From what I understand, there can be leakage at any time before intercourse, whether you’re in the shower or not. That said, it’s usually a small amount. I think these are questions you really should ask a doctor, and I’d encourage you to do so. We can get nervous talking about sex in an exam room, but the doctors I’ve talked to say they hear it all — you’re not going to surprise them with a question. And if they act shocked or put off by you discussing sex with them, I’d question them being your doctor…because you’ll need someone you can be open and honest with.

I loved the diaphragm, but that’s my own story. Not everyone does. Which is why I think you should look into the various options and decide what’s right for you two. As to how the diaphragm works, you have to be measured by a doctor for it, since it specifically fits your body. Then you get a prescription for that. The doctor shows you how to insert it, but I don’t think they do it. Before intercourse, you must additionally apply spermicide to the edge for added protection. You might add diaphragm to your options list, but condoms could be the best choice for you.

Remember you can start with one thing and switch if it doesn’t work out. Blessings!

Thank for the replay.
Birth control options is on our mind, and it seems like we don’t get a “this is the best for us”. I know almost nothing about diaphragm, just how it looks and how it works, but where to purchase it, does a doctor put it at first, is it ok like to use it in the first weeks or maybe later once you get accustomed and stuff.
What was my concern in the previous message was also about what happens with the semen in the water. If there is no intercourse i am thinking it might be some leakage and in that case we should be attentive? Oh, I so wish there were more ladies like you where I live and they would chat with be about all this and I might ask questions…
We did buy some books like “Sheet music “and “the gift of sex” and started reading them and I think after that we will have a talk but still, the face-to-face conversation is missing…

Honestly, I’m not a condom expert at all. That said, it’s pretty quick to put on a condom, insert a diaphragm, or use another barrier method “in the moment” — once you get used to it. Meaning, that it might be slower at first, but after a while, it’s like tying your shoe laces; you know what you’re doing, and you get faster at it.

As far as showering and bathing together, I suspect the bigger issue would be your arousal. Water tends to wash away the wife’s lubrication. One answer to that is using silicone-based lubricants, such as Sliquid Silver or Wet Platinum.

And congratulations on your upcoming marriage! You might want to check out some of my posts directly specifically toward the wedding night / honeymoon / newlywed phase of marriage. Many blessings!

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I can only imagine that moment when you said to your husband, “Will you be my ‘practice patient’ for bed bathing?” What size was his grin at that question? LOL.

Hope you get your two-person shower back!

Thanks for that reminder! Good point.

Thanks, Erik!

Interesting. I wonder if it would work if one of you was and extrovert?