0000

My wife lost both her parents this year, within six months of each. Connecting intimately wasn’t easy with the circumstances, but it helped her through these difficult times. It not only continued to draw us closer together but reassured her that there was a certain type of stability in her life, a flawed husband that would continue to be with her throughout any of life’s challenges. I pray that is what you also experience as you go through a difficult challenge in your life. It can be a situation that draws you closer together.

By: J

Tue, 05 Dec 2023 16:04:35 +0000

In reply to Anonymous. Yes, it's a strange conundrum, in that the stress hormone cortisol lower sexual desire, but sex can (not always) lower cortisol. Also, if arousal and orgasm are not easily achieved, stress can be more stressful. Just depends on the person.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Tue, 05 Dec 2023 05:09:36 +0000

I have read that sex can reduce stress for some couples. However, for some couples, it can increase stress.

For me, I have experienced a reduction in stress. However, my wife says her stress levels go up, especially when she is in a state of grieving. In the past, when I initiated sex during a time grieving, she scolded me for being insensitive. I do honor her wishes but it does make me sad…