There’s a lot packed into this one comment, and I obviously cannot answer you in a short comment here either. Instead, I’m going to suggest you check out three resources:
First, check out the blog The Forgiven Wife, written by a wife whose desire was very low, but she found her way to healthy sexual intimacy in your marriage: https://forgivenwife.com/new-to-this-blog-start-here/
Second, listen to our podcast, which will help re-form your views about how women experience sexual intimacy (a lot of the standard advice out there isn’t matched to real wives): https://forchristianwives.com
Third, check out my guest post on To Love Honor and Vacuum, which covers not being attracted to your husband (and Sheila there also links to a post she wrote on the same topic): https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2015/05/get-turned-on-by-your-husband-again/

Praying for you.

Thanks, Philip!

For many years I was the one to suggest things, however more recently my wife has suggested things which is very encouraging.

Keep up the good work!

Me too! 🙂

I did have to chuckle at a few points. My wife and I are so completely opposite in so many ways – and sex is no different. I can’t tell you how many times we’ve tried something different and she’s said “I bet you really liked how that felt, because I didn’t really care for it.” And usually she was spot on. It’s a challenge, but one worth the effort.