My email inbox has been flooded with messages about Black Friday, Small Business Saturday, Cyber Monday, and Giving Tuesday. I have refrained from sending y’all any of those. Even though my publisher and marketing experts wish I had! I simply want to treat you the way I’d want to be treated.

As Luke 6:31 says, “Do to others as you would have them do to you.” And I don’t like being pummeled with emails that could summarized as GIMME $$$! That said, I appreciate learning about resources that could help me. So how do I balance those two impulses?

Just Because

First, let me share resources I have little to nothing to do with—no contribution, personal attachment, affiliation, etc.—that can enhance many marriages.

• Authentic Intimacy. If you want to know who’s speaking about sexual intimacy in a godly, practical way, this is a great resource. Dr. Juli Slattery and her team take on various sex topics with biblical grounding and compassion that address the complicated circumstances many Christians face. I encourage you to check out their books and Juil’s podcast. (I know Juli, but we’re not close.)
• Gottman Institute. Drs. John and Julie Gottman founded a relationship institute that focuses on what really matters for marriages to make it in the long run. John’s book, cowritten with Nan Silver, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, was a groundbreaking resource for couples to kick out the bad habits destroying their connection and adopt new patterns to build better marriages. While I don’t agree with all of the Gottman Institute’s values, their research-based resources are valuable.
• Boundaries. A fair number of questions I receive from stressed spouses could be answered by reading a Boundaries book by Henry Cloud and John Townsend. I started with the original, but Boundaries in Marriage might be the best resource for many husbands and wives to figure out when and how to draw some lines, stand up for that’s right and reasonable, and positively influence their spouse.

Affiliates I Believe In

Many times, I’ve been offered to promote products or services that would have made me more affiliate income, but I didn’t want to recommend them. I only send y’all to resources I’ve had a good experience with myself. With that in mind, here are a few of those.

• Married Dance. On their website, Married Dance invites visitors to “shop our carefully curated selection of sex toys for couples with confidence that your shopping experience is discreet and presented in a nudity-free, marriage-focused environment.” I really appreciate that marriage focus. Honestly, I don’t love every item on the site, but they carry quality brands, provide useful marital aids, and have top-notch customer service. If you’re looking for personal lubricant, sex toys, or supportive furniture/pillows, this is the place to go.
• Mentionables. Mentionables is a lingerie shop that has both sensual-classy and super-sexy items, all tastefully displayed. Their products can cost a little more, but they also wear well, meaning better value in the long run. Sizes range from XS to 3X.
• Everylove Intimates. This bimonthly date night subscription provides exclusive lingerie and sensual products delivered right to your home. I’ve been very impressed with how this is put together and the creativity of the intimate date nights.

My Inexpensive Options

For many of you, money is tight this year. (Maybe it is every year.) Yet, you want to do something a little extra for your spouse this Christmas that says, “I love being intimate with you.” Here are a few resources from my shop that convey that message.

• Marriage & Mistletoe Game ($2.99) — Spice up the holidays with an intimate board game! You and your spouse will enjoy unwrapping and savoring the gift of one another, as you follow the path to a mutual “win” in the bedroom.
• Christmas Gift Coupons for Him ($2.99) — Each Christmas-themed coupon features an affectionate or intimate activity and a companion scripture from Song of Songs. Perfect stocking stuffer for your husband that he can cash in any time of year!
• Christmas Gift Coupons for Her ($2.99) — Each Christmas-themed coupon features an affectionate or intimate activity and a companion scripture from Song of Songs. Perfect stocking stuffer for your wife that she can cash in any time of year!
• Just You and Me Christmas Gift Tags ($2.99) — Gift tags for those special gifts privately given between husband and wife! 10 to a page. 
• Hot, Holy, and Humorous: Sex in Marriage by God’s Design (Signed) ($5.00), available in contiguous US — God does not shy away from the subject of sex. Hot, Holy, and Humorous gives candid advice for wives from a foundation of faith with a splash of humor.
• Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations About Sex for Married Couples (Signed) ($9.99, now $5.00), available in contiguous US — This full conversation guide book helps couples to better communicate about sex in marriage and to put into practice habits that enhance their intimacy.
• Intimacy Revealed: 52 Devotions to Enhance Sex in Marriage (Signed) ($9.99, now $5.00), available in contiguous US — This devotional book helps wives better understand God’s design for sex and how to pursue healthy and holy sexuality. 
• Under the Mistletoe ($0.99) — Romantic holiday short story about a married couple.

My Latest Book

Published earlier this year, The Higher Desire Wife has been a passion project for me. But it hasn’t reached nearly enough wives! It was never my goal to make a lot of money with this book, but rather to get it into the hands of those women who would benefit from it.

If you are that higher wife, married to a higher desire wife, or know a higher desire wife, please consider getting this book. Only a handful of Christian resources exist for this group of wives, even though they represent about one-fourth of all marriages. I genuinely believe my book could help.

A husband always wants more sex than his wife, right? Many marriage resources make that assumption, but up to 25 percent of marriages have a higher desire wife! While these women are not alone, they may feel that way as standard sex advice doesn’t address their needs. They may even feel like there is something wrong with them or they should be ashamed of their high sex drive.

Author and speaker J. Parker has been there. In The Higher Desire Wife, she pairs extensive research and personal stories to help the higher desire wife nurture healthy and holy intimacy in her marriage. In these frank and compassionate pages, you’ll discover that you’re not alone and things can get better.

And be sure to check out our latest Sex Chat for Christian Wives episode with our annual gift guide! We feature items that enhance not only physical intimacy, but also intellectual/creative, emotional, and spiritual intimacy.

Disclosure of Material Connection: This post includes one or more affiliate links, meaning if you click on the link and purchase an item, I receive an affiliate commission at no additional cost to you.

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I’ve organized the ideas into categories, with gifts that:

• Enhance the Bedroom
• Raise the Romance
• Express Your Love
• Spice Up Your Sexiness
• Care for Your Body
• Create an Experience

Thus creating the ultimate gift list with nearly 100 ideas for your spouse and your marriage this holiday season!

Before we begin, I must tell you about the Best Gift on this list: the 2nd Annual Hot, Holy & Humorous Marriage Cruise! It’s happening again next fall. Click below to check out the details and see if 2024 is the year for a romantic vacation, couples’ retreat, and marriage conference all in one!

On to the list…

Many items below have affiliate links, but not all. And I do not suggest something just because I get a small commission. I recommend products I believe to be good.

Enhance the Bedroom

1. Tonight Not Tonight Reversible Pillowcase. Send a clear signal about lovemaking tonight with these pillowcases. Fun way to initiate sex!
2. Bed Canopy. Those always look so romantic and sexy in historical bedrooms, like you two are hiding away in your own private retreat.
3. Colored light bulbs. Low lighting can create a special mood. This is also a great way to lower the spotlight enough that you feel more comfortable baring it all for hubby.
4. Vinyl Wall Quote (“I am my beloved’s, and he is mine”). I love the idea of putting positive messages and scripture on our walls and found a wonderful Song of Song reference through Etsy. Wouldn’t it be nice to have a message like this in your bedroom?
5. Love Mop Premium Cotton Sex Towel. Keep one of these in your nightstand or nearby to clean up after the oh-so-worth-it messiness of physical intimacy.
6. Liberator Decor Fascinator Throw. The love mop towel above is great, but what can you use to protect your whole bed? Try one of these. It absorbs and it’s very comfortable to your skin.
7. Intimate Experience Date Night Box Subscription. Every Love Intimates has a subscription that includes lingerie, but also wonderful items for your bedroom. Tucked into my first box was a scented candle, a satin pillowcase, and other delights for your bedroom and beyond!

Raise the Romance

1. Love Tokens. Drop a wooden token with a message of love into your spouse’s bag, pocket, drawer, etc. Lovely way to remind your spouse how much they mean to you!
2. Romantic Tea or Java. A warm cup of something delicious can set the right romantic mood. Check out the 1001 Nights or Champagne Splashes tea from Lovare (based in Ukraine) or Fall in Love ground coffee.
3. Mistletoe. You can find real or fake mistletoe at a craft store, home improvement store, or basic retailer (like Target and Wal-Mart). You might want to make things even clearer by attaching a message like “Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth!” (Song of Songs 1:2).
4. A Vase and a Vow. If your wife loves getting flowers, how about giving her a customized vase and with a note vowing you’ll bring home flowers one day each month for the rest of the year? She can look forward to seeing what kind of flowers you bring home, anticipate which day you’ll surprise her with them, and enjoy the bloom and fragrance of a fresh bouquet.
5. Printable Roses. As of this writing, these are FREE. Yep, you print them out, make them, give them to your beloved. How romantic!
6. Printable Fortune Cookies. Another freebie! “A thrilling night is in your future,” other messages, and create-your-own. Your fortune is a good one with this gift!
7. Bacon Roses. In case that’s more your spouse’s style. Or try cake pop roses or even a sock bouquet.
8. Rose Petals. Buy roses from your local florist, but don’t leave them in the paper. Pull the flowers apart and scatter the petals on your bed as an invitation for special, intimate activity. You can even a leave a note citing, “Let my beloved come into his garden and taste its choice fruits” (Song of Songs 4:16).
9. Necklace with Personal Charm. Whatever interest, hobby, career, personality, etc. your wife has, there is a jewelry charm for that. You could also go a purely romantic route, like a heart or key-to-my-heart charm. Or perhaps write a personal note and give her a love letter necklace.
10. Wine Bottle Labels. If you both enjoy wine, how about some personalized labels for those bottles you share on a romantic evening? Using Song of Songs 1:1 (“Your love is more delightful than wine“), I created a sample wine label you can use. If you’re not into wine, these labels can be placed on other bottles, like iced tea or Frappuccino. Edit it to your taste, or simply replace “Husband” with your name and “Wife” with hers. (Click File, make a Copy, and you’ll get a document you can edit). The labels are best printed on 4 3/4″ X 3 1/2″ labels (Avery 22826).
11. Bucket List Pail. Purchase a metal pail and write on the outside something like “Our Bucket List,” then include strips of paper inside. You could write ideas yourself on some strips to get the process started or present the bucket as something you can fill together, with ideas that you brainstorm and jot down.
12. Love Potions Book. No, they aren’t really love potions, but rather home recipes for foods and oils that could enhance your sexual intimacy. Making Love Potions: 64 All-Natural Recipes for Irresistible Herbal Aphrodisiacs has wonderful illustrations, inspiring quotations (including a couple from the Bible, but other sources as well), and instructions for making aromatic drinks for stimulating mood, to sensual massage oils, to natural personal lubricants.
13. Aphrodisiac oils and perfumes. Our sense of smell is connected to the emotion center in our brain, and it’s this insight that has caused aromatherapy to really take hold in recent years. Some spouses detect a difference in how sensual they feel with the use of aromatic products like these.
14. Bakery treats. Grab a tasty treat from the bakery, with plans to eat it together in bed. Awakening your five senses can lead to an easier time for sexual arousal, so start with livening up your taste buds.
15. Chocolates. Hey, it’s a classic for a reason. Try a chocolate seller on Etsy or my favorite chocolate shop, Quintessential Chocolates in Fredericksburg, Texas.
16. Personalized Candy Bar Wrapper. Speaking of chocolate, you can create your own personalized candy bar wrapper. Use your names as shown or edit to include any romantic or passionate message you want, such as: For Your Mouth: This Chocolate & My Lips.

And there’s also my romantic (and a bit sexy) Christmas short story, for less than a buck!

Under the Mistletoe: A Christmas Short Story

$0.99

Author: J. Parker
Genre: Inspirational

Inspirational Short Story, 4000 words. It's Christmas Eve, and Grace still hasn't seen a present under the Christmas tree from her husband...

More info →

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Express Your Love

1. I Have Found the One I Love Pendant. One of my favorite Song of Songs sayings, which I’ve had on my bedroom wall as art! But you can gift it in jewelry too.
2. Married Is Great t-shirt. Marriage really is great, when done well. Go ahead and celebrate it with a t-shirt for one or both of you. I love mine! Married Is Great has several designs and hoodies as well!
3. Aqua Love Notes. How about taking a break from washing up to leave a love note for your beloved? Aqua Love Notes comes with waterproof pad and two colored pencils you can mount and use in the shower.
4. Personalized M&Ms.Pick your colors, type in your message, and choose your packaging to make personalized M&Ms candies. Be as romantic or suggestive as you want, though you should know that that there’s limited space and the My M&Ms website precludes certain “inappropriate” words, including the word “sex.”
5. Be-You-tiful Shirt. Let your wife know that she’s beautiful to you, inside and out, with a be-you-tiful shirt, like this one from Etsy that references Proverbs 31:25.
6. Customized notepads. My husband is forever looking for something to write on — notes for his list of to-dos, dimensions for something he’s building or buying furniture for, calculations for this-that-and-the-other . . .  If your spouse is the same, how about a functional notepad that also serves as a nice reminder of how much you love them? VistaPrint and Staples have several customizable designs.
7. Invisible Ink Pens. What a fun way to share private notes! Great to pair with notepads.
8. Love Letter. All this takes is a piece of paper, a pen or pencil, and a little creativity. But wouldn’t your spouse love to hear straight from you how much you love them? Or to read how committed you are to your future? How about something playful or passionate? I have tips for you here.
9. Prescription for Love. Save prescription bottles or purchase them at a local craft store or online, buy printable labels, make up your “Pharmacy” information and “prescription,” and fill the bottle with whatever you want. It could be candy, or strips of paper with romantic or sexual activities, or date night ideas to experience together. For example:

Spice Up Your Sexiness

1. Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations About Sex for Married Couples. Many couples have shared how this book helped them talk about sex more openly and positively, resolve bedroom issues, and pursue healthy and satisfying sex. It’s a non-pressure way to discuss intimacy with your spouse!
2. Ultimate Intimacy Marriage App. Bedroom games, conversation starters, sex tips, and more.
3. Lingerie. Looking for great lingerie with clean images for shopping? Try Honoring Intimates (discount code HOTHOLYHUMOROUS will get you 20% off!) or Mentionables. Both have beautiful and sexy options in a wide range of sizes.
4. Lingerie shop gift card. Alternatively, give your spouse a gift card for a lingerie shop and a promise to shop together. As you shop, he can explain what appeals to him, she can explain why she would or wouldn’t wear something (e.g., “That looks sexy, but the fabric is really scratchy”), and then choose something that makes you both feel valued.
5. Ready for Sex Signal. Looking for a unique way to give your lover the go-ahead for tonight? Why not use the bat signal? I suspect most hubbies would love to get this signal to step up their superhero power and rock their wife’s world tonight. Cape optional.
6. Spin the Bottle Game. The Dating Divas specialize in activities and games for your marriage. Check out this fun and sexy game you can put together yourself.
7. Sexy Picture of You. I’m not a big fan of taking extremely revealing pictures of yourself for your spouse. But a suggestive photo can be a lovely thing — reminding your spouse that you are uniquely there for their eyes and their touch while hinting at the real, three-dimensional thing you get to enjoy in your marriage. (Note: Not a good choice for those who’ve struggled with pornography. Use wisdom.)
8. Fun Socks. Did you know that people tend to climax more easily with their socks on? No, seriously. It was a surprise finding in sexual research. So, help your honey keep their feet warm and his marriage bed hot with some fun socks. I’m a fan of superhero socks in particular, maybe with a message about how your spouse is youre hero in bed?
9. Message Undies. You could go with a humorous message or image, like these boxers for men, or something a bit spicier, like these Christmas-themed panties for women.
10. Edible body paint. Feeling adventurous? Draw messages, designs, or pictures on one another’s bodies…and then enjoy the tasty treat when your masterpiece is finished.
11. Chocolate syrup and whipped cream. Need I explain what you can do with these? Just know that they even have reduced calorie and sugar-free options, so you can probably find something that works for you.
12. Personal lubricant. Even if you already have personal lubricant in your bedroom, you can use this opportunity to try something different. Some of my faves are Sliquid, Aloe Cadabra, and Jo’s flavored lubes, but many swear by coconut oil.
13. Board game. You can play the game straight, or you can suggest it playing Strip _____. Almost any board game can be adapted for a clothing-removal challenge that ends with both of you winning.
14. You. Probably the best thing you could wrap up for your spouse is yourself. Make a big, beautiful bow and place it on your body. Wear it over lingerie or just by itself. And then let hubby unwrap his favorite present. Because, after all, he has been a good boy this year, hasn’t he? Instructions can be found here.

You can also check out my sexy Christmas coupons!

Christmas Gift Coupons for Her

$2.99

Perfect stocking stuffer for your wife that she can cash in any time of year!

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Christmas Gift Coupons for Him

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Perfect stocking stuffer for your husband that he can cash in any time of year!

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Care for Your Body

1. Fresh Balls. This ball deodorant addresses sweaty and less-than-fragrant testicles. Hubby and wife will feel more comfortable getting busy when his manly parts are nice and fresh.
2. Sneaker Balls. Heading due south, you and your spouse might appreciate shoe deodorizers in the shape of balls—spheres, that is.
3. Bath and body products.
   • Bubble bath. You could include an invite to use it together. Shared bubble baths can be very intimate.
   • Gentleman’s Soak Bath Salt. Ladies aren’t the only ones who enjoy a good soak in the bath. These bath salts relax muscles and have a manly scent.
4. Manly Wet Wipes. If your guy doesn’t have time to do the whole shower thing, how about some manly wet wipes? And why do I suggest these specifically for men? Well, because studies show that our female noses are more sensitive than male ones so we’re more likely to pick up on body odor, even when the issue is mild.
5. Body groomer. For the manscapers out there, it’s a good idea to have something that works well for that sensitive area. The Norelco Bodygroom and MANSPOT Trimmer are highly rated.
6. Buck Naked Underwear. Not only is this brand fun to say, it’s moisture-wicking, meaning that your package stays fresher throughout the day. It also boasts: “No pinch, no stink, no sweat. Feels like you aren’t wearing any underwear at all.” Maybe it should have been named Commando Underwear!
7. Reusable heat packs. Of course, your mate is already hot, but a little heated massage is a lovely thing in the marital bedroom. Try some heat packs (also called hand warmers) to massage your beloved and get things heated up.
8. Package of gum or mints. Sometimes you’re not kissing because your or your spouse’s breath isn’t fresh. How about a package of gum or mints? (Buc-ee’s, by the way, is a well-known brand here in Texas.)
9. Hand-held Massager. Some are pronged for pressure points, some are roller balls, some have spikes, but a good massager can help you deliver a muscle-relaxing rub-down to your spouse without exhausting your own hands. After trying various ones, I’m a huge fan of the Theragun Mini.

Create an Experience

1. Intimate Playlist. Put together a playlist of tunes that get you in the mood. Choose your favorites or check out suggestions from my marital intimacy playlist.
2. Double Shower Head. Some of us married couples really enjoy sharing the shower with our mate! But if you’re like me, you didn’t get to design your perfect shower for two. Still, you can take your existing setup and turn it into a more inviting place to shower together. Add a note about how much you’re looking forward to that shower!
3. The Gift of Nothing. Remember this is an experience, meaning you give your spouse the gift of doing nothing. That is, a day or night or weekend with no obligations. No meals to cook, no children to watch, no laundry to wash, no groceries to buy, no work to complete, no alarm clocks to answer, no ________[fill in the blank]. Some men would like this gift, but a lot of women would adore this idea.
4. Date Nights for the Year. Purchase a jar or other container, come up with the date ideas, and pop them in. Life Hack has a good list to spark your creativity, and The Dating Divas has a Steamy Bucket List you could make as a gift.
5. Home Date Kit. Create the perfect date night for home with items you both enjoy. Start with a decorative box or basket. Add a restaurant gift card; a meal kit; or a gift card for UberEats, DoorDash, or Grubhub. Include items to create a romantic setting, like flameless candles, dinnerware, and cloth napkins folded into beautiful designs (if I can do it, you can too!). Choose an activity, like a board game, movie, conversation starters, or DIY project. Finish up with intimacy items—like specialty lube, a tasty treat, and/or sexy Christmas-themed undies (his/hers). Bonus: Add a love letter to your one-and-only, with specifics on why you treasure your beloved and would choose him/her again.
6. Adventure/Activity. Book that weekend trip, buy those tickets to a game or concert, make reservations for a couples cooking class or horseback riding, schedule a tour of your local museum or winery, plan a state park visit or beach outing.
7. Sex Schedule. What if your Christmas gift to your higher-drive spouse was next year’s calendar on which you’d marked days you committed to have sex? Maybe your idea is to choose one day of the week and make that your guaranteed, I’m-a-sure-thing promise. Simply take a calendar, decorate every Thursday (or whatever) with markers, stickers, glitter, etc. and encourage your spouse to hang it somewhere they can see it next year.
8. Double Hammock. Hammocks are very popular right now. But you know what’s more fun? You and your honey-bunny snuggling up together. All that close affection outside the bedroom certainly helps stoke the fires of romance inside the bedroom.
9. Couples Devotional Book. Did you know that couples who pray together have low divorce rates and report very satisfying sex lives? Becoming spiritually intimate is a great idea on its own, but it can also boost your sexual intimacy.

And when you’ve got your gift together, top it off with a spouse-centered Christmas gift tag!

Just You and Me Christmas Gift Tags

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Gift tags for those special gifts privately given between husband and wife! 10 to a page, with and without borders. For use with Avery 5163 shipping labels or equivalent, or simply print on other paper of your choice and cut out.

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Every year, I post some list of holiday gifts for your spouse—from sexy stocking stuffers to romantic experiences. Have I expended all of my ideas? Not yet, but it has gotten harder to come up with fresh ones! Which is why I’m adding a few more this time, but also providing a collection of prior posts that you can peruse to find fun ideas for your spouse and your marriage.

A Few New Gift Ideas

Open When Letters / Envelopes

Present your beloved with envelopes that say “Open When ____” on each and have a customized messages inside. I looked at several options, downloaded a couple, and ended up really liking this printable set from PrintyIllustrations that includes labels, cards, and envelopes if you need them, as well as inspiration for what to write in your messages. What a great way to encourage your spouse and express your love!

Weighted Blanket

These blankets have become rather popular in recent years. My son got one, and at first I thought it was just some whatever trend. But then I got underneath the weighted blanket, and ooooh, aaaah … I get it. A weighted blanket may be just what your spouse or your bed needs for you to have a good night’s sleep and some even better snuggling.

Check out the blanket here!

Split Blanket & Sheet Set

But what if your spouse keeps stealing your covers? Well, Uncommon Goods has you covered with a couple’s split blanket & sheet set. Who knew!

Sexy Christmas Cookies

It’s pretty amazing what you can find on Etsy, an online marketplace for vintage and handmade items. For instance, a cookie cutter set you can use to make both cookies and a clear invitation to have sex. In case you need a good sugar cookie recipe, try this one or this one.

Personalized Scented Candle

Have you heard of the idea of you or your spouse lighting a candle when you’re open to having sex? Well, you can buy candles that say that basic thing (“when this candle’s lit, then…”), but the verbiage is often crass. How about putting your own message on the candle? You could say something like: “When this candle is light, let’s get intimate” or “Time to Play” or “I Burn for You.” Come up with the right invitation for your marriage bed, along with some good aromas to get you both in the mood.

See the candle here.

Gift Ideas for Our Podcast

Be sure to check out our gift-themed episodes from Sex Chat for Christian Wives (links in show notes).

• Episode 120: Our Holiday Gift Guide – Sexy and Romantic Gifts for Couples
• Episode 96: 35 Gifts for Your Marriage
• Episode 72: The Ultimate Sexy Gift Guide

Where to Shop for Lingerie?

Check out MENTIONABLES.
Classy styles, model-free photos, pretty prices & inclusive sizing.

Visit the Online Store

And now for many ideas from prior posts…

Stocking Stuffers (for Hubbies)

• 10 Sexy Stocking Stuffers for Your Husband
• 10 Sexy, Manly Items for Your Hubby’s Christmas Stocking
• 10 Last-Minute Stocking Stuffers for Your Husband

Christmas Gifts for Your Beloved

• Wrap It Up For Hubby: 10 Christmas Gifts For Your Marriage Bed
• 5 Fresh Christmas Gift Ideas for Your Husband
• A Sleigh-ful of Gift Ideas for Your Spouse
• 5 (More) Christmas Gift Ideas for Your Husband
• 5 (More) Christmas Gift Ideas for Your Wife
• 6 Sex-themed Gift Baskets for Christmas

Valentine’s Gifts That Work for Christmas Too

• 8 Sweet Valentine’s Gifts for Your Spicy Wife
• 8 Cool Valentine’s Gifts for Your Hot Hubby
• “Go Big” Valentine’s Gifts for Your Spouse
• 5 Free Valentine’s Gifts for Your Spouse
• 7 Sexy Valentine’s Gifts You Can Make
• 13 Sexy Valentine’s Gifts From Your Grocery Store

Gifts for My Readers

• My Gift to You: Christmas Intimacy Playlist
• A Free Christmas Short Story for You! (the PDF is free, but ebook is $.99—still a bargain!)
• ‘Twas the Intimate Night Before Christmas: A Marriage Poem
• Marriage & Mistletoe: A Free, Downloadable Christmas Board Game for You

My Christmas-Themed Resources

A Great Gift Book for Your Sexual Intimacy

And a Quick Word about Giving Tuesday

Today is “Giving Tuesday,” a day designated to donate service and money to charitable causes. While I’m not a charity for tax purposes, I am incredibly thankful for the donations my ministry receives. Honestly, this last year I announced to my husband with ridiculous joy that my business made above the poverty level in 2020! And then, Uncle Sam took some of it. ~shrug~

My costs involve web hosting, stock photos, virtual assistant fees (and I’d use her more if I could afford to), a bit of marketing, office and shipping supplies, and resources (like books and courses) that keep me updated in my field. If you would like to defer my costs and help me cover my rent, I would greatly appreciate it. If you’d rather support another ministry, please go do so! There are a lot of good ones out that could use the funds.

Mentionables Ad photo credit: ©Klanneke

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For something different this year, how about pre-planned gift baskets, themed around sexual intimacy? You can give any of these to a spouse or a close friend.

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Wet & Wild

The shower is both a fun and a challenging place to have sex. And by sex, I mean the whole enchilada—not just intercourse, but sexual activities that work well in the shower. Here are some items you can throw into a shower sex basket:

• Gorilla Grip Bathtub Mat – for heaven’s sake, don’t slip and fall!
• Sliquid Silver Personal Lubricant – silicone-based lubricant that won’t wash off easily in the shower (less expensive alternative: Slippery Stuff)
• Kitsch Luxury Shower Cap for Women – or a more basic shower cap, for wives who don’t want to their hair wet/messed up
• Dual Locking Suction Handle Sex in the Shower Accessory – for “hanging on” while making love
• Luxury Hotel & Spa Hers and His Bath Towels – for soft clean-up afterward

Sex On-the-Go

Planning a trip over the holidays? Or having guests come to your home? How about a basket with items for sex while traveling?

• Sliquid Natural Lubes Sampler – sample-size lubricant, perfect for travel
• Lovely lingerie for her – unveil something new on the trip! At less than $10, why not?! Or let your recipient choose their own with an Honoring Intimates gift card.
• Compact White Noise & Other Sounds Machine – keep others from hearing the sounds of sex with some background noise
• Rael Feminine Wipes with Natural Ingredients – pH balanced wipes for easy clean-up
• And if anyone has the guts, this After Sex Towel is hilarious – see pic below

Oral Delights

Our mouths can kiss, lick, suck, and nibble, so why not a gift basket devoted to their sensual delights!

• Ultimate Personal Shaver Kit 2 – for trimming down there and a smoother experience
• Bodylicious Edible Body Pens 4 Pack – to let your tongue tour your beloved’s body
• Crotchless Panties for Her – for easy access, of course; in regular and plus-size
• Trustex Flavored Latex Oral Sex Condoms – for a tasty treat, without the mess
• Comfortably Numb Deep Throat Spray – to desensitize her and make fellatio more doable
• Nipple Nibblers Tingle Balm – lickable and heightens nipple sensitivity
• Grapefruit – for a little bonus, drop a grapefruit into the basket and see this post for instructions
• Listerine Ultraclean Oral Care Antiseptic Mouthwash – to rinse your mouth and throat afterward

Melt Me Massage

There’s nothing quite like a massage from your honey. But you need the right stuff to get going. Try these:

• Melt Couples Marriage Course – only $99 for lifetime access to video course
• Intimate Earth Heaven Aromatherapy Massage Oil – for a smooth massage
• Dona Massage Lotion – available in three different scents
• HoMedics Marbelous Mini Massager – small, vibrating body massager
• Hot to Go Reusable Heat Packs – add heat to your mate’s massage with hot packs in your palms

Santa Baby

No need for your baby to “slip a sable under the tree.” Instead, try these sexy Santa items for a holiday night of intimacy.

• Fur Trimmed Velvet Teddy – Mrs. Santa never looked quite like this before
• Sequin White Balls Pasties – nuh-uh, not explaining these
• Santa Claus Suit Boxers – something fun for him to wear
• Under the Mistletoe: A Christmas Short Story by J. Parker (that’s me!)
• Red Satin Love Mask – don’t peek at the presents! And enjoy your other senses more.
• Snowflake String Lights – ambiance for your bedroom
• Christmas Candle – a nice scent for atmosphere
• Ganz Mistletoe Door Kiss Ball – hang above your door frame or bed
• Adult Santa Hat – don’t forget the hat

Song of Songs Sensuality

And from the book of the Bible that encourages us to be more romantic, more intimate, more passionate…here’s some Song of Songs inspiration:

• I Have Found The One Whom My Soul Loves pillow or other home decor with Song of Solomon 3:4 – to set the mood
• Silky robe for her – tagged with a Song of Solomon verse by Honoring Intimates. “I have taken off my robe— must I put it on again?” (Song 5:3). Nope, take it off and enjoy sexual intimacy!
• Sex Position Cards – from Christian Friendly Sex Positions. “His left arm is under my head, and his right arm embraces me” (Song 2:6).
• Winter Romance CD Set – three discs with 60 classic Christmas love songs
• His or Hers Christmas Coupons – Song of Songs themed, from my website

And don’t forget, I have other resources, including my books!

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I haven’t done nearly as many posts with ideas for wives, but here’s a previous one for Christmas: What Does Your Wife Want for Christmas? And from Valentine’s posts: here and here. Here are my five more ideas:

1. Making Love Potions.

How about some home recipes for foods and oils that could enhance your sexual intimacy? Making Love Potions has wonderful illustrations, inspiring quotations (including a couple from the Bible, but other sources as well), and instructions for making aromatic drinks for stimulating mood, to sensual massage oils, to natural personal lubricants. If your wife enjoys cooking or being crafty, this could be a great choice for her to use her interests and skills in ways that benefit your marriage bed.

P.S. You men can also make these recipes, of course.

2. Aphrodisiac oils and perfumes.

Good Clean Love — and other companies, I’m sure — have a line of aphrodisiac products that includes essential oils, perfumes, and personal lubricant. Our sense of smell is definitely connected to the emotion center in our brain, and it’s this insight that has caused aromatherapy to really take hold in recent years. Some wives detect a difference in how sensual they feel with the use of aromatic products like these. Maybe your wife would enjoy them as well.

3. Comfortable Sleepwear.

I’ve advocated plenty for wearing lingerie and covered the why and how of getting lingerie in my book, Hot, Holy, and Humorous: Sex in Marriage by God’s Design (which is also a great gift). But when asked in my closed Facebook group what intimacy-related gift was my favorite, I answered that my husband once bought me sleepwear that was super-comfortable, but something that he enjoyed viewing me in. A few hubbies followed up with questions about what that means.

Well, some lingerie is so uncomfortable and/or revealing that many wives don’t want to wear it. Indeed, when I look through what counts as “sexy lingerie,” some items look more like contraptions than clothing. So why not get your wife something that feels really feels good and covers her, while still being suggestive or nice to look at. Here are some ideas:

• Camisole and shorts set
• Cotton or satin chemise
• Long, single-straps nightgown (wives: wear without panties)
• Pajama set in thin or sheer cotton
• Satin nightshirt

Your best bet for finding such items is a local department store.

4. Behind Closed Doors.

When I’m not writing about Christian sex and marriage, I’m often writing fiction. While I write some other mainstream stories (under a different name), my book, Behind Closed Doors, was a labor of love in which I joined my passion for godly sex with my joy of writing fiction. The genre is basically Christian romance, but specifically covers issues of sexual intimacy in marriage. Each of the five stories deals with a different challenge in gaining or maintaining hot and holy intimacy, but none of the “lessons” are hit-you-over-the-head. They’re just stories, which I think your wife would enjoy.

5. Bedroom budget.

I admit this one isn’t necessarily cheap. However, ambiance matters to many women, yet we tend to spend money on other stuff for the house more readily than our bedrooms. What if you just handed her an envelope with money or an IOU inside with the caveat that it must be spent on sprucing up the bedroom so that it’s a place you both want to be?

Let her redecorate with better sheets, nice pillows, soft lighting, and even word art, like I have in my bedroom:

Bless her with the opportunity to make the bedroom a place she wants to be … with you, of course.

What other ideas would you add to my list?

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