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Comment on 6 Reasons Why Sex Isn’t Happening in Your Marriage (and How to Address Them) by J

Sun, 21 Jun 2026 02:53:33 +0000

In reply to Clifford Wharton. I would refer to you to the Trauma section of this post. And I'm so sorry and sad that you did not find the help your wife needed. Again, I would recommend you seek trauma-informed care, specifically Brad and/or Kate Aldrich of Aldrich Ministries, who have extensive understanding and experience in this area. In healthy marriages, comprised of two healthy individuals, sexual desire builds over time and can be experienced as physical tension that releases when sexual intimacy occurs. But, as you noted, in relationships when one or both spouses have experienced trauma or conflict, sexual encounters can bring more tension.

Comment on 6 Reasons Why Sex Isn’t Happening in Your Marriage (and How to Address Them) by Clifford Wharton

Clifford Wharton — Sat, 20 Jun 2026 09:11:03 +0000

What do you mean by ‘I felt connection with him and a much-needed release of tension’? Our experience is that sex is more likely to increase tension. There is no sense of release.
My wife was sexually abused in her teens but I don’t think she is consciously aware of it.
We have had lots of ‘counselling’ by both doctors and Christian friends none of which has been of any lasting benefit and some (especially by Christians) has actually been harmful.

Comment on Are We Fighting Today’s Sexuality Battles? by J

Fri, 12 Jun 2026 01:18:02 +0000

In reply to Ruthie. I have heard those concerns too, but I can assure you that many young women I know—who have some feminist attitudes—still want good marriages, children, and work-life balance. Also, when men get more involved with their kids, it helps a young woman to feel more open to taking on motherhood. There really are good, godly men and women out there. Just keep praying for your children to find them. Blessings! ~ J

Comment on What I Hate About Sex by J

Fri, 12 Jun 2026 01:15:17 +0000

In reply to R. I'm glad that you discovered your sexuality and came to enjoy this gift. Blessings!

Comment on Strike a Pose! (But Don’t Stay There.) by Anonymous

Anonymous — Wed, 10 Jun 2026 00:18:45 +0000

Wow! All I can say is your husband is a VERY VERY blessed man. I would love to try all these positions once my wife gets her health (and libido) back. Thanks for sharing

Comment on What I Hate About Sex by R

Tue, 09 Jun 2026 15:21:51 +0000

Married almost 25 years and while we were always intimate (at least once a week), a few years ago I finally came to the realization that I had been a gatekeeper for many years and this had negatively impacted our marriage so much. I’ve since repented and now we are at a much better place. I now have a positive attitude about sex (and my body) and feel emotionally closer to my husband. I had no idea that changing my attitude about sex would improve the quality of our marriage so much! I only wish I had changed sooner. My advice to women is to repent if you are a gatekeeper, learn to accept your body instead of hiding it from your husband, learn to enjoy sex, initiate sometimes, be open to trying something new, and prepare your mind for sex — it’s the most powerful sex organ you have.

Comment on Are We Fighting Today’s Sexuality Battles? by Ruthie

Ruthie — Tue, 09 Jun 2026 14:45:32 +0000

I have a young 20s daughter and a son, and yet I am more concerned that my son won’t find a good, godly woman, than I am worried that my daughter won’t find a good, godly man. It’s just my perspective, but I’ve heard 20s guys complain it’s really hard to find traditional wives type today. Many young men say the women available (even Christian women) have feminist mindsets, and are more interested in pursuing careers than raising a family. I think it’s important we raise our boys to desire to be good husbands and fathers and to raise our daughters to desire to be wives and mothers. Instead of punishing the opposite sex for being masculine (“toxic masculinity”) or feminine (“too emotional “) we should embrace and appreciate these natural distinctions.

Comment on Why Isn’t Sex in Marriage Easy? by Zedekiah

Zedekiah — Sat, 30 May 2026 00:03:12 +0000

1 John 2:15–17: Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world—the desires of the flesh and the desires of the eyes and pride of life—is not from the Father but is from the world. And the world is passing away along with its desires, but whoever does the will of God abides forever.

Comment on Why Isn’t Sex in Marriage Easy? by J

Thu, 23 Apr 2026 23:15:11 +0000

In reply to Anonymous. Thank you sharing your story. Saying a prayer for you both right now.

Comment on Why Isn’t Sex in Marriage Easy? by Anonymous

Anonymous — Wed, 22 Apr 2026 20:23:14 +0000

This post was truly a blessing sent by the Lord. My wife and I have only been married for a couple years, but she recently admitted some things about sex & intimacy where she hasn’t been completely honest / forthcoming with me. It’s the first time that our sex life has felt legitimately shaken, & coming to the realization that things aren’t quite so sunny has been difficult for both of us. For me, it’s been a whirlwind of emotions, conversations, prayer, research, and self-reflection. Today, I was feeling very tired & discouraged with this process of growth and reconnection. The simple reminder to “keep pursuing Eden” brought more comfort than I can express. Thank you for writing this, at least one person has been truly blessed by it.