Every year, I post some list of holiday gifts for your spouse—from sexy stocking stuffers to romantic experiences. Have I expended all of my ideas? Not yet, but it has gotten harder to come up with fresh ones! Which is why I’m adding a few more this time, but also providing a collection of prior posts that you can peruse to find fun ideas for your spouse and your marriage.

A Few New Gift Ideas

Open When Letters / Envelopes

Present your beloved with envelopes that say “Open When ____” on each and have a customized messages inside. I looked at several options, downloaded a couple, and ended up really liking this printable set from PrintyIllustrations that includes labels, cards, and envelopes if you need them, as well as inspiration for what to write in your messages. What a great way to encourage your spouse and express your love!

Weighted Blanket

These blankets have become rather popular in recent years. My son got one, and at first I thought it was just some whatever trend. But then I got underneath the weighted blanket, and ooooh, aaaah … I get it. A weighted blanket may be just what your spouse or your bed needs for you to have a good night’s sleep and some even better snuggling.

Check out the blanket here!

Split Blanket & Sheet Set

But what if your spouse keeps stealing your covers? Well, Uncommon Goods has you covered with a couple’s split blanket & sheet set. Who knew!

Sexy Christmas Cookies

It’s pretty amazing what you can find on Etsy, an online marketplace for vintage and handmade items. For instance, a cookie cutter set you can use to make both cookies and a clear invitation to have sex. In case you need a good sugar cookie recipe, try this one or this one.

Personalized Scented Candle

Have you heard of the idea of you or your spouse lighting a candle when you’re open to having sex? Well, you can buy candles that say that basic thing (“when this candle’s lit, then…”), but the verbiage is often crass. How about putting your own message on the candle? You could say something like: “When this candle is light, let’s get intimate” or “Time to Play” or “I Burn for You.” Come up with the right invitation for your marriage bed, along with some good aromas to get you both in the mood.

See the candle here.

Gift Ideas for Our Podcast

Be sure to check out our gift-themed episodes from Sex Chat for Christian Wives (links in show notes).

• Episode 120: Our Holiday Gift Guide – Sexy and Romantic Gifts for Couples
• Episode 96: 35 Gifts for Your Marriage
• Episode 72: The Ultimate Sexy Gift Guide

Where to Shop for Lingerie?

Check out MENTIONABLES.
Classy styles, model-free photos, pretty prices & inclusive sizing.

Visit the Online Store

And now for many ideas from prior posts…

Stocking Stuffers (for Hubbies)

• 10 Sexy Stocking Stuffers for Your Husband
• 10 Sexy, Manly Items for Your Hubby’s Christmas Stocking
• 10 Last-Minute Stocking Stuffers for Your Husband

Christmas Gifts for Your Beloved

• Wrap It Up For Hubby: 10 Christmas Gifts For Your Marriage Bed
• 5 Fresh Christmas Gift Ideas for Your Husband
• A Sleigh-ful of Gift Ideas for Your Spouse
• 5 (More) Christmas Gift Ideas for Your Husband
• 5 (More) Christmas Gift Ideas for Your Wife
• 6 Sex-themed Gift Baskets for Christmas

Valentine’s Gifts That Work for Christmas Too

• 8 Sweet Valentine’s Gifts for Your Spicy Wife
• 8 Cool Valentine’s Gifts for Your Hot Hubby
• “Go Big” Valentine’s Gifts for Your Spouse
• 5 Free Valentine’s Gifts for Your Spouse
• 7 Sexy Valentine’s Gifts You Can Make
• 13 Sexy Valentine’s Gifts From Your Grocery Store

Gifts for My Readers

• My Gift to You: Christmas Intimacy Playlist
• A Free Christmas Short Story for You! (the PDF is free, but ebook is $.99—still a bargain!)
• ‘Twas the Intimate Night Before Christmas: A Marriage Poem
• Marriage & Mistletoe: A Free, Downloadable Christmas Board Game for You

My Christmas-Themed Resources

A Great Gift Book for Your Sexual Intimacy

And a Quick Word about Giving Tuesday

Today is “Giving Tuesday,” a day designated to donate service and money to charitable causes. While I’m not a charity for tax purposes, I am incredibly thankful for the donations my ministry receives. Honestly, this last year I announced to my husband with ridiculous joy that my business made above the poverty level in 2020! And then, Uncle Sam took some of it. ~shrug~

My costs involve web hosting, stock photos, virtual assistant fees (and I’d use her more if I could afford to), a bit of marketing, office and shipping supplies, and resources (like books and courses) that keep me updated in my field. If you would like to defer my costs and help me cover my rent, I would greatly appreciate it. If you’d rather support another ministry, please go do so! There are a lot of good ones out that could use the funds.

Mentionables Ad photo credit: ©Klanneke

The post Best (Sexy) Christmas Gifts for Your Spouse appeared first on Hot, Holy & Humorous.

What should you get your beloved spouse for Christmas? For some of you, that’s an easy answer, and for others, it’s a challenge. Today, I want to provide:

• 10 fresh gift ideas
• A roundup of past posts with more than 80 gift and stocking stuffer ideas
• A short list of recommended places to shop
• A quick rundown of my own and others’ resources

Thus creating the ultimate gift list of well over 100 ideas for your spouse and your marriage this holiday season!

Many items have affiliate links, but not all. And I do not suggest something just because I get a small commission. I only recommend a product if I polygraph-proof think it’s a good idea.

10 Fresh Gift Ideas

1. Oh, Susannah Tonight Not Tonight Reversible Throw Pillow Case Cover Fits 18×18 Insert. Send a clear signal about lovemaking tonight with these pillow cases. Fun way to initiate sex!

2. Married Is Great t-shirt. Marriage really is great, when done well. Go ahead and celebrate it with a t-shirt for one or both of you. I love mine!

Married Is Great has several designs and hoodies as well!

3. Love Tokens – Set of 10. And begging the question: Why did I think of that? Love this tokens you can give your spouse to give back to you!

4. Love Mop Premium Cotton Sex Towel. Keep one of these in your nightstand or nearby to clean up after the oh-so-worth-it messiness of physical intimacy.

5. Intimately Us Marriage App. Bedroom games, conversation starters, sexy bucket list, and much more with this app. Put together by the creator of the Get Your Marriage On! event I spoke at a few years ago and Dr. Corey Allan, host of Sexy Marriage Radio who has guested here on my blog.

6. Printable Roses. As of this writing, these are FREE. Yep, you print them out, make them, give them to your beloved. How romantic!

7. Printable Fortune Cookies – Another freebie! “A thrilling night is in your future,” other messages, and create-your-own. Your fortune is a good one with this gift!

8. Liberator Decor Fascinator Throw. The love mop towel above is great, but what can you use to protect your whole bed? Try one of these. It absorbs and it’s very comfortable to your skin.

9. I Have Found the One I Love Pendant. One of my favorite Song of Songs sayings, which I have on my bedroom wall as art! But you can gift it in jewelry too.

10. Home Date Kit. In “Pandemic Year,” you can gift your beloved the perfect date night for home. Think about what you both enjoy and load it up with the right stuff for you two. Some ideas:

• Start with a decorative box or basket. (Locally, try a Tuesday Morning or Hobby Lobby.)
• Add a restaurant gift card; a meal kit; or a gift card for UberEats, DoorDash, or Grubhub.
• Include items to create a romantic setting, like flameless candles, dinnerware, and cloth napkins folded into beautiful designs (if I can do it, you can too!).
• Choose an activity, like a board game, movie, conversation starters, or DIY project.
• Finish up with intimacy items—like specialty lube, a tasty treat, and/or sexy Christmas-themed undies (his/hers).
• Big-time bonus: Write a love letter to your one-and-only, with specifics on why you treasure your beloved and would choose him/her again, and slip it into the basket. (You may want to add a tissue or two.)

Gift Idea Posts (with around 80+ options)

Below are my past gift-giving posts, including Christmas and Valentine’s, with links to various products, services, printables, and more. I cannot guarantee all links will work, because some posts are older and links sometimes change or disappear. But if you really like an idea, you might be able to do an online search and find it elsewhere.

• Wrap It Up For Hubby: 10 Christmas Gifts For Your Marriage Bed
• 10 Sexy Stocking Stuffers for Your Husband
• 8 Sweet Valentine’s Gifts for Your Spicy Wife
• 8 Cool Valentine’s Gifts for Your Hot Hubby
• 5 Fresh Christmas Gift Ideas for Your Husband
• A Sleigh-ful of Gift Ideas for Your Spouse
• 5 (More) Christmas Gift Ideas for Your Husband
• 5 (More) Christmas Gift Ideas for Your Wife
• “Go Big” Valentine’s Gifts for Your Spouse
• 10 Sexy, Manly Items for Your Hubby’s Christmas Stocking
• 5 Free Valentine’s Gifts for Your Spouse
• 7 Sexy Valentine’s Gifts You Can Make
• 13 Sexy Valentine’s Gifts From Your Grocery Store
• My Gift to You: Christmas Intimacy Playlist
• Favorite Books for Christmas Gifts
• 6 Sex-themed Gift Baskets for Christmas
• 10 Last-Minute Stocking Stuffers for Your Husband

Recommended Places to Shop

From time to time, I get asked where to shop for intimate things! Well, here are a few recommendations.

Married Dance. For marital aids/sex toys.

Honoring Intimates. For lingerie and lube.

Mentionables. Another quality lingerie site.

Dating Divas. For fun date-night ideas, games, and printables).

Faithful Counseling. For individual and couples counseling. To be fair, you don’t really “shop” for counseling, but Faithful Counseling is a site where clients can connect with faith-based counselors that match their needs and preferences. The biggest plug I can give here is to say that I tried it with regard a specific issue I was facing, and I had a fantastic experience. But if you don’t, you can easily request a different counselor.

My and Others’ Great Resources

Christmas Stuff in My Site Store

Webinars from Sex Chat for Christian Wives

Webinars from KHS (Knowing Her Sexually) Ministry

My Books

Christian Living

Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations About Sex for Married Couples

eBook: $5.99

Author: J. Parker
Genre: Christian Living

Yet couples often struggle to understand their spouse and discuss their sex life. Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations about Sex for Married Couples provides the right framework for productive communication on a myriad of issues and helps your marriage bed move from awkward to amazing!

More info →

Buy This Book Online

Hot, Holy, and Humorous: Sex in Marriage by God’s Design

5.00 (66% off retail!)

Author: J. Parker
Genre: Christian Living

Do you want to be a hottie in the bedroom without sacrificing holiness? How can you make the most of God’s gift of sexual intimacy in marriage? In Hot, Holy, and Humorous, author J. Parker gives candid advice for wives from a foundation of faith with a splash of humor.

BUY THE BOOK

More info →

Intimacy Revealed: 52 Devotions to Enhance Sex in Marriage

$9.99eBook: $2.99

Author: J. Parker
Genre: Christian Living

What does the Bible say about sexual intimacy? Quite a lot actually. From marriage-specific scriptures to biblical principles, Intimacy Revealed: 52 Devotions to Enhance Sex in Marriage guides Christian wives through weekly devotions that shed light on God’s gift of marital sex.

More info →

Buy This Book Online

Beatitudes in the Bedroom: Embracing the Blessings for Your Marriage Bed

eBook: $0.99

Author: J. Parker
Genre: Christian Living

Once we accept that God’s Word infuses every area of our lives, we can apply biblical principles from various passages even to such places as our marriage beds.

In this short book, bestselling Christian sex author, blogger, and podcaster J. Parker, of Hot, Holy & Humorous, walks you through each separate blessing from Matthew 5:3-10 and shows how Jesus’ Beatitudes are relevant to sexuality and marriage.

More info →

Buy This Book Online

Online Courses with Marriage Experts

Sex Seminar with Dating Divas. Nine experts, nine presentations, life-changing information for your sex life. I address When Your Drives Don’t Match. Usually $35, BUT ONLY $20 with my special URL (discount shows up at checkout and not before).

Online Marriage Retreat with Awesome Marriage. 24 presentations covering everything from improved communication to bedroom savvy. My offering is on 5 Steps to Better Sex. Regularly $49 but take 10% off with coupon code PARKER10 (enter code, click Apply, then continue checking out).

Side Hustles from My Assistant

In addition to working for me and a few other bloggers, my fantastic virtual assistant also runs a few home businesses. Feel free to shop through her, knowing that you’re putting money in the pocket of a stand-up Christian woman.

• Creative Memories Scrapbook & Craft Supplies
• Origami Owl Personalized Jewelry
• Lilla Rose Hair Accessories

Wrapping It Up!

Whew. That’s a lot of info! Have fun clicking and shopping. But stay tuned for a special treat I’ll have for my readers in a couple of weeks.

The post The Ultimate Gift List for Married Couples, 2020 Edition appeared first on Hot, Holy & Humorous.

I’m planning to remedy that soon. But whether you drop these items in an actual stocking, in a gift box or bag, or just plop them onto his pillow on Christmas Eve, I’ve come up with a few more ideas. Not all of these are sex-related, but some are. (Click on the picture to open a link to the product.)

1. Secret Love Letters Invisible Ink Writing Set

I found this cute set in my local Barnes & Noble (where you might also find my book, by the way), at the front of the store. Ever wish you could write sexy notes to your guy without others — like your kids — seeing your words? This ink set allows you to write invisible messages that can then be read with a UV flashlight in the pen’s cap.

2. Package of Gum or Mints

Face it: Sometimes you’re not kissing him because he smells like barbecue potato chips or extra onions. How about a package of gum or mints to freshen his breath and make him particularly kissable?

3. Hand-held Massager

Target, Wal-Mart, Academy, and even your local grocery store should have options for a small hand-held massager. Some are pronged like this one for pressure points, some are roller balls, some have spikes. You’ll have to decide which version would be best for your husband, but a good massager can help you deliver a muscle-relaxing rub-down to your man.

4. Personalized Candy Bar

Thanks to Intimate Weddings website for editable and printable templates, as well as instructions to create your own personalized candy bar wrapper. You can use your names as shown here, or edit to include any romantic or passionate message you want. Like: For Your Mouth: This Chocolate & My Lips.

(And if you don’t like this idea or template, trust me — Pinterest has you covered. Just run a search and prepare to spend some time eyeballing all the choices.)

5. Sneaker Balls

Yes, I’m using the word balls on my blog without meaning “his jewels.” (Aren’t you proud?) These are shoe deodorizers in the shape of balls, and some of them even look like soccer balls or basketballs. You can easily find them at a sporting goods store, like Academy or Dick’s Sporting Goods.

6. Personal Lubricant

The above picture is simply to show you that there is no end to the number of choices in the personal lubricant market. Really? Did we need Boink n’ Oink Bacon Flavored Lubricant? (Although the website says it is paraben-free and kosher. Good to know.) Go online or hit your local store to find your favorite or something you haven’t tried before, then slip it into your husband’s stocking with the obvious message that you two will try it out later.

7. Superhero Underwear

Want to let your husband know he’s your superhero? How about putting it on his undies? I easily found briefs, boxers, and boxer briefs online and in stores with your choice of superheroes — Batman, Captain America, Superman, Hulk, etc. Or you could ride the wave and go with a Star Wars theme.

8. Dirty Dice

I’m not in love with the title of this dice, but they are effective. Essentially this game is played by rolling the dice and matching the instruction (lick, suck) to the body part (lips, ear). Amazon might be your best bet to get them in time for Christmas, but Married Dance (a Christian retailer) carries them as well and you can find knock-offs in various places too.

9. Mistletoe

Can’t miss the message if you give your sweetheart a sprig of mistletoe! You can find real or fake mistletoe at craft stores like Michael’s and Hobby Lobby, home improvement stores like Lowe’s and Home Depot, or basic retailers like Target and Wal-Mart. You might want to make things even clearer by attaching a message like “Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth!” Song of Songs 1:2.

10. Love Letter

All this takes is a piece of paper, a pen or pencil, and a little creativity. But wouldn’t your husband love to hear straight from you how much you love him? Or to read how committed you are to your future? How about something playful or passionate? I have tips for you here.

That’s it! Ten more ideas for your hubby’s stocking. Now go forth and finish up that last-minute shopping. I’ll be doing the same this week!

The post 10 Last-Minute Stocking Stuffers for Your Husband appeared first on Hot, Holy & Humorous.

As a matter of fact, I was feeling a bit tapped out last month, which prompted me to post this on Facebook:

And y’all gave me some great ideas! I’m going to cover them in categories (including a couple more I came up with myself).

1. Romantic Messages for Your Bedroom. Deuteronomy encourages us to write God’s commandments “on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates” (6:9). Because displaying important messages in front of our eyes on a daily basis practically guarantees we’ll remember their content and their importance.

Wouldn’t that also be true of your marriage? A few months ago, I finally put up wall art in our bedroom that looks like this:

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve read that message, and how often it makes me smile. It reminds me that I believe that and to believe that. How about a bedroom decor gift that celebrates your marital love or intimacy?

Gifts.com has a number of wall art options that can be personalized for a couple. Here are two of my favorites (click on the picture to find the item):

And Etsy.com features many shops that make beautiful wall art, including Song of Solomon themed options like these:

2. Date Nights for the Year. Just type that into the Pinterest search bar, and I bet you can find a gazillion ideas. But here’s how Hannah said it on my Facebook page:

I made a date jar for this Christmas. Hubby doesn’t like planning dates because, I’ll be honest, I can be moody and wishy washy. So I made him a date jar with different colored popsicle sticks. Each color represents how expensive that type of date would be so if we are broke he can still pick a date and “plan” it. Takes the stress off of him and gives me what I want, a date I didn’t have to plan. 

What a great idea, Hannah!

To help you get started, Oh Simple Joys provides a good list with DIY Date Night Jar (52 Almost Free Ideas), Freshly Married has an impressive master list of date night ideas, and The Dating Divas has a Steamy Bucket List you could make as a gift.

3. An Outside-the-Box Activity. I recently listened to an interview of clinical psychologist and marriage author Dr. Les Parrott on The Art of Manliness podcast, and he mentioned an amazing finding. Remember those fluttery feelings when you were first falling in love? Some of that is fueled by the novelty of getting to know your now-spouse, and after a while, that part of the romance seems to fade. Yet you can tap into that by doing novel activities as a couple. You get that same rush of excitement and it’s paired with your beloved when you do something fresh together, whether it’s exploring a new garden or skydiving from a plane.

So how about a gift that isn’t tangible but rather an experience? (Thanks to Ambrosia for this idea.) Book that weekend trip or last-minute cruise deal, buy those tickets to a game or concert, make reservations for a couples cooking class or horseback riding, schedule a tour of your local museum or winery, plan a state park visit or beach outing.

There are many creative ways to put your Date Night in a Box together. But just make sure your idea is something outside-the-box that will bring an opportunity to share new memories, engage in fresh conversation, and foster your friendship and romance.

4. A Celebration of His Manhood. Your man is different from you. Manlier. Of course. Sometimes we overlook the importance of celebrating our guy’s masculinity — his particular interests, hobbies, delights. What if your gift instead celebrated his manhood?

Here’s what Debbie said on my Facebook page:

What about gifts speaking to manly or womanly hearts? Just thinking out loud….I think by far my husbands favorite gift was the braveheart sword I got him one year…

Can you get more manly than a replica of William Wallace’s sword?

Or maybe an Indiana Jones whip.*

Now I don’t actually know what says to your particular husband, I celebrate the man you are, but I bet you could come up with some ideas. It could be a T-shirt with his favorite fantasy character or movie quote. It could be a crossbow and arrows with a gift certificate to an archery range. It could be tickets to an ice hockey game or a men’s worship conference. It could be the newest gadget that seems like a complete waste of time to you but that catches his eye every time you enter Best Buy.

And yes, I know those ideas sound somewhat stereotypical. It’s still true for a lot of husbands, but maybe your hubby’s masculinity comes out in his cooking and he’d appreciate a chef’s hat and new utensils. Or maybe your husband’s a history buff, and a subscription to WWII History magazine would bring him great joy.

You know your husband and what he likes. Give him something he wouldn’t expect you to buy for him, but that celebrates and shows your appreciation for his manhood.

5. A Sex Schedule. So this is for the wives whose husbands want sex fairly often. (I’ll address how higher-drive wives can use this information in a minute.) What if your Christmas gift to your higher-drive spouse was a 2017 calendar on which you’d marked days you committed to have sex?

Maybe your idea is to choose one day of the week and make that your guaranteed, I’m-a-sure-thing promise. So you’d simply take a calendar, decorate every Thursday (or whatever) with markers, stickers, glitter, etc. and encourage him to hang it somewhere he can see it the next year.

Or maybe you want to promise banner sex once a month, one time that will be more special in some way than the other times. You could select your weekend each month and then theme it, like:

January – Exploring Positions
February – New Location
March – Strip Tease Foreplay

…and so on. You can choose what you want to include, increase his (and your) anticipation, and share the commitment to try some new things for your marriage bed this next year. I suspect this gift would make most husbands smile.

Now to the higher-drive wives … can you use an idea like this? You can, but you’d likely have to change its focus. For lower-drive spouses, this could feel like a demand, and it’s better to issue invitations and flirtations. You might gift him a calendar with a note suggesting you together fill in the dates you’ve had sex throughout the year with the idea of celebrating your sexual intimacy. Sometimes tracking it will help you both see sex as a priority and help you know what’s really happening. You could give him the calendar and ask him to mark up when he would like to have sex. But remember, you don’t want this gift to become a point of contention. So if you think conflict is likely to arise, maybe skip this idea and focus on some of the other ones above that foster your relationship … which will hopefully lead to more sex.

That’s it! Five fresh Christmas gift ideas for your husband.

And what have I bought for my husband? Zilch, zero, nada. (And he’s probably reading this, so I need to get busy shopping.) Let’s come up with something great for our hubbies this Christmas!

The post 5 Fresh Christmas Gift Ideas for Your Husband appeared first on Hot, Holy & Humorous.

It’s a day for even us natural pessimists to be Glass Half Full people.

And tomorrow begins the Wallet Half Empty season. Also known as Christmas!

For those who are already finished with their Christmas shopping, you probably don’t need to read any more of this post and we sorta don’t like you anyway. You give us a case of envy the size of our Thanksgiving turkey. (Just kidding.)

But for the rest of us — who start our shopping on Black Friday, Small Business Saturday, Cyber Monday, or any other cleverly named days inviting you to spend money — I wanted to give you a single place to access all of my gift ideas.

Following are posts in which I suggested specific items you can give your beloved which might just spark a little Christmas cheer in the marriage bed.

Note: Some of these posts were written a while ago, and if a link doesn’t work, it’s because that item or link is no longer available. Sorry!

10 Sexy, Manly Items for Your Hubby’s Christmas Stocking

Top Marriage Book Picks for Christmas

13 Sexy Valentine’s Gifts from Your Grocery Store (works for Christmas too!)

7 Sexy Valentine’s Gifts You Can Make

8 Cool Valentine’s Gifts for Your Hot Hubby

8 Sweet Valentine’s Gifts for Your Spicy Wife

Favorite Books for Christmas Gifts

Wrap It Up for Hubby: 10 Christmas Gifts for Your Marriage Bed

Love & Sex Coupons for Christmas

10 Sexy Stocking Stuffers for Your Husband

Of course, you could always pick up a copy of Hot, Holy, and Humorous: Sex in Marriage by God’s Design! It’s aimed at wives, but there are many tips couples can read about and give a try. Indeed, plenty of husbands would love it if you tuck that book under the tree, open it together on Christmas Eve, and then promise your hubby you’ll read the book and prioritize sexual intimacy in the coming year.

You probably have a friend or family member who could use this book as well. And you could even match it with a couple of other marriage books to show your support for their whole marriage.

Stay safe on the roads and in stores. And enjoy shopping this weekend, this season, or — for those who wait until the last-minute — Christmas Eve.

A FEW MORE DAYS LEFT FOR MY NOVEMBER GIVEAWAY! CLICK THE BANNER BELOW FOR MORE INFO.

The post A Sleigh-ful of Gift Ideas for Your Spouse appeared first on Hot, Holy & Humorous.