Comments on: Let’s Talk About Husbands’ Orgasms

By: J

Mon, 09 Nov 2026 17:30:30 +0000

In reply to Anonymous. Yeah, it certainly change (usually does) as men age. Still satisfying though, from what I understand.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Sun, 08 Nov 2026 03:56:05 +0000

I love how you used the term "explosion" to describe this because that's exactly what it is (or used to be, sigh). Now it's more of a trickle. I remember one of my greatest turn ons was when my spouse told me she liked watching me "explode" after a handjob. It means alot when your partner actually enjoys pleasuring you.

By: J

Mon, 02 Nov 2026 21:15:50 +0000

In reply to Joe. Good points! Thanks for commenting, Joe.

By: Joe

Joe — Mon, 02 Nov 2026 15:11:03 +0000

It’s really important that wives understand that a man’s mind can get in the way too. While the sight of a naked or partially dressed wifey is enough to fire up all systems, it’s just not that simple. Love making is very much about acceptance and giving. If it feels like the wife is not really interested and has only said yes out of obligation or to get it over with, it can be difficult to maintain arousal. While the lack of completion is frustrating, more so is the feeling of not really being wanted.

Another health issue for men is vascular, where they cannot reach or maintain erectness. While still capable of climaxing, doing so in a soft state is extremely unsatisfying and disheartening.

By: J

Sun, 18 Oct 2026 02:23:36 +0000

In reply to Clifford Wharton.

I suspect that second sentence isn’t entirely true … or you wouldn’t be reading this blog. I’m sorry it’s been so tough, though.

By: Clifford Wharton

Clifford Wharton — Sat, 10 Oct 2026 13:10:37 +0000

In reply to J. agreed, but our experience over 40+ years has been that talking about the 'elephant' causes more trouble than it is worth. Really I wish God had never invented sex.

By: J

Tue, 25 Aug 2026 21:14:17 +0000

In reply to Clifford Wharton. I'm so sorry you've been through this. It shouldn't be so hard to get answers! I do wonder, however, if not talking about the elephant in the room halts its impact. At least one of you likely isn't okay with the status quo. I wish I had a solution for y'all.

By: Clifford Wharton

Clifford Wharton — Tue, 25 Aug 2026 12:53:25 +0000

I am the husband who wrote to you about male orgasm. I have had any amount of advice and treatment from HCPs (blood tests and scans) none of which has made any difference at all.
My wife and I have also had lots of couple-counselling from Drs and Christian friends none of which has helped. In fact some of the Christian-based counselling has actually been damaging.
Having a reasonable marriage relationship for us depends on not having sex in any form. It is the elephant in the room, better not talked about. It just causes trouble between us.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Sat, 22 Aug 2026 02:27:13 +0000

My issues started about 1-2 years ago. I suspect that one of my medications for enlarged prostate gland is causing this. Since I am in a sexless marriage, I have not bothered to ask my doctor to change my medication. To be honest (and I know this is not a healthy attitude), I am glad to have this issue…it eases my emotional pain of a sexless marriage.