What should you get your beloved spouse for Christmas? For some of you, that’s an easy answer, and for others, it’s a challenge. Today, I want to provide:

• 10 fresh gift ideas
• A roundup of past posts with more than 80 gift and stocking stuffer ideas
• A short list of recommended places to shop
• A quick rundown of my own and others’ resources

Thus creating the ultimate gift list of well over 100 ideas for your spouse and your marriage this holiday season!

Many items have affiliate links, but not all. And I do not suggest something just because I get a small commission. I only recommend a product if I polygraph-proof think it’s a good idea.

10 Fresh Gift Ideas

1. Oh, Susannah Tonight Not Tonight Reversible Throw Pillow Case Cover Fits 18×18 Insert. Send a clear signal about lovemaking tonight with these pillow cases. Fun way to initiate sex!

2. Married Is Great t-shirt. Marriage really is great, when done well. Go ahead and celebrate it with a t-shirt for one or both of you. I love mine!

Married Is Great has several designs and hoodies as well!

3. Love Tokens – Set of 10. And begging the question: Why did I think of that? Love this tokens you can give your spouse to give back to you!

4. Love Mop Premium Cotton Sex Towel. Keep one of these in your nightstand or nearby to clean up after the oh-so-worth-it messiness of physical intimacy.

5. Intimately Us Marriage App. Bedroom games, conversation starters, sexy bucket list, and much more with this app. Put together by the creator of the Get Your Marriage On! event I spoke at a few years ago and Dr. Corey Allan, host of Sexy Marriage Radio who has guested here on my blog.

6. Printable Roses. As of this writing, these are FREE. Yep, you print them out, make them, give them to your beloved. How romantic!

7. Printable Fortune Cookies – Another freebie! “A thrilling night is in your future,” other messages, and create-your-own. Your fortune is a good one with this gift!

8. Liberator Decor Fascinator Throw. The love mop towel above is great, but what can you use to protect your whole bed? Try one of these. It absorbs and it’s very comfortable to your skin.

9. I Have Found the One I Love Pendant. One of my favorite Song of Songs sayings, which I have on my bedroom wall as art! But you can gift it in jewelry too.

10. Home Date Kit. In “Pandemic Year,” you can gift your beloved the perfect date night for home. Think about what you both enjoy and load it up with the right stuff for you two. Some ideas:

• Start with a decorative box or basket. (Locally, try a Tuesday Morning or Hobby Lobby.)
• Add a restaurant gift card; a meal kit; or a gift card for UberEats, DoorDash, or Grubhub.
• Include items to create a romantic setting, like flameless candles, dinnerware, and cloth napkins folded into beautiful designs (if I can do it, you can too!).
• Choose an activity, like a board game, movie, conversation starters, or DIY project.
• Finish up with intimacy items—like specialty lube, a tasty treat, and/or sexy Christmas-themed undies (his/hers).
• Big-time bonus: Write a love letter to your one-and-only, with specifics on why you treasure your beloved and would choose him/her again, and slip it into the basket. (You may want to add a tissue or two.)

Gift Idea Posts (with around 80+ options)

Below are my past gift-giving posts, including Christmas and Valentine’s, with links to various products, services, printables, and more. I cannot guarantee all links will work, because some posts are older and links sometimes change or disappear. But if you really like an idea, you might be able to do an online search and find it elsewhere.

• Wrap It Up For Hubby: 10 Christmas Gifts For Your Marriage Bed
• 10 Sexy Stocking Stuffers for Your Husband
• 8 Sweet Valentine’s Gifts for Your Spicy Wife
• 8 Cool Valentine’s Gifts for Your Hot Hubby
• 5 Fresh Christmas Gift Ideas for Your Husband
• A Sleigh-ful of Gift Ideas for Your Spouse
• 5 (More) Christmas Gift Ideas for Your Husband
• 5 (More) Christmas Gift Ideas for Your Wife
• “Go Big” Valentine’s Gifts for Your Spouse
• 10 Sexy, Manly Items for Your Hubby’s Christmas Stocking
• 5 Free Valentine’s Gifts for Your Spouse
• 7 Sexy Valentine’s Gifts You Can Make
• 13 Sexy Valentine’s Gifts From Your Grocery Store
• My Gift to You: Christmas Intimacy Playlist
• Favorite Books for Christmas Gifts
• 6 Sex-themed Gift Baskets for Christmas
• 10 Last-Minute Stocking Stuffers for Your Husband

Recommended Places to Shop

From time to time, I get asked where to shop for intimate things! Well, here are a few recommendations.

Married Dance. For marital aids/sex toys.

Honoring Intimates. For lingerie and lube.

Mentionables. Another quality lingerie site.

Dating Divas. For fun date-night ideas, games, and printables).

Faithful Counseling. For individual and couples counseling. To be fair, you don’t really “shop” for counseling, but Faithful Counseling is a site where clients can connect with faith-based counselors that match their needs and preferences. The biggest plug I can give here is to say that I tried it with regard a specific issue I was facing, and I had a fantastic experience. But if you don’t, you can easily request a different counselor.

My and Others’ Great Resources

Christmas Stuff in My Site Store

Webinars from Sex Chat for Christian Wives

Webinars from KHS (Knowing Her Sexually) Ministry

My Books

Christian Living

Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations About Sex for Married Couples

eBook: $5.99

Author: J. Parker
Genre: Christian Living

Yet couples often struggle to understand their spouse and discuss their sex life. Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations about Sex for Married Couples provides the right framework for productive communication on a myriad of issues and helps your marriage bed move from awkward to amazing!

More info →

Buy This Book Online

Hot, Holy, and Humorous: Sex in Marriage by God’s Design

5.00 (66% off retail!)

Author: J. Parker
Genre: Christian Living

Do you want to be a hottie in the bedroom without sacrificing holiness? How can you make the most of God’s gift of sexual intimacy in marriage? In Hot, Holy, and Humorous, author J. Parker gives candid advice for wives from a foundation of faith with a splash of humor.

BUY THE BOOK

More info →

Intimacy Revealed: 52 Devotions to Enhance Sex in Marriage

$9.99eBook: $2.99

Author: J. Parker
Genre: Christian Living

What does the Bible say about sexual intimacy? Quite a lot actually. From marriage-specific scriptures to biblical principles, Intimacy Revealed: 52 Devotions to Enhance Sex in Marriage guides Christian wives through weekly devotions that shed light on God’s gift of marital sex.

More info →

Buy This Book Online

Beatitudes in the Bedroom: Embracing the Blessings for Your Marriage Bed

eBook: $0.99

Author: J. Parker
Genre: Christian Living

Once we accept that God’s Word infuses every area of our lives, we can apply biblical principles from various passages even to such places as our marriage beds.

In this short book, bestselling Christian sex author, blogger, and podcaster J. Parker, of Hot, Holy & Humorous, walks you through each separate blessing from Matthew 5:3-10 and shows how Jesus’ Beatitudes are relevant to sexuality and marriage.

More info →

Buy This Book Online

Online Courses with Marriage Experts

Sex Seminar with Dating Divas. Nine experts, nine presentations, life-changing information for your sex life. I address When Your Drives Don’t Match. Usually $35, BUT ONLY $20 with my special URL (discount shows up at checkout and not before).

Online Marriage Retreat with Awesome Marriage. 24 presentations covering everything from improved communication to bedroom savvy. My offering is on 5 Steps to Better Sex. Regularly $49 but take 10% off with coupon code PARKER10 (enter code, click Apply, then continue checking out).

Side Hustles from My Assistant

In addition to working for me and a few other bloggers, my fantastic virtual assistant also runs a few home businesses. Feel free to shop through her, knowing that you’re putting money in the pocket of a stand-up Christian woman.

• Creative Memories Scrapbook & Craft Supplies
• Origami Owl Personalized Jewelry
• Lilla Rose Hair Accessories

Wrapping It Up!

Whew. That’s a lot of info! Have fun clicking and shopping. But stay tuned for a special treat I’ll have for my readers in a couple of weeks.

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Peace. Love. Joy. from Calm.Healthy.Sexy.

Gaye Christmus of Calm.Healthy.Sexy. recently released Peace. Love. Joy. – 75 Simple Ways to Take Care of Your Health, Happiness, and Marriage this Holiday Season. I love Gaye’s approach to creating a life that’s simpler, stronger, and sexier. Once again, she applies her practical approach to the holidays—with lots of wonderful tips on making this season the very best it can be!

12 Sexy Days of Christmas from The Dating Divas

For both the crafty and craft-challenged, like me, The Dating Divas has a lot of resources to add romance and spice to your marriage. I’m impressed with the depth of detail put into their products, and here’s one that could help keep your sex life zooming over the holidays. The 12 Sexy Days of Christmas printable pack includes a countdown organizer, customizable envelope covers, and customizable activity and gift tags.

Intimacy Mentoring from The Forgiven Wife

Chris Taylor of The Forgiven Wife is starting a new endeavor of providing intimacy mentoring to wives who’ve struggled to engage in or enjoy sexual intimacy in their marriage. She’s offering a range of services from a weekly encouragement email to weekly personal check-ins and monthly videoconferencing. Wives, this could be just the right gift for yourself and your marriage. (And a quick note to frustrated husbands: I understand your frustration, but your wife should be the one to sign up.)

On-Sale Lingerie from Honoring Intimates

Honoring Intimates, a Christian-based lingerie and marital aid store, has good, quality items at reasonable prices. And right now, they’re offering a fabulous deal of 35% off orders of $30 or more! The deal is good through December 22nd with the code CHRISTMAS. Check it out.

A Christmas Short Story from Me

A couple of years ago, I wrote a short story just for Christmas. Under the Mistletoe a quick read and absolutely free! I recommend not only that you read it but pass it along to another couple. Stories are a great way to ease a friend into thinking about how wonderful God created sex in marriage to be.

It’s Christmas Eve, and Grace still hasn’t seen a present under the Christmas tree from her husband. When Todd announces there is no present coming, she feels snubbed, not realizing that he’s got a different surprise planned. But is his gift what she really wants? Or even what she needs?

4000-word short story.

Amazon Kindle

And as promised, here are a lot of other Christmas gift idea posts through the years. (My apologies if any links do not work; sometimes a product or page goes away.)

• Love  & Sex Coupons for Christmas
• Favorite Books for Christmas
• What Does Your Wife Want for Christmas
• 10 Sexy, Manly Items for Your Hubby’s Christmas Stocking
• 10 Sexy Stocking Stuffers for Your Husband
• Top Marriage Book Picks for Christmas
• Wrap It Up for Hubby: 10 Christmas Gifts for Your Marriage Bed
• 5 Fresh Christmas Gift Ideas for Your Husband
• 5 (More) Christmas Gift Ideas for Your Husband
• 5 (More) Christmas Gift Ideas for Your Wife

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I haven’t done nearly as many posts with ideas for wives, but here’s a previous one for Christmas: What Does Your Wife Want for Christmas? And from Valentine’s posts: here and here. Here are my five more ideas:

1. Making Love Potions.

How about some home recipes for foods and oils that could enhance your sexual intimacy? Making Love Potions has wonderful illustrations, inspiring quotations (including a couple from the Bible, but other sources as well), and instructions for making aromatic drinks for stimulating mood, to sensual massage oils, to natural personal lubricants. If your wife enjoys cooking or being crafty, this could be a great choice for her to use her interests and skills in ways that benefit your marriage bed.

P.S. You men can also make these recipes, of course.

2. Aphrodisiac oils and perfumes.

Good Clean Love — and other companies, I’m sure — have a line of aphrodisiac products that includes essential oils, perfumes, and personal lubricant. Our sense of smell is definitely connected to the emotion center in our brain, and it’s this insight that has caused aromatherapy to really take hold in recent years. Some wives detect a difference in how sensual they feel with the use of aromatic products like these. Maybe your wife would enjoy them as well.

3. Comfortable Sleepwear.

I’ve advocated plenty for wearing lingerie and covered the why and how of getting lingerie in my book, Hot, Holy, and Humorous: Sex in Marriage by God’s Design (which is also a great gift). But when asked in my closed Facebook group what intimacy-related gift was my favorite, I answered that my husband once bought me sleepwear that was super-comfortable, but something that he enjoyed viewing me in. A few hubbies followed up with questions about what that means.

Well, some lingerie is so uncomfortable and/or revealing that many wives don’t want to wear it. Indeed, when I look through what counts as “sexy lingerie,” some items look more like contraptions than clothing. So why not get your wife something that feels really feels good and covers her, while still being suggestive or nice to look at. Here are some ideas:

• Camisole and shorts set
• Cotton or satin chemise
• Long, single-straps nightgown (wives: wear without panties)
• Pajama set in thin or sheer cotton
• Satin nightshirt

Your best bet for finding such items is a local department store.

4. Behind Closed Doors.

When I’m not writing about Christian sex and marriage, I’m often writing fiction. While I write some other mainstream stories (under a different name), my book, Behind Closed Doors, was a labor of love in which I joined my passion for godly sex with my joy of writing fiction. The genre is basically Christian romance, but specifically covers issues of sexual intimacy in marriage. Each of the five stories deals with a different challenge in gaining or maintaining hot and holy intimacy, but none of the “lessons” are hit-you-over-the-head. They’re just stories, which I think your wife would enjoy.

5. Bedroom budget.

I admit this one isn’t necessarily cheap. However, ambiance matters to many women, yet we tend to spend money on other stuff for the house more readily than our bedrooms. What if you just handed her an envelope with money or an IOU inside with the caveat that it must be spent on sprucing up the bedroom so that it’s a place you both want to be?

Let her redecorate with better sheets, nice pillows, soft lighting, and even word art, like I have in my bedroom:

Bless her with the opportunity to make the bedroom a place she wants to be … with you, of course.

What other ideas would you add to my list?

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It’s a day for even us natural pessimists to be Glass Half Full people.

And tomorrow begins the Wallet Half Empty season. Also known as Christmas!

For those who are already finished with their Christmas shopping, you probably don’t need to read any more of this post and we sorta don’t like you anyway. You give us a case of envy the size of our Thanksgiving turkey. (Just kidding.)

But for the rest of us — who start our shopping on Black Friday, Small Business Saturday, Cyber Monday, or any other cleverly named days inviting you to spend money — I wanted to give you a single place to access all of my gift ideas.

Following are posts in which I suggested specific items you can give your beloved which might just spark a little Christmas cheer in the marriage bed.

Note: Some of these posts were written a while ago, and if a link doesn’t work, it’s because that item or link is no longer available. Sorry!

10 Sexy, Manly Items for Your Hubby’s Christmas Stocking

Top Marriage Book Picks for Christmas

13 Sexy Valentine’s Gifts from Your Grocery Store (works for Christmas too!)

7 Sexy Valentine’s Gifts You Can Make

8 Cool Valentine’s Gifts for Your Hot Hubby

8 Sweet Valentine’s Gifts for Your Spicy Wife

Favorite Books for Christmas Gifts

Wrap It Up for Hubby: 10 Christmas Gifts for Your Marriage Bed

Love & Sex Coupons for Christmas

10 Sexy Stocking Stuffers for Your Husband

Of course, you could always pick up a copy of Hot, Holy, and Humorous: Sex in Marriage by God’s Design! It’s aimed at wives, but there are many tips couples can read about and give a try. Indeed, plenty of husbands would love it if you tuck that book under the tree, open it together on Christmas Eve, and then promise your hubby you’ll read the book and prioritize sexual intimacy in the coming year.

You probably have a friend or family member who could use this book as well. And you could even match it with a couple of other marriage books to show your support for their whole marriage.

Stay safe on the roads and in stores. And enjoy shopping this weekend, this season, or — for those who wait until the last-minute — Christmas Eve.

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This post is for the hubbies, but I sincerely hope wives will give their own suggestions in the comments!

1. Jewelry. Yes, it’s a cliché, but there’s also some truth to it. Even I like getting jewelry from my husband, and I’m not a big jewelry person (no pierced ears, the same two rings on my hands all the time, etc.). The challenge is finding something personal and that matches your wife’s style.

Is she a fan of big costume jewelry? Small meaningful charms? Colored stones? Gold, or sterling silver? Peek into her jewelry box. Watch what she wears. Consider her personality, interests, hobbies. Then seek out the right piece for her.

2. Personal care service/items. Whether it’s a day at the spa, a gift certificate for a massage or salon service, or a makeover, many wives enjoy getting personal care that makes them feel more beautiful. I know I feel more confident about myself and my body after leaving a massage or a pedicure. That personal attention and focus on one’s best features can remind you of your personal beauty — beauty you are then more willing to share with your husband.

If she doesn’t like going somewhere for that attention, how about bubble bath or crystals? A home pedicure set? Fancy skin care products? Find something that reminds her how beautiful you already think she is.

3. Night or weekend getaway. Schedule a hotel for a night or a resort stay for a weekend, or even a camp-out if that’s your style. (But know your wife, because I’d throw things at my husband if he tried to take this princess camping for a gift.) Line up any child and pet care needed. Create the gift certificate with your plan’s details and tuck it under the tree.

Now, be aware! This is supposed to be a romantic and relaxing weekend. So if your sweetheart is at her wit’s end caring for five young children, and you think getting a hotel means sex right away, that might feel more like a gift for you than her. I’m not saying you shouldn’t have sex! I’m simply saying that the best gift you could give an overworked, exhausted mom might be a full night’s sleep at the hotel . . . followed by breakfast in bed and, now that you’re both rested, attentive sexual intimacy.

4. Marriage book. Many wives love the idea of improving their marriage, making their relationship even better. So wrap up a marriage book and gift it to her. Or find one you can read together and put both of your names on it.

Ones on sexual intimacy I recommend include The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex by Sheila Gregoire, The Pursuit of Passion by Jeffrey Murphy and Julie Sibert, Sheet Music by Kevin Leman, and yeah, my own books: Sex Savvy: A Lovemaking Guide for Christian Wives and Intimacy Revealed: 52 Devotions to Enhance Sex in Marriage. But guys, you know I shoot straight with you: If you hand your sex-reluctant wife a Christian sex book with an attitude of “gimme more sex,” that will not be seen as a gift. If you choose to give her an intimacy resource, you might want to wrap up 1, 2, or even 3 books for yourself on marriage, romance, and meeting her emotional needs that you promise to read in the new year . . . and then do it.

5. Sleepwear. Notice that I did not say “lingerie.” Even though I’m a fan of lingerie and have even given husbands tips on this kind of shopping for their wives, consider getting your wife sleepwear or lounge wear that makes her feel truly pampered. Think luxury more than revealing.

Pay attention to the feel of the fabric, choosing something soft or silky or snuggly that will make her feel like a million bucks. Personally, I adore the swank nightgowns and peignoir sets of the 1930s and 1940s films I’ve watched. But by paying attention to what your wife likes, you can probably find something in that realm but more luxurious — whether it’s satin pajamas or a silky cotton nightgown. Splurge on something she can wear while sleeping or lounging and feel fabulous in.

Now it’s other wives’ turn! What would you love to get for Christmas from your husband?

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What does the Bible say about sexual intimacy?

Quite a lot actually. From marriage-specific scriptures to biblical principles, Intimacy Revealed: 52 Devotions to Enhance Sex in Marriage guides Christian wives through weekly devotions that shed light on God’s gift of marital sex.

Each week includes a Bible passage, application, questions, and a prayer. These short devotions will deepen your understanding of God’s design of sexuality and encourage you toward a holier, happier, and hotter marriage.

Purchase:
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Barnes & Noble for Nook
Print book

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