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Comment on 6 Reasons Why Sex Isn’t Happening in Your Marriage (and How to Address Them) by J

Tue, 01 Sep 2026 18:29:11 +0000

In reply to Clifford Wharton. Oh, no. I don't think my mom knew much either. Some parents just didn't talk about it.

Comment on 6 Reasons Why Sex Isn’t Happening in Your Marriage (and How to Address Them) by Clifford Wharton

Clifford Wharton — Tue, 01 Sep 2026 07:36:12 +0000

‘These days’ – probably yes. But ‘should have been told’ does not equate to ‘was told’.
I was born in the mid-50s so I was a teen in the late-60s & early 70s. There was no ‘popular culture’ then that I was ever aware of. Other boys at school sometimes asked ‘do you know about the facts of life?’ and I didn’t know what the question meant. So I was then bullied for not knowing.
So I would ask my parents what it meant. They just said ‘you will know when you’re older’. Then they would just clam up.

Comment on 6 Reasons Why Sex Isn’t Happening in Your Marriage (and How to Address Them) by J

Tue, 25 Aug 2026 21:18:09 +0000

In reply to Clifford Wharton. You definitely should have been told! I am curious what generation you're from, because these days, I really don't know any teen who hasn't been exposed to the idea of sex through popular culture. The quote you cited was from my Making Love When You Have Teens in the Home post, and I didn't say they necessarily know the particulars, but they know men and women have sex.

Comment on Let’s Talk About Husbands’ Orgasms by J

Tue, 25 Aug 2026 21:14:17 +0000

In reply to Clifford Wharton. I'm so sorry you've been through this. It shouldn't be so hard to get answers! I do wonder, however, if not talking about the elephant in the room halts its impact. At least one of you likely isn't okay with the status quo. I wish I had a solution for y'all.

Comment on Let’s Talk About Husbands’ Orgasms by Clifford Wharton

Clifford Wharton — Tue, 25 Aug 2026 12:53:25 +0000

I am the husband who wrote to you about male orgasm. I have had any amount of advice and treatment from HCPs (blood tests and scans) none of which has made any difference at all.
My wife and I have also had lots of couple-counselling from Drs and Christian friends none of which has helped. In fact some of the Christian-based counselling has actually been damaging.
Having a reasonable marriage relationship for us depends on not having sex in any form. It is the elephant in the room, better not talked about. It just causes trouble between us.

Comment on Let’s Talk About Husbands’ Orgasms by Anonymous

Anonymous — Sat, 22 Aug 2026 02:27:13 +0000

My issues started about 1-2 years ago. I suspect that one of my medications for enlarged prostate gland is causing this. Since I am in a sexless marriage, I have not bothered to ask my doctor to change my medication. To be honest (and I know this is not a healthy attitude), I am glad to have this issue…it eases my emotional pain of a sexless marriage.

Comment on 6 Reasons Why Sex Isn’t Happening in Your Marriage (and How to Address Them) by Clifford Wharton

Clifford Wharton — Fri, 21 Aug 2026 07:04:31 +0000

‘But what about when your kids become teenagers? Assuming you did your job, or assuming they’ve ever left home and interacted in the real world, they know about sex. If you have sex while they’re home and they hear something, they might well put two and two together and realize you’re in there becoming one flesh.’

That is a wild assumption though. My parents never told me anything. When I asked my father why he hadn’t ever said anything about sex (even when I was about to get married) all he said was ‘I assumed you knew’. He assumed wrong. ‘Go see your Dr.’

I also didn’t know anything about female periods, didn’t even know there were such things, which led to an awkward moment on our wedding night.

Comment on 6 Reasons Why Sex Isn’t Happening in Your Marriage (and How to Address Them) by A S

A S — Wed, 19 Aug 2026 14:16:53 +0000

In reply to J.

Thanks! I was aware that he existed out there somewhere (I think I heard him on a podcast at some point), but I’ve never read anything by him. I’ll go check out his resources, and if he doesn’t have anything published, I’ll look around for a way to contact him. I don’t want to be too hard on my wife – she has an incredibly difficult task handling our boys all day – but I feel like there has to be a better way to maintain intimacy than what we’re doing.

Comment on 6 Reasons Why Sex Isn’t Happening in Your Marriage (and How to Address Them) by J

Sun, 02 Aug 2026 22:09:41 +0000

In reply to Anonymous. I don't know about "awesome," but you're very welcome!

Comment on 6 Reasons Why Sex Isn’t Happening in Your Marriage (and How to Address Them) by Anonymous

Anonymous — Sun, 02 Aug 2026 18:49:15 +0000

In reply to J. J, Thanks so much! You're awesome