I’ve organized the ideas into categories, with gifts that:

• Enhance the Bedroom
• Raise the Romance
• Express Your Love
• Spice Up Your Sexiness
• Care for Your Body
• Create an Experience

Thus creating the ultimate gift list with nearly 100 ideas for your spouse and your marriage this holiday season!

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On to the list…

Many items below have affiliate links, but not all. And I do not suggest something just because I get a small commission. I recommend products I believe to be good.

Enhance the Bedroom

1. Tonight Not Tonight Reversible Pillowcase. Send a clear signal about lovemaking tonight with these pillowcases. Fun way to initiate sex!
2. Bed Canopy. Those always look so romantic and sexy in historical bedrooms, like you two are hiding away in your own private retreat.
3. Colored light bulbs. Low lighting can create a special mood. This is also a great way to lower the spotlight enough that you feel more comfortable baring it all for hubby.
4. Vinyl Wall Quote (“I am my beloved’s, and he is mine”). I love the idea of putting positive messages and scripture on our walls and found a wonderful Song of Song reference through Etsy. Wouldn’t it be nice to have a message like this in your bedroom?
5. Love Mop Premium Cotton Sex Towel. Keep one of these in your nightstand or nearby to clean up after the oh-so-worth-it messiness of physical intimacy.
6. Liberator Decor Fascinator Throw. The love mop towel above is great, but what can you use to protect your whole bed? Try one of these. It absorbs and it’s very comfortable to your skin.
7. Intimate Experience Date Night Box Subscription. Every Love Intimates has a subscription that includes lingerie, but also wonderful items for your bedroom. Tucked into my first box was a scented candle, a satin pillowcase, and other delights for your bedroom and beyond!

Raise the Romance

1. Love Tokens. Drop a wooden token with a message of love into your spouse’s bag, pocket, drawer, etc. Lovely way to remind your spouse how much they mean to you!
2. Romantic Tea or Java. A warm cup of something delicious can set the right romantic mood. Check out the 1001 Nights or Champagne Splashes tea from Lovare (based in Ukraine) or Fall in Love ground coffee.
3. Mistletoe. You can find real or fake mistletoe at a craft store, home improvement store, or basic retailer (like Target and Wal-Mart). You might want to make things even clearer by attaching a message like “Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth!” (Song of Songs 1:2).
4. A Vase and a Vow. If your wife loves getting flowers, how about giving her a customized vase and with a note vowing you’ll bring home flowers one day each month for the rest of the year? She can look forward to seeing what kind of flowers you bring home, anticipate which day you’ll surprise her with them, and enjoy the bloom and fragrance of a fresh bouquet.
5. Printable Roses. As of this writing, these are FREE. Yep, you print them out, make them, give them to your beloved. How romantic!
6. Printable Fortune Cookies. Another freebie! “A thrilling night is in your future,” other messages, and create-your-own. Your fortune is a good one with this gift!
7. Bacon Roses. In case that’s more your spouse’s style. Or try cake pop roses or even a sock bouquet.
8. Rose Petals. Buy roses from your local florist, but don’t leave them in the paper. Pull the flowers apart and scatter the petals on your bed as an invitation for special, intimate activity. You can even a leave a note citing, “Let my beloved come into his garden and taste its choice fruits” (Song of Songs 4:16).
9. Necklace with Personal Charm. Whatever interest, hobby, career, personality, etc. your wife has, there is a jewelry charm for that. You could also go a purely romantic route, like a heart or key-to-my-heart charm. Or perhaps write a personal note and give her a love letter necklace.
10. Wine Bottle Labels. If you both enjoy wine, how about some personalized labels for those bottles you share on a romantic evening? Using Song of Songs 1:1 (“Your love is more delightful than wine“), I created a sample wine label you can use. If you’re not into wine, these labels can be placed on other bottles, like iced tea or Frappuccino. Edit it to your taste, or simply replace “Husband” with your name and “Wife” with hers. (Click File, make a Copy, and you’ll get a document you can edit). The labels are best printed on 4 3/4″ X 3 1/2″ labels (Avery 22826).
11. Bucket List Pail. Purchase a metal pail and write on the outside something like “Our Bucket List,” then include strips of paper inside. You could write ideas yourself on some strips to get the process started or present the bucket as something you can fill together, with ideas that you brainstorm and jot down.
12. Love Potions Book. No, they aren’t really love potions, but rather home recipes for foods and oils that could enhance your sexual intimacy. Making Love Potions: 64 All-Natural Recipes for Irresistible Herbal Aphrodisiacs has wonderful illustrations, inspiring quotations (including a couple from the Bible, but other sources as well), and instructions for making aromatic drinks for stimulating mood, to sensual massage oils, to natural personal lubricants.
13. Aphrodisiac oils and perfumes. Our sense of smell is connected to the emotion center in our brain, and it’s this insight that has caused aromatherapy to really take hold in recent years. Some spouses detect a difference in how sensual they feel with the use of aromatic products like these.
14. Bakery treats. Grab a tasty treat from the bakery, with plans to eat it together in bed. Awakening your five senses can lead to an easier time for sexual arousal, so start with livening up your taste buds.
15. Chocolates. Hey, it’s a classic for a reason. Try a chocolate seller on Etsy or my favorite chocolate shop, Quintessential Chocolates in Fredericksburg, Texas.
16. Personalized Candy Bar Wrapper. Speaking of chocolate, you can create your own personalized candy bar wrapper. Use your names as shown or edit to include any romantic or passionate message you want, such as: For Your Mouth: This Chocolate & My Lips.

And there’s also my romantic (and a bit sexy) Christmas short story, for less than a buck!

Under the Mistletoe: A Christmas Short Story

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Express Your Love

1. I Have Found the One I Love Pendant. One of my favorite Song of Songs sayings, which I’ve had on my bedroom wall as art! But you can gift it in jewelry too.
2. Married Is Great t-shirt. Marriage really is great, when done well. Go ahead and celebrate it with a t-shirt for one or both of you. I love mine! Married Is Great has several designs and hoodies as well!
3. Aqua Love Notes. How about taking a break from washing up to leave a love note for your beloved? Aqua Love Notes comes with waterproof pad and two colored pencils you can mount and use in the shower.
4. Personalized M&Ms.Pick your colors, type in your message, and choose your packaging to make personalized M&Ms candies. Be as romantic or suggestive as you want, though you should know that that there’s limited space and the My M&Ms website precludes certain “inappropriate” words, including the word “sex.”
5. Be-You-tiful Shirt. Let your wife know that she’s beautiful to you, inside and out, with a be-you-tiful shirt, like this one from Etsy that references Proverbs 31:25.
6. Customized notepads. My husband is forever looking for something to write on — notes for his list of to-dos, dimensions for something he’s building or buying furniture for, calculations for this-that-and-the-other . . .  If your spouse is the same, how about a functional notepad that also serves as a nice reminder of how much you love them? VistaPrint and Staples have several customizable designs.
7. Invisible Ink Pens. What a fun way to share private notes! Great to pair with notepads.
8. Love Letter. All this takes is a piece of paper, a pen or pencil, and a little creativity. But wouldn’t your spouse love to hear straight from you how much you love them? Or to read how committed you are to your future? How about something playful or passionate? I have tips for you here.
9. Prescription for Love. Save prescription bottles or purchase them at a local craft store or online, buy printable labels, make up your “Pharmacy” information and “prescription,” and fill the bottle with whatever you want. It could be candy, or strips of paper with romantic or sexual activities, or date night ideas to experience together. For example:

Spice Up Your Sexiness

1. Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations About Sex for Married Couples. Many couples have shared how this book helped them talk about sex more openly and positively, resolve bedroom issues, and pursue healthy and satisfying sex. It’s a non-pressure way to discuss intimacy with your spouse!
2. Ultimate Intimacy Marriage App. Bedroom games, conversation starters, sex tips, and more.
3. Lingerie. Looking for great lingerie with clean images for shopping? Try Honoring Intimates (discount code HOTHOLYHUMOROUS will get you 20% off!) or Mentionables. Both have beautiful and sexy options in a wide range of sizes.
4. Lingerie shop gift card. Alternatively, give your spouse a gift card for a lingerie shop and a promise to shop together. As you shop, he can explain what appeals to him, she can explain why she would or wouldn’t wear something (e.g., “That looks sexy, but the fabric is really scratchy”), and then choose something that makes you both feel valued.
5. Ready for Sex Signal. Looking for a unique way to give your lover the go-ahead for tonight? Why not use the bat signal? I suspect most hubbies would love to get this signal to step up their superhero power and rock their wife’s world tonight. Cape optional.
6. Spin the Bottle Game. The Dating Divas specialize in activities and games for your marriage. Check out this fun and sexy game you can put together yourself.
7. Sexy Picture of You. I’m not a big fan of taking extremely revealing pictures of yourself for your spouse. But a suggestive photo can be a lovely thing — reminding your spouse that you are uniquely there for their eyes and their touch while hinting at the real, three-dimensional thing you get to enjoy in your marriage. (Note: Not a good choice for those who’ve struggled with pornography. Use wisdom.)
8. Fun Socks. Did you know that people tend to climax more easily with their socks on? No, seriously. It was a surprise finding in sexual research. So, help your honey keep their feet warm and his marriage bed hot with some fun socks. I’m a fan of superhero socks in particular, maybe with a message about how your spouse is youre hero in bed?
9. Message Undies. You could go with a humorous message or image, like these boxers for men, or something a bit spicier, like these Christmas-themed panties for women.
10. Edible body paint. Feeling adventurous? Draw messages, designs, or pictures on one another’s bodies…and then enjoy the tasty treat when your masterpiece is finished.
11. Chocolate syrup and whipped cream. Need I explain what you can do with these? Just know that they even have reduced calorie and sugar-free options, so you can probably find something that works for you.
12. Personal lubricant. Even if you already have personal lubricant in your bedroom, you can use this opportunity to try something different. Some of my faves are Sliquid, Aloe Cadabra, and Jo’s flavored lubes, but many swear by coconut oil.
13. Board game. You can play the game straight, or you can suggest it playing Strip _____. Almost any board game can be adapted for a clothing-removal challenge that ends with both of you winning.
14. You. Probably the best thing you could wrap up for your spouse is yourself. Make a big, beautiful bow and place it on your body. Wear it over lingerie or just by itself. And then let hubby unwrap his favorite present. Because, after all, he has been a good boy this year, hasn’t he? Instructions can be found here.

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Care for Your Body

1. Fresh Balls. This ball deodorant addresses sweaty and less-than-fragrant testicles. Hubby and wife will feel more comfortable getting busy when his manly parts are nice and fresh.
2. Sneaker Balls. Heading due south, you and your spouse might appreciate shoe deodorizers in the shape of balls—spheres, that is.
3. Bath and body products.
   • Bubble bath. You could include an invite to use it together. Shared bubble baths can be very intimate.
   • Gentleman’s Soak Bath Salt. Ladies aren’t the only ones who enjoy a good soak in the bath. These bath salts relax muscles and have a manly scent.
4. Manly Wet Wipes. If your guy doesn’t have time to do the whole shower thing, how about some manly wet wipes? And why do I suggest these specifically for men? Well, because studies show that our female noses are more sensitive than male ones so we’re more likely to pick up on body odor, even when the issue is mild.
5. Body groomer. For the manscapers out there, it’s a good idea to have something that works well for that sensitive area. The Norelco Bodygroom and MANSPOT Trimmer are highly rated.
6. Buck Naked Underwear. Not only is this brand fun to say, it’s moisture-wicking, meaning that your package stays fresher throughout the day. It also boasts: “No pinch, no stink, no sweat. Feels like you aren’t wearing any underwear at all.” Maybe it should have been named Commando Underwear!
7. Reusable heat packs. Of course, your mate is already hot, but a little heated massage is a lovely thing in the marital bedroom. Try some heat packs (also called hand warmers) to massage your beloved and get things heated up.
8. Package of gum or mints. Sometimes you’re not kissing because your or your spouse’s breath isn’t fresh. How about a package of gum or mints? (Buc-ee’s, by the way, is a well-known brand here in Texas.)
9. Hand-held Massager. Some are pronged for pressure points, some are roller balls, some have spikes, but a good massager can help you deliver a muscle-relaxing rub-down to your spouse without exhausting your own hands. After trying various ones, I’m a huge fan of the Theragun Mini.

Create an Experience

1. Intimate Playlist. Put together a playlist of tunes that get you in the mood. Choose your favorites or check out suggestions from my marital intimacy playlist.
2. Double Shower Head. Some of us married couples really enjoy sharing the shower with our mate! But if you’re like me, you didn’t get to design your perfect shower for two. Still, you can take your existing setup and turn it into a more inviting place to shower together. Add a note about how much you’re looking forward to that shower!
3. The Gift of Nothing. Remember this is an experience, meaning you give your spouse the gift of doing nothing. That is, a day or night or weekend with no obligations. No meals to cook, no children to watch, no laundry to wash, no groceries to buy, no work to complete, no alarm clocks to answer, no ________[fill in the blank]. Some men would like this gift, but a lot of women would adore this idea.
4. Date Nights for the Year. Purchase a jar or other container, come up with the date ideas, and pop them in. Life Hack has a good list to spark your creativity, and The Dating Divas has a Steamy Bucket List you could make as a gift.
5. Home Date Kit. Create the perfect date night for home with items you both enjoy. Start with a decorative box or basket. Add a restaurant gift card; a meal kit; or a gift card for UberEats, DoorDash, or Grubhub. Include items to create a romantic setting, like flameless candles, dinnerware, and cloth napkins folded into beautiful designs (if I can do it, you can too!). Choose an activity, like a board game, movie, conversation starters, or DIY project. Finish up with intimacy items—like specialty lube, a tasty treat, and/or sexy Christmas-themed undies (his/hers). Bonus: Add a love letter to your one-and-only, with specifics on why you treasure your beloved and would choose him/her again.
6. Adventure/Activity. Book that weekend trip, buy those tickets to a game or concert, make reservations for a couples cooking class or horseback riding, schedule a tour of your local museum or winery, plan a state park visit or beach outing.
7. Sex Schedule. What if your Christmas gift to your higher-drive spouse was next year’s calendar on which you’d marked days you committed to have sex? Maybe your idea is to choose one day of the week and make that your guaranteed, I’m-a-sure-thing promise. Simply take a calendar, decorate every Thursday (or whatever) with markers, stickers, glitter, etc. and encourage your spouse to hang it somewhere they can see it next year.
8. Double Hammock. Hammocks are very popular right now. But you know what’s more fun? You and your honey-bunny snuggling up together. All that close affection outside the bedroom certainly helps stoke the fires of romance inside the bedroom.
9. Couples Devotional Book. Did you know that couples who pray together have low divorce rates and report very satisfying sex lives? Becoming spiritually intimate is a great idea on its own, but it can also boost your sexual intimacy.

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Every year, I post some list of holiday gifts for your spouse—from sexy stocking stuffers to romantic experiences. Have I expended all of my ideas? Not yet, but it has gotten harder to come up with fresh ones! Which is why I’m adding a few more this time, but also providing a collection of prior posts that you can peruse to find fun ideas for your spouse and your marriage.

A Few New Gift Ideas

Open When Letters / Envelopes

Present your beloved with envelopes that say “Open When ____” on each and have a customized messages inside. I looked at several options, downloaded a couple, and ended up really liking this printable set from PrintyIllustrations that includes labels, cards, and envelopes if you need them, as well as inspiration for what to write in your messages. What a great way to encourage your spouse and express your love!

Weighted Blanket

These blankets have become rather popular in recent years. My son got one, and at first I thought it was just some whatever trend. But then I got underneath the weighted blanket, and ooooh, aaaah … I get it. A weighted blanket may be just what your spouse or your bed needs for you to have a good night’s sleep and some even better snuggling.

Check out the blanket here!

Split Blanket & Sheet Set

But what if your spouse keeps stealing your covers? Well, Uncommon Goods has you covered with a couple’s split blanket & sheet set. Who knew!

Sexy Christmas Cookies

It’s pretty amazing what you can find on Etsy, an online marketplace for vintage and handmade items. For instance, a cookie cutter set you can use to make both cookies and a clear invitation to have sex. In case you need a good sugar cookie recipe, try this one or this one.

Personalized Scented Candle

Have you heard of the idea of you or your spouse lighting a candle when you’re open to having sex? Well, you can buy candles that say that basic thing (“when this candle’s lit, then…”), but the verbiage is often crass. How about putting your own message on the candle? You could say something like: “When this candle is light, let’s get intimate” or “Time to Play” or “I Burn for You.” Come up with the right invitation for your marriage bed, along with some good aromas to get you both in the mood.

See the candle here.

Gift Ideas for Our Podcast

Be sure to check out our gift-themed episodes from Sex Chat for Christian Wives (links in show notes).

• Episode 120: Our Holiday Gift Guide – Sexy and Romantic Gifts for Couples
• Episode 96: 35 Gifts for Your Marriage
• Episode 72: The Ultimate Sexy Gift Guide

Where to Shop for Lingerie?

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And now for many ideas from prior posts…

Stocking Stuffers (for Hubbies)

• 10 Sexy Stocking Stuffers for Your Husband
• 10 Sexy, Manly Items for Your Hubby’s Christmas Stocking
• 10 Last-Minute Stocking Stuffers for Your Husband

Christmas Gifts for Your Beloved

• Wrap It Up For Hubby: 10 Christmas Gifts For Your Marriage Bed
• 5 Fresh Christmas Gift Ideas for Your Husband
• A Sleigh-ful of Gift Ideas for Your Spouse
• 5 (More) Christmas Gift Ideas for Your Husband
• 5 (More) Christmas Gift Ideas for Your Wife
• 6 Sex-themed Gift Baskets for Christmas

Valentine’s Gifts That Work for Christmas Too

• 8 Sweet Valentine’s Gifts for Your Spicy Wife
• 8 Cool Valentine’s Gifts for Your Hot Hubby
• “Go Big” Valentine’s Gifts for Your Spouse
• 5 Free Valentine’s Gifts for Your Spouse
• 7 Sexy Valentine’s Gifts You Can Make
• 13 Sexy Valentine’s Gifts From Your Grocery Store

Gifts for My Readers

• My Gift to You: Christmas Intimacy Playlist
• A Free Christmas Short Story for You! (the PDF is free, but ebook is $.99—still a bargain!)
• ‘Twas the Intimate Night Before Christmas: A Marriage Poem
• Marriage & Mistletoe: A Free, Downloadable Christmas Board Game for You

My Christmas-Themed Resources

A Great Gift Book for Your Sexual Intimacy

And a Quick Word about Giving Tuesday

Today is “Giving Tuesday,” a day designated to donate service and money to charitable causes. While I’m not a charity for tax purposes, I am incredibly thankful for the donations my ministry receives. Honestly, this last year I announced to my husband with ridiculous joy that my business made above the poverty level in 2020! And then, Uncle Sam took some of it. ~shrug~

My costs involve web hosting, stock photos, virtual assistant fees (and I’d use her more if I could afford to), a bit of marketing, office and shipping supplies, and resources (like books and courses) that keep me updated in my field. If you would like to defer my costs and help me cover my rent, I would greatly appreciate it. If you’d rather support another ministry, please go do so! There are a lot of good ones out that could use the funds.

Mentionables Ad photo credit: ©Klanneke

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What should you get your beloved spouse for Christmas? For some of you, that’s an easy answer, and for others, it’s a challenge. Today, I want to provide:

• 10 fresh gift ideas
• A roundup of past posts with more than 80 gift and stocking stuffer ideas
• A short list of recommended places to shop
• A quick rundown of my own and others’ resources

Thus creating the ultimate gift list of well over 100 ideas for your spouse and your marriage this holiday season!

Many items have affiliate links, but not all. And I do not suggest something just because I get a small commission. I only recommend a product if I polygraph-proof think it’s a good idea.

10 Fresh Gift Ideas

1. Oh, Susannah Tonight Not Tonight Reversible Throw Pillow Case Cover Fits 18×18 Insert. Send a clear signal about lovemaking tonight with these pillow cases. Fun way to initiate sex!

2. Married Is Great t-shirt. Marriage really is great, when done well. Go ahead and celebrate it with a t-shirt for one or both of you. I love mine!

Married Is Great has several designs and hoodies as well!

3. Love Tokens – Set of 10. And begging the question: Why did I think of that? Love this tokens you can give your spouse to give back to you!

4. Love Mop Premium Cotton Sex Towel. Keep one of these in your nightstand or nearby to clean up after the oh-so-worth-it messiness of physical intimacy.

5. Intimately Us Marriage App. Bedroom games, conversation starters, sexy bucket list, and much more with this app. Put together by the creator of the Get Your Marriage On! event I spoke at a few years ago and Dr. Corey Allan, host of Sexy Marriage Radio who has guested here on my blog.

6. Printable Roses. As of this writing, these are FREE. Yep, you print them out, make them, give them to your beloved. How romantic!

7. Printable Fortune Cookies – Another freebie! “A thrilling night is in your future,” other messages, and create-your-own. Your fortune is a good one with this gift!

8. Liberator Decor Fascinator Throw. The love mop towel above is great, but what can you use to protect your whole bed? Try one of these. It absorbs and it’s very comfortable to your skin.

9. I Have Found the One I Love Pendant. One of my favorite Song of Songs sayings, which I have on my bedroom wall as art! But you can gift it in jewelry too.

10. Home Date Kit. In “Pandemic Year,” you can gift your beloved the perfect date night for home. Think about what you both enjoy and load it up with the right stuff for you two. Some ideas:

• Start with a decorative box or basket. (Locally, try a Tuesday Morning or Hobby Lobby.)
• Add a restaurant gift card; a meal kit; or a gift card for UberEats, DoorDash, or Grubhub.
• Include items to create a romantic setting, like flameless candles, dinnerware, and cloth napkins folded into beautiful designs (if I can do it, you can too!).
• Choose an activity, like a board game, movie, conversation starters, or DIY project.
• Finish up with intimacy items—like specialty lube, a tasty treat, and/or sexy Christmas-themed undies (his/hers).
• Big-time bonus: Write a love letter to your one-and-only, with specifics on why you treasure your beloved and would choose him/her again, and slip it into the basket. (You may want to add a tissue or two.)

Gift Idea Posts (with around 80+ options)

Below are my past gift-giving posts, including Christmas and Valentine’s, with links to various products, services, printables, and more. I cannot guarantee all links will work, because some posts are older and links sometimes change or disappear. But if you really like an idea, you might be able to do an online search and find it elsewhere.

• Wrap It Up For Hubby: 10 Christmas Gifts For Your Marriage Bed
• 10 Sexy Stocking Stuffers for Your Husband
• 8 Sweet Valentine’s Gifts for Your Spicy Wife
• 8 Cool Valentine’s Gifts for Your Hot Hubby
• 5 Fresh Christmas Gift Ideas for Your Husband
• A Sleigh-ful of Gift Ideas for Your Spouse
• 5 (More) Christmas Gift Ideas for Your Husband
• 5 (More) Christmas Gift Ideas for Your Wife
• “Go Big” Valentine’s Gifts for Your Spouse
• 10 Sexy, Manly Items for Your Hubby’s Christmas Stocking
• 5 Free Valentine’s Gifts for Your Spouse
• 7 Sexy Valentine’s Gifts You Can Make
• 13 Sexy Valentine’s Gifts From Your Grocery Store
• My Gift to You: Christmas Intimacy Playlist
• Favorite Books for Christmas Gifts
• 6 Sex-themed Gift Baskets for Christmas
• 10 Last-Minute Stocking Stuffers for Your Husband

Recommended Places to Shop

From time to time, I get asked where to shop for intimate things! Well, here are a few recommendations.

Married Dance. For marital aids/sex toys.

Honoring Intimates. For lingerie and lube.

Mentionables. Another quality lingerie site.

Dating Divas. For fun date-night ideas, games, and printables).

Faithful Counseling. For individual and couples counseling. To be fair, you don’t really “shop” for counseling, but Faithful Counseling is a site where clients can connect with faith-based counselors that match their needs and preferences. The biggest plug I can give here is to say that I tried it with regard a specific issue I was facing, and I had a fantastic experience. But if you don’t, you can easily request a different counselor.

My and Others’ Great Resources

Christmas Stuff in My Site Store

Webinars from Sex Chat for Christian Wives

Webinars from KHS (Knowing Her Sexually) Ministry

My Books

Christian Living

Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations About Sex for Married Couples

eBook: $5.99

Author: J. Parker
Genre: Christian Living

Yet couples often struggle to understand their spouse and discuss their sex life. Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations about Sex for Married Couples provides the right framework for productive communication on a myriad of issues and helps your marriage bed move from awkward to amazing!

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Hot, Holy, and Humorous: Sex in Marriage by God’s Design

5.00 (66% off retail!)

Author: J. Parker
Genre: Christian Living

Do you want to be a hottie in the bedroom without sacrificing holiness? How can you make the most of God’s gift of sexual intimacy in marriage? In Hot, Holy, and Humorous, author J. Parker gives candid advice for wives from a foundation of faith with a splash of humor.

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Intimacy Revealed: 52 Devotions to Enhance Sex in Marriage

$9.99eBook: $2.99

Author: J. Parker
Genre: Christian Living

What does the Bible say about sexual intimacy? Quite a lot actually. From marriage-specific scriptures to biblical principles, Intimacy Revealed: 52 Devotions to Enhance Sex in Marriage guides Christian wives through weekly devotions that shed light on God’s gift of marital sex.

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Beatitudes in the Bedroom: Embracing the Blessings for Your Marriage Bed

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Author: J. Parker
Genre: Christian Living

Once we accept that God’s Word infuses every area of our lives, we can apply biblical principles from various passages even to such places as our marriage beds.

In this short book, bestselling Christian sex author, blogger, and podcaster J. Parker, of Hot, Holy & Humorous, walks you through each separate blessing from Matthew 5:3-10 and shows how Jesus’ Beatitudes are relevant to sexuality and marriage.

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Online Courses with Marriage Experts

Sex Seminar with Dating Divas. Nine experts, nine presentations, life-changing information for your sex life. I address When Your Drives Don’t Match. Usually $35, BUT ONLY $20 with my special URL (discount shows up at checkout and not before).

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You can access past posts from me with specific gift ideas, as well as taking a look at Christmas stocking stuffer ideas that might work for Valentine’s, but I thought I’d share some of the best “Go Big” gifts I’ve personally heard about: Big-impact ideas people I know have successfully carried out. Maybe the rest of us (especially non-romantic types) can learn a thing or two.

The Getaway Weekend.

“Come, my beloved, let us go to the countryside, let us spend the night in the villages” (Song of Songs 7:11).

Getting away from your daily demands and household stresses can be a lovely gift for your marriage. Having an entire date weekend can provide the opportunity to enjoy one another’s companionship and remind yourselves exactly why you two fell in love. (Hint: It wasn’t because he kills the spiders. The Orkin man does that too.)

Think about whether your spouse is one who likes surprises or wants time to prepare, and plan your weekend accordingly. You could scoop up your spouse, hand them already-packed luggage or give them a short time to pack, and then sweep them off to a surprise destination. Or you could have several possibilities picked out from which he can choose, or gift them with a certificate for a getaway weekend.

Make sure you also consider what kind of weekend you and your spouse would enjoy. You may think staying in a cute cottage inn near quaint shopping venues is marvelous, but if your guy is partial to hunting, fishing, and the Great Outdoors, only one of you will be happy. Plan a weekend that meets your mutual interests, or even leans in favor of your spouse’s desires. In fact, bless them with a generous offer to attend an event you wouldn’t prefer, but you’re willing to do to spend time with your spouse and give them greater joy.

The Vow Renewal.

“Place me like a seal over your heart, like a seal on your arm; for love is as strong as death, its jealousy unyielding as the grave. It burns like blazing fire, like a mighty flame” (Song of Songs 8:6).

About 90% of wives I’ve polled said they would do their wedding differently if given a second chance. (Most would do something simpler, less costly, more intimate.) A few couples have done exactly that: Taken a second chance to say their wedding vows through a renewal ceremony. This can be a formal event or a casual experience. In fact, at one marriage retreat I attended, the speaker led all the couples through reciting their marriage vows again.

You can book a location and a minister and invite friends; make it a small ceremony with just you, your beloved, and an officiant; or merely create a romantic setting and repeat your vows in private. If your spouse would rather be part of the planning, provide a gift certificate for the renewal ceremony of her choice.

Also consider this opportunity to promise specific things you’ve learned you should work on, such as “I promise to kiss you every morning and hold you close every night” or “I promise to pray for you daily.” Tailor the vows to your particular marriage and recommit to however-many more years of pursuing marital bliss.

The Childhood Memory.

“And he said: ‘Truly I tell you, unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven’ ” (Matthew 18:3).

One of the things you signed up for when you said “I Do” is hearing your spouse’s stories. Sometimes they even tell the same story from their childhood two, three, or fifty times. Hopefully some of those stories are wistful ones that reach back to a simpler time of childhood when fresh wonder and deep laughter came easily. Now how about a gift that lets your husband (or wife) know you listened and you value their good memories?

I know one husband who gifted a vintage board game his wife used to love playing as a child, and another wife who (rather competitively) bid to get a toy her husband had once owned and regretted giving away. Another couple took a trip to the wife’s childhood home and let her soak in the memories as they toured her old stomping grounds and she related even more detailed recollections.

What happy events does your spouse talk about from childhood? What possessions did they treasure, or what objects or experiences did they long to have? What created a sense of wonder and joy in their youth, and what gift could represent that? Perhaps you can give a childhood memory.

The Love Letter.

“Gracious words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones” (Proverbs 16:24).

I’m partial to the written word. (Can you tell?) One of the couples I know who experienced a love letter as a gift was this one right here — me and my husband. Spock (logical hubby’s nickname) stepped way outside his comfort zone and wrote me a love poem one year. It remains my favorite gift from him, because of how heartfelt and meaningful it was.

The poetry wasn’t good, so don’t worry about your writing skills. Simply express your heart on the page. (By the way, I cover How to Write a Love Letter more in Sex Savvy.) Or if the page isn’t your thing, make a video love letter, serenade your beloved with a song, or put together a slide show expressing your beautiful memories and/or future dreams. However you wish to deliver your message is fine; simply make the effort to be personal and passionate with the love letter.

The Sensual Body Experience.

“How beautiful you are and how pleasing, my love, with your delights!” (Song of Songs 7:6)

How awesome would it be to come home to a candlelight dinner, or a trail of clothes leading to the bedroom, or rose petals on the bed? How nice would it be for your spouse to delay their own gratification to spend additional time plunging you into a feast of sensations through deep massage or a foamy bubble bath or feeding one another delicious fruits or chocolates? How about an extra-long, head-to-toe lovemaking session that focuses on exploring and arousing one another’s bodies as much as possible? Anyone like these ideas?

I’ve only heard hints from couples I know about this gift of the sensuous body experience, because we really don’t need to be sharing details. But I know some have gone to great lengths to prepare the atmosphere and create a romantic setting for their intimate time together.

What would bless your spouse in this regard? What activities stimulate their five senses and demonstrate your higher-and-deeper love? Remember to make this a gift for both of you. You can create not only a beautiful, intimate experience, but a memory that will bring smiles to both of you for years to come.

These are some of the best “go big” marriage gifts I personally heard about, but there are many more. What ideas do you have for Valentine’s Day or any other gift time in marriage?

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