I think it’s going to take some time and retraining your mind. You have taken a great first step with Covenant Eyes, but you need to work on your thoughts. Let’s say you think about something like that. You need to stop yourself, replace that thought with a good memory of your husband, and then continue in sexual activity with him. Don’t beat yourself up if you can’t make a complete flip in your mind immediately, but with careful attention, mental effort, and praying for God’s help, you can learn to put all your sexual energy on your husband and your marital intimacy. Blessings!

Hi John
Was your reply for me.
It was good advise, as you get older you think passion has gone.
However one needs to channel some emotions, feelings on long-term goals.

Bless

Thanks J. I do get some to talk about this with my wife. She is 60 but I still find her attractive. She is hesitant to see a Doctor after bad experiences in past and recently her Doctor told her to see a mid-wife which she did not want to. I think she procrastinates and tells me, it is not hormones etc but stress. Also she has been several times to a Doctors and they have only suggest KY which has not changed her low l.

My advice is that you need to explain that you want sexual intimacy with her, not just this physical release. Then ask her to see a doctor and see why she’s having pain. It’s not supposed to hurt like that, and she needs to specific tell her doctor that she’s experiencing pain during intercourse. Tell your lovely wife that you want to make love to her, that you want her to experience sexual pleasure, and that you will be there for her and work as a team to figure out how to bring intimacy back into your marriage.