Love how much y’all are enjoying these golden years!

Up until about 5 years ago, when we were making love at least 4 or 5 times a week, we hardly kissed, but instead a lot of foreplay, OS and penetrative intimacy in multiple positions.

Now that both my spouse are in our 60’s, we are intimate about 2 times a week and find ourselves doing a lot more kissing, like when we first began kissing each other as teenagers.

The kissing builds enormous anticipation, I’ll kiss her behind her neck or her shoulder while she is washing the dishes as the heat of my breath gives her the chills and causes her to freeze. She’ll kiss me deeply with her magical lips, (sometimes to get me to shut up, lol) while I’m teasing and flirting with her, again like she was the teenager who used kissing potion lip gloss on a regular basis when we first met.

Because our energy levels aren’t the same, I need the kind of affection that enhance my own mental and physical arousal levels that a combination of her kissing followed by me lowering my tongue down to her intimate areas to taste her clitoris and her inner and outer lips as the scent of her sensual aroma sometimes is the only thing that triggers me to reach a full erection. Fortunately for her, she seems to appreciate how much of an affect of her natural scent has on me.

Her personal hygiene is also a major turn on, as we won’t do OS without showering an hour or two before hand.

I’m so sorry this has been your experience. I hope something changes, and he can hear your concerns and prioritize your pleasure.

Your wife is truly blessed that you will take time to help her to orgasm, and that you understand about the distance aspect of the clitoris and vagina during penetrative sex. My husband isn’t interested enough to learn about these things. He’s in a rush, is impatient and has a short attention span when it comes to my pleasure. Some husbands are like that.

Thanks for your encouragement. I’ve also heard that a gentle tugging or spreading of her lips down there by the husband can also feel pleasurable for the wife (in addition to pleasing her clitoris with the tongue). I would love to try this during deep kissing as that might get her wet enough for her to want me to go down “south”. I want to please her pink parts if she would only let me…maybe someday.

Oh, that’s rough! I’m so sorry it’s come to this. I continue to pray for more voices to speak into the lives of lower desire spouses to convince them that (1) sex in marriage matters, and (2) sex can be great for them too.

I hope she has discussed all this with the right healthcare providers. If it’s possible, it would be nice for her to have one!

Beautifully said.