My email inbox has been flooded with messages about Black Friday, Small Business Saturday, Cyber Monday, and Giving Tuesday. I have refrained from sending y’all any of those. Even though my publisher and marketing experts wish I had! I simply want to treat you the way I’d want to be treated.

As Luke 6:31 says, “Do to others as you would have them do to you.” And I don’t like being pummeled with emails that could summarized as GIMME $$$! That said, I appreciate learning about resources that could help me. So how do I balance those two impulses?

Just Because

First, let me share resources I have little to nothing to do with—no contribution, personal attachment, affiliation, etc.—that can enhance many marriages.

• Authentic Intimacy. If you want to know who’s speaking about sexual intimacy in a godly, practical way, this is a great resource. Dr. Juli Slattery and her team take on various sex topics with biblical grounding and compassion that address the complicated circumstances many Christians face. I encourage you to check out their books and Juil’s podcast. (I know Juli, but we’re not close.)
• Gottman Institute. Drs. John and Julie Gottman founded a relationship institute that focuses on what really matters for marriages to make it in the long run. John’s book, cowritten with Nan Silver, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, was a groundbreaking resource for couples to kick out the bad habits destroying their connection and adopt new patterns to build better marriages. While I don’t agree with all of the Gottman Institute’s values, their research-based resources are valuable.
• Boundaries. A fair number of questions I receive from stressed spouses could be answered by reading a Boundaries book by Henry Cloud and John Townsend. I started with the original, but Boundaries in Marriage might be the best resource for many husbands and wives to figure out when and how to draw some lines, stand up for that’s right and reasonable, and positively influence their spouse.

Affiliates I Believe In

Many times, I’ve been offered to promote products or services that would have made me more affiliate income, but I didn’t want to recommend them. I only send y’all to resources I’ve had a good experience with myself. With that in mind, here are a few of those.

• Married Dance. On their website, Married Dance invites visitors to “shop our carefully curated selection of sex toys for couples with confidence that your shopping experience is discreet and presented in a nudity-free, marriage-focused environment.” I really appreciate that marriage focus. Honestly, I don’t love every item on the site, but they carry quality brands, provide useful marital aids, and have top-notch customer service. If you’re looking for personal lubricant, sex toys, or supportive furniture/pillows, this is the place to go.
• Mentionables. Mentionables is a lingerie shop that has both sensual-classy and super-sexy items, all tastefully displayed. Their products can cost a little more, but they also wear well, meaning better value in the long run. Sizes range from XS to 3X.
• Everylove Intimates. This bimonthly date night subscription provides exclusive lingerie and sensual products delivered right to your home. I’ve been very impressed with how this is put together and the creativity of the intimate date nights.

My Inexpensive Options

For many of you, money is tight this year. (Maybe it is every year.) Yet, you want to do something a little extra for your spouse this Christmas that says, “I love being intimate with you.” Here are a few resources from my shop that convey that message.

• Marriage & Mistletoe Game ($2.99) — Spice up the holidays with an intimate board game! You and your spouse will enjoy unwrapping and savoring the gift of one another, as you follow the path to a mutual “win” in the bedroom.
• Christmas Gift Coupons for Him ($2.99) — Each Christmas-themed coupon features an affectionate or intimate activity and a companion scripture from Song of Songs. Perfect stocking stuffer for your husband that he can cash in any time of year!
• Christmas Gift Coupons for Her ($2.99) — Each Christmas-themed coupon features an affectionate or intimate activity and a companion scripture from Song of Songs. Perfect stocking stuffer for your wife that she can cash in any time of year!
• Just You and Me Christmas Gift Tags ($2.99) — Gift tags for those special gifts privately given between husband and wife! 10 to a page. 
• Hot, Holy, and Humorous: Sex in Marriage by God’s Design (Signed) ($5.00), available in contiguous US — God does not shy away from the subject of sex. Hot, Holy, and Humorous gives candid advice for wives from a foundation of faith with a splash of humor.
• Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations About Sex for Married Couples (Signed) ($9.99, now $5.00), available in contiguous US — This full conversation guide book helps couples to better communicate about sex in marriage and to put into practice habits that enhance their intimacy.
• Intimacy Revealed: 52 Devotions to Enhance Sex in Marriage (Signed) ($9.99, now $5.00), available in contiguous US — This devotional book helps wives better understand God’s design for sex and how to pursue healthy and holy sexuality. 
• Under the Mistletoe ($0.99) — Romantic holiday short story about a married couple.

My Latest Book

Published earlier this year, The Higher Desire Wife has been a passion project for me. But it hasn’t reached nearly enough wives! It was never my goal to make a lot of money with this book, but rather to get it into the hands of those women who would benefit from it.

If you are that higher wife, married to a higher desire wife, or know a higher desire wife, please consider getting this book. Only a handful of Christian resources exist for this group of wives, even though they represent about one-fourth of all marriages. I genuinely believe my book could help.

A husband always wants more sex than his wife, right? Many marriage resources make that assumption, but up to 25 percent of marriages have a higher desire wife! While these women are not alone, they may feel that way as standard sex advice doesn’t address their needs. They may even feel like there is something wrong with them or they should be ashamed of their high sex drive.

Author and speaker J. Parker has been there. In The Higher Desire Wife, she pairs extensive research and personal stories to help the higher desire wife nurture healthy and holy intimacy in her marriage. In these frank and compassionate pages, you’ll discover that you’re not alone and things can get better.

And be sure to check out our latest Sex Chat for Christian Wives episode with our annual gift guide! We feature items that enhance not only physical intimacy, but also intellectual/creative, emotional, and spiritual intimacy.

Disclosure of Material Connection: This post includes one or more affiliate links, meaning if you click on the link and purchase an item, I receive an affiliate commission at no additional cost to you.

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Our marriages shouldn’t simply exist. Rather, they should honor God and help us grow.

Quality resources can help. That’s why I signed up to be part of this year’s Dating Divas Marriage Bundle!

What’s a marriage bundle?

Simply put, it’s a group of resources sold together. But this bundle includes marriage-enhancing products from 26 contributors bundled together and priced at a HUGE discount. How huge? Together, the value of this bundle is well over $400. But to get these into the hands of as many couples as possible, we’re offering the bundle for just $50! 

Okay, $50’s great. But let’s do one better. When you use my link, you’ll get an EXTRA $15 off—making the cost only $35! Doing the math, that’s over 90% off retail value.

Again, that’s 26 marriage-enhancing products worth over $400 currently available for only $35! With my unique link: https://tinyurl.com/marriagebundle25

What’s my resource?

It’s a video titled “God’s Gift of Sex: What’s Keeping You From Enjoying It Fully?” Admittedly, that doesn’t sound as sexy as some of my resources. But this truly is one of my favorite presentations, y’all!

This online mini course is for anyone who’s ever looked at this so-called “gift” of sex and thought: Is there a receipt? We address why sex doesn’t always feel like the great gift it was meant to be and how you can make it better. The video is informative, encouraging, and grounded in faith. And it can help your marriage whether you watch it with your spouse or on your own!

What else is included?

Beyond my video, you’ll get 25 other marriage-focused products. That’s a lot, y’all. It can feel overwhelming. But again, the beauty of this bundle is that even if you used only 3–4 products, you’d save money! You can pick and choose what your marriage needs.

With that in mind, here’s the full list:

1. “Open When” Letters & Dates | The Dating Divas
2. 3 Day Intimacy Reset Challenge | Get Your Marriage On! (a podcast I appeared on!)
3. 3 Secrets to a Healthy Happier Love | Dr. Matt Townsend
4. 52 Date Nights In | The Stevens Circus
5. Air Fryer Recipes for Two | Empowered Cooks
6. Bad Marriage Advice Mini Course | Monica Tanner
7. Cut Your Anxiety, Stress, and Worry In Half | Mimi Porter Coaching
8. Date Night & Beyond Bundle | A Prioritized Marriage
9. Date Night Dancing Miniclass—Take Back Dancing in the Kitchen | Better Sway
10. Date Night: Conversation Gems | Show Her Off Dance
11. Dinner and Date Night IN Ideas | Favorite Family Recipes
12. How to Divorce-Proof Your Marriage According to a Divorce Expert Workshop | Jenn Zingmark
13. Love by Design: Engineering Your Ultimate Marriage Mission | Enneagram + Marriage (another podcast I appeared on!)
14. Marriage eBook Bundle | ONE Extraordinary Marriage
15. Marriage Prayer Battle Plan | The Praying Couple
16. Marriages Thrive Where LOVE & FUN Abide | LeAnn Austin Coaching
17. Quickie Connection: 10 Intimacy Ideas That Take 10 Minutes or Less | Kingdom Sexuality
18. Sexy Discovery Bundle of Bedroom Games | Love Hope Adventure
19. The Master Your Needs Bundle | Dr. Morgan Cutlip
20. The Nervous System Reset Deck | Pain-Free Intimacy
21. The One-Hour Budget | Money Saving Mom
22. The Ultimate Finance and Budget Printable Pack | A Purpose Driven Mom
23. The Ultimate Guide to Marriage and Money: 10 Cheat Sheets to Navigate Money as a Couple | Centsei Financial
24. Touched Out to Turned On Workshop | Love After Baby
25. You and Your Teen: Games, Tips, and Strategies for Connection | Brooke Romney

What’s the catch?

Only one catch—the deep-discount bundle price lasts through July 27. So you have just over a week to get your deal!

That deal includes insights into how to:

• Make marriage fun again
• Have more meaningful & creative date nights
• Enjoy more passionate & pleasurable sex
• Feel closer & more connected to your spouse
• Navigate challenges of life together 
• Take control of your finances 
• Get on the same parenting page
• Rekindle the spark

What’s the Rule of Seven?

According to marketing folks, I should contact you at least seven times to make sure you take action. The Rule of Seven notes that a potential customer typically needs to encounter a brand’s message 7 or more times before they’ll purchase.

You and I don’t have time for that! I’m giving you this notice and a mention in my next post (hopefully out on Thursday), and that’s it. So if you think you might want this bundle, please don’t set this aside.

Click right now to get my resource and 25 others for an amazing deal. And be sure to use MY UNIQUE LINK: https://tinyurl.com/marriagebundle25

Surviving in marriage isn’t enough. We want our marriages to thrive!

Go ahead and make the investment for less than a dinner for two to improve your marriage. And make sure you watch my video on “God’s Gift of Sex”!

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Inflation. It’s happening, y’all. Not just in the United States, but in many places around the globe. You may want to invest more in your marriage, but how can you do that without breaking your already stretched bank account?

We’ve got you covered!

The Dating Divas’ Annual Marriage Bundle is HERE, with marriage courses, eBooks, and printables worth over $400 for only $35. But wait, I can give you an even better deal–ONLY $20 with my unique link!

Yes, you read that right! Just $20 to make your marriage stronger, more fun, and more romantic. You are NOT going to want to miss this!

And you could miss it if you don’t act soon (like now). Because this deal is only available until August 1 (midnight MDT).

Limited Time Only!

20 MARRIAGE RESOURCES WORTH OVER $400

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What do you get with your purchase?

This Marriage Bundle is FILLED with practical tools, secrets, systems, and resources to improve your marriage or keep it going strong. You can use all of them or pick and choose the resources most useful to you. (Even if you only use a couple of these resources, you’ll still be SAVING money!) 

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And what are those 20 products? Below is the complete list of resources with descriptions of each one.

Note that while I’m familiar with the hosts (Dating Divas) and several of the resource providers, I’m not familiar with them all. Use wisdom with any marriage resource you receive. For more on how to get the most from marriage resources, see How to Read a Marriage Book, Episode 107: Evaluating Sex Resources, with Phylicia Masonheimer – Sex Chat for Christian Wives, and YOUR BIBLE.

1. Positions Matching Bedroom Game by Ultimate Intimacy. Are you ready to bring back the fireworks and passion into your marriage? Need something new in the bedroom? Our non-graphic position cards are the perfect way to spice things up and try something new in a fun way!

2. The Marriage Tree eBook by Tandem Marriage. Tandem Marriage knows what it takes to have a thriving marriage because they have been helping couples do just that for over 25 years now. The Marriage Tree is a beautiful and insightful new book that uses the analogy of caring for trees as a new way to see your own marriage and care for it.

3. Time Blocking Blueprint by A Purpose Driven Mom. Learn how to tackle your to-dos with doable strategies. This course covers plans and contingency plans for when life throws you a curveball. Video instruction and ready-made Trello boards help you plan YOUR life in a way that makes sense for YOU.

4. Navigating Differences in Sexual Desire Workshop by Get Your Marriage On! Do you want sex more or less than your spouse? Marriage coach Dan Purcell shares practical strategies to help the two of you get on the same page.

5. How to Have a Strong and Thriving Marriage After Kids by My Love Thinks. In this 90-minute webinar, Dr. Morgan Cutlip explains the most common four challenges couples struggle with after kids. And then gives the one secret to success in relationships and offers practical tips and tools to stay close and feel connected when it feels like kids are pulling you apart.

6. Creating Partnership Families E-Course by Dr. Julie Hanks. Julie shares information on the Partnership Model of Family Organization in this 80-minute course.

7. 4-Week Connection Challenge by Awesome Marriage. It’s easy to get disconnected in marriage. Distractions, screens, relational strife and other things pull at our attention, and we forget to connect with our spouse. If you feel more like roommates than best friends, or if you just need new and better ways to connect, this challenge is for you!

8. Masterful Communication: The Six Communication Styles by Dr. Tamara Fackrell. In this course, you’ll assess your own communication style and explore and understand the six styles of communication. Learn how communication styles unlock your perspective and how to become a masterful communicator in your marriage!

9. Romance the Write Way by Engaged Marriage. Rekindle the romance (and intimacy) in your marriage with a step-by-step letter writing process that takes less than 15 minutes. Plus, you’ll get our exclusive Love Letter Templates to make it super easy and fun! Includes 40 romantic writing prompts.

10. Designing & Building a Custom Marriage by Emil Harker, CST, LMFT. Do you want a marriage by default or design? In this program, you will be guided to work through any frustrations and disappointments with comfort to eliminate unresolved issues and resentments. Create closeness, passion, and intimacy and keep it.

11. Intimacy Revealed: 52 Devotions to Enhance Sex in Marriage by Hot, Holy, & Humorous. From bestselling author J. Parker, you’ll love this devotional book for Christian wives to better understand God’s gift of marital sex. Just a few minutes each week will help you move toward mutual, intimate, satisfying sexual intimacy in your marriage.

12. Making the Most of a Messy Marriage by Jay and Laura Laffoon. We have to admit that we are all a mess at times! Jay and Laura help you identify areas that every marriage finds messy and unpack the tools needed to make the most of the mess!

13. Better Sex in Your Marriage eBook by Intimacy in Marriage. Do you desire more intimate, passionate, and pleasurable sex with your spouse? Sexual connection is vital to healthy marriage, and this eBook will show you what it takes to get there! Transform your intimacy today with these 5 proven tips!

14. My $40,000 Lesson in Marital Communication by Julie Teffeteller. Julie’s newest masterclass boils down over a decade’s worth of communication studies and some very pricey life lessons and combines them into a lighthearted, humorous, and value-packed workshop. As a bonus, she’s throwing in her newest eBook: 365 Progressive Conversation Starters.

15. The Dance of Desire: Navigating the Dance of Sexual Pursuit and Rejection by Intimate Covenant. If you’ve been married for any length of time, you understand the delicate dance that plays out in your relationship between sexual desire, pursuit, and rejection. In this video presentation, we’ll look at this pattern and how we can dance more gracefully in our marriages. Includes a printable outline and discussion questions.

16. Growing a Higher Love: 6 Relationship Practices to Deepen Your Love by Dr. Matt Townsend. This edutaining, 2-hour date night was recorded in front of a live audience of 1200+ people. Matt Townsend covers 6 important character-building tools, skills, and tricks to strengthen your character and deepen your love!

17. The Marriage Bible Study Bundle +Bonuses by Marriage Legacy University. Couples Bible study shouldn’t be boring or hard. From the Kerchevals, these engaging, candid, and fun studies will draw you closer to God and one another. You will receive four video workshops, four printable Bible studies, and bonuses to enjoy at home or on the go.

18. Marriage Toolkit Challenge by Denoli. Join Oliver and Denise Marcelle as they share valuable tools you can use to help you construct your relationship into the masterpiece you’ve always wanted! In each video, they highlight a different tool essential in building and maintaining a healthy and thriving marriage.

19. 10 Day Recharge Your Relationship Challenge by Love After Baby. Take the challenge for daily ways to connect with your partner and fill your cup, from conversation starters and date ideas to self-care tips and journaling prompts. No need to do it all! Just pick and choose what feels right–it all adds to your Emotional Bank Account!

20. Pick Your Date Adventure App by The Dating Divas. “What should we do for date night?” — There’s an app for that! In this app, your choices can lead you to one of 30 completely unique date nights! No more browsing the internet endlessly for an idea that catches your eye, and no more browsing through Netflix before you fall asleep on the couch next to each other. Just open the app and choose your date night adventure, one question at a time!

What a fantastic bundle, right? Especially when you consider the price! Just $20 unlocks all these resources.

Remember the deal only lasts until August 1. After that, the resources return to their full price of over $400. So don’t wait–get your bundle today!

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Can a book really change your life? For faithful Christians, the answer is a resounding YES! We’ve seen and experienced the significance of God’s Word in our lives and others. It’s not the words themselves, but what they reveal about our God and His relationship with us.

With the caveat that nothing I name will have the impact of the Bible, I recently mulled over which books have motivated me to change something about my perspective, myself, or my life.

Here are the standouts over the years—those books I read that I can point directly to as causing a specific change in my life. (Listed in no particular order.) You might be surprised by what’s on my list!

Note: Amazon links are affiliates, through which I get a small commission. Your price, however, does not change.

1. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

I read 7 Habits of Highly Effective People maybe 30 years ago, and I still refer back to the principles quite often as I consider how to approach my career and relationships. Among the principles that have stuck with me:

Seek first to understand, then to be understood
Begin with the end in mind
Think win-win

You can see how those also apply in marriage!

And they align well with Christian commands, like honoring others above yourself and focusing on what matters most.

2. You Just Don’t Understand

Not everything is explained by gender. It’s typically less than we think—with personality, character, and life experiences playing a big role too.

However, gender distinctions have been routinely noted in social research, and in You Just Don’t Understand, linguist Deborah Tannen explains what she discovered about how men and women communicate.

I’ve come back to her points time and time again, often reminding myself that I cannot expect my husband to communicate the way I do. I have to consider his maleness, along with those other aspects I mentioned, and work on building greater understanding and intimacy. Thankfully, my husband read the book too, so he knows he has to attend to my communication style as well.

3. The Millionaire Next Door

You can find great resources about managing your finances, from Financial Peace to Crown Financial Ministries to Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn’s latest book, Thriving in Love and Money: 5 Game-Changing Insights about Your Relationship, Your Money, and Yourself.

But it was while listening to The Millionaire Next Door audiobook that it sank in how my husband and I could live under our means and become more financially secure. The authors laid out habits of people who become millionaires, and their insights informed how I approached spending and saving going forward.

Indeed, our financial stewardship has allowed me to do this ministry for as long as I have. (Believe me, HHH has not made me a millionaire. Not even close. )

Since money is one of the top reasons for marital conflict, it’s worth finding a resource about handling money that will help you get on the same page.

4. The Omnivore’s Dilemma

The Omnivore’s Dilemma is a book about what we eat and why. The author does a deep dive into this topic, including a whole chapter on something called “corn sex.” (Not nearly as exciting as the sex I write about!)

But my takeaways from this book changed which groceries I bought and agricultural policies I support.

As a person who believes in the Creator, I also would like to see our world do a better job with land and animal management, and this book helped me think more profoundly about those issues.

In the meantime, here’s to healthy eating and brown, cage-free eggs!

5. The 5 Love Languages

Yep, this very popular marriage book makes my list. Because The 5 Love Languages is where I began to identify ways in which my husband and I were trying to express love but not feeling it in turn.

Specifically, I grew up in a family in which my mom waited on my dad a lot, so I’d determined to be the opposite in my own marriage. And then, I married a guy whose #1 love language is Acts of Service.

This book opened my eyes to how I needed to get over my cynicism and embrace generosity instead, knowing my husband was a good man who wouldn’t exploit my acts of service toward him. My change in attitude and behavior paid dividends for both of us. Plus, hubby now gives me more affection—my #1 love language.

6. Schlinder’s Legacy

You’ve heard of Schindler’s List, right? The movie is based on a book written by Thomas Keneally, which my old book club read many years ago. But we also read Schindler’s Legacy, with each chapter a short biography of a Holocaust survivor from the list.

And the accounts have stuck with me for years. Not because of the specifics of any one story—which include some chilling details, of course—but because this book more than any other showed how one’s attitude makes a big difference.

About half of these survivors considered themselves lucky or blessed and felt grateful, to God and/or others, for their survival. The other half were bitter, angry, and believed they’d survived only because of life’s randomness or their own cutthroat choices.

Life throws all of us curveballs, and some of us far more than anyone should have to go through. But we ultimately make the choice of how we will view and address our problems. Will we wallow and become bitter? Will we grieve our losses and find a way to get through?

(Or if you’re in an abusive situation, grieve and get out.)

7. The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

Almost anyone who does marriage ministry eventually reads The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, because John Gottman has probably done more reputable research into long-term relationships than anyone else. He gained a reputation for being able to discern whether a marriage was headed for divorce by observing mere minutes of a couple’s interaction.

He identified “four horsemen” that signal relational rockiness (criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling) and also laid out seven ways to foster a healthier marriage.

Spock and I read this book when we were at our wit’s end in our relationship, and we really did learn important principles we could apply to our marriage. These principles weren’t the key to getting our marriage back on track, but they were an important piece.

8. The Gospel of John

Okay, I already addressed the impact of the Bible, but the Gospel of John deserves special mention. I was toward the end of my college career, and I’d gone through a rough time that included friendship challenges, family heartache, and premarital promiscuity.

My faith was shaky at best. I’d concluded there was a God, but did I buy into Jesus and Christianity? As summed up well by another John (the Baptist) in a different gospel, I was asking: “Are You the One who is to come, or should [I] look for someone else?” (Luke 7:19).

I decided to re-read the book of John, trying this time to figure out who Jesus was without all the felt-figure storyboards and preconceived notions in my head. The Jesus I found within those pages was not merely a man of meekness and compassion, but strength and grit. He showed tenderness to some and fierceness to others, depending on the situation and the people. He truly was both the Lamb and the Lion.

And this Jesus—the real Jesus—seemed big enough to handle my hurt and my needs. I had a ways to go to find my firm footing, but through reading the Gospel of John, a spark was lit, my faith rekindled.

And Now, A Challenge

Julie Sibert of Intimacy in Marriage has been blogging every single day this year! At the end here, I’m issuing a challenge for her to blog about books that changed her life, whether 2-3 or more.

I also want to hear from you! What books positively changed your life and why?

[Quick note: If mention a book that contains what I believe to be dangerous teaching, I may not approve your comment. You can view my comments policy here.]

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Happily married 30 years. Both came into the marriage as virgins. Desiring to spice things up, but the purity of our past doesn’t help my husband. There is concern if he researches, he will come across websites that we’ll regret. Any direction you can send us?

Why, yes! Yes, I do have a direction to send you. Have you heard of this book?

I wrote that book specifically to answer your question! How do you make the sex in your marriage bed more exciting, intimate, and loving?

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It has chapters like Considering Sexual Positions, Oral Sex, The Hands-On Experience, and Using Your Body Parts. I give specific, practical tips for romance, arousal, and orgasm.

And you know what? I just saw my latest royalty statement, and I know a bunch of you haven’t bought my book yet! I don’t mean to be pushy, but seriously, y’all, WHY NOT?!

I’m really proud of this book and how it has helped couples spice things up in their marriage bed. It covers a lot of ground in a short time and can help you and your spouse start some important conversations about what sexual intimacy should look like in your marriage.

Mind you, that won’t look the same in various healthy, holy marriages. You have to figure out your own sexual repertoire. But my book can help you do that.

And it’s $10 for the ebook, less than $13 for the paperback. Jeez, y ‘all spent that the last time you drove through the hamburger joint and upsized your fries. C’mon, buy this book for your marriage!

Okay, I’m off my soapbox for a moment and will share a few other resources … since you asked.

Christian Friendly Sex Positions provides both tasteful illustrations and thorough descriptions for you to try new positions and angles. This information is also available in a recently released app, Ultimate Intimacy.

The Marriage Bed has quite a few articles with ideas for adding spice to your bedroom. You might notice that the Byerlys and I disagree on a few sexual activities, but that’s okay. We’re foundationally in sync, and good Christians can disagree about particulars. Their overall advice is excellent. And I love this article on orgasmic massage from Paul Byerly’s other website, The Generous Husband.

Awaken Love also has articles on spicing things up, as well as an online video class for women. I’ve reviewed her curriculum and found it to be solid.

If you’re looking for spicy stuff, i.e., marital aids, you can check out Married Dance, for which my podcast, Sex Chat for Christian Wives, is an affiliate. This company impressed me greatly when they responded directly to a concern I had about one of their products. It was clear that they desire to promote holy and healthy sex through their online store.

Other blogs I follow that give both general and specific advice for the marriage bed:

• Intimacy in Marriage
• The Forgiven Wife
• OysterBed7
• Calm.Healthy.Sexy.
• Love Hope Adventure

There are other blogs that cater more toward husbands, but my own blog feed is populated primarily with sites intended for wives.

Now I’m staring at my screen knowing I’ve forgotten some fabulous resource that I should have mentioned. If I remember more later, I’ll add them.

But in summary, BUY THIS BOOK, because I wrote it and it’s awesome, and then check out the sites above. Some of these sites will also link to other resources that could be worth checking out. That’s how I often find others as well — just the old-fashioned, can’t-beat-it word of mouth. Albeit that word is text on a trusted website.

And don’t discount one of the best ways to add spice to your marriage bed: talk and try. Discuss ideas you have, try them out, and see what you think. You might discover something truly awesome that way.

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