Sex in Marriage by God's Design

Making It Hot. Keeping It Holy. Embracing Its Humor.

Want Better Sex in Your Marriage?

While sex is a significant part of marriage, it’s not always easy to navigate or nurture. Hot, Holy & Humorous provides information, encouragement, and resources to help you experience the best sexual intimacy you can have—sex in marriage as God designed it to be. Take a look around, find resources that address your marriage’s needs, and begin improving your sex life today!

Introducing the Hot, Holy & Humorous Marriage Cruise!

One week at sea with marital intimacy workshops, private coaching with a licensed marriage therapist, and lots of opportunities to reconnect with your spouse! It’s a marriage conference, personalized help, and a romantic vacation all in one! Click the banner to learn more!


Books about sex from a Christian point of view that have been described as “practical,” “God-honoring,” “helpful,” “honest,” and “hilarious.” Learn more about how to have a great sex life by checking out J's books!


Learn, laugh, and take away practical tips for improving the sexual intimacy in your marriage. Many shy away from talking about sex, but J. Parker would love to speak boldly and biblically at your next event.


Over 1000 blog posts on topics from the Bible’s perspective of sex to romancing your spouse to specific sexual techniques, and more than 150 reader questions answered.


A support community for women with higher sexual interest than their husbands. We provide godly support, wisdom, and information to help you navigate a marriage in which you are the higher drive spouse.


Listen to Sex Chat for Christian Wives podcast co-hosted with three other marriage bloggers. We're godly girlfriends providing kitchen table talk about real and biblical sexuality, with episodes released every other week.


A podcast to help Christian husbands who want to better understand their wife sexually so they can know and love her more deeply. Hosted by J. Parker & Chris Taylor of Honeycomb & Spice.


“Brilliant and insightful every step of the way.”
“Lots of practical intimacy help for couples in all ages and stages of marriage.”
“This book is great! It is very helpful for married couples to understand God’s gift of intimacy.”

J. Parker started Hot, Holy & Humorous as a blog in 2009 with the goal of helping others understand God’s design for sex in marriage. Since then, she’s posted nearly 1,000 blog posts, written five books, released 70+ podcast episodes with three other marriage bloggers, and launched online communities for both husbands (with The Forgiven Wife) and for higher desire wives.

But her goal remains the same: helping you embrace God’s blessings for your marriage bed.

J holds an M.Ed. in Counseling and has extensive public speaking experience. She’s been married for 30 years, has two grown sons, and lives in Texas with her fabulous but oh-so logical husband, fondly nicknamed “Spock.”

"K," Wife

You demystified and comforted me about every aspect of this new sexual discovery....I have never read anything in a Christian viewpoint about sex that was so transparent.

"J," Wife

I'm so thankful for you and this site. Without it, many would not know what truly is available in the marriage bed (...or the marriage couch...or the marriage dining room table...)

"A," Wife

You have literally saved my marriage because you were open to the calling the Lord has on your life. I can't tell you how thankful I am for that.