Comments on: How to Bring Her to Orgasm

By: J

Wed, 25 Jun 2025 16:00:39 +0000

In reply to Clifford Wharton. I'm so sorry, for both of you. I wonder what made her so resistant. Oftentimes, it's trauma of some kind.

By: Clifford Wharton

Clifford Wharton — Wed, 25 Jun 2025 09:00:21 +0000

My wife actively resists any kind of activity which has any prospect of causing her (or me) to reach orgasm. Having any sort of ‘relationship’ requires not having sex in any form not even a long cuddle. Married 45 years. F67y M69y.

By: J

Sun, 22 Jun 2025 17:30:23 +0000

In reply to Anonymous.

That’s so sad. I just read study that concluded that some women with low desire are likely that way because sex isn’t orgasmic for them. They just don’t get as much pleasure out of it, so they don’t have a longing for it. It’s a cycle, though: less desire –> less interest in sex and orgasm –> less sex and orgasm –> less desire. I really do wish your wife could know and believe that sex was for her too and that it matters … and then pursue answers.

I and others will keep spreading that message, and perhaps someday it will break through. In the meantime, let God comfort you, as I know this is a real disappointment in your marriage.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Sun, 22 Jun 2025 03:09:48 +0000

I sure know about the orgasm gap. In our 45+ years of marriage, my wife has never been able to orgasm. She has had many health problems that have interfered with our sex life. However, she has told me that she will not talk to her doctors about it…she is too embarrassed. She also told me that achieving an orgasm is not important to her. She does have “pleasure” in our time together and that is okay with her. We just don’t have sex too often…