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Comment on We All Have Sexual Baggage by Magiz

Magiz — Mon, 21 Sep 2026 23:34:40 +0000

Thanks for being so candid about the premarital chapter — the framing about what it means “for your marriage” is what makes this useful rather than just confessional. The “long in the making” tone really comes through, and I think a lot of couples will recognize patterns from their own stories.

Comment on We All Have Sexual Baggage by Avery

Avery — Thu, 17 Sep 2026 00:19:53 +0000

Thank you J!!! <3

Comment on We All Have Sexual Baggage by J

Sat, 05 Sep 2026 00:09:33 +0000

In reply to Steve Hinton. Thanks! And this is so true: "Sometimes the biggest baggage is thinking that we, well, don’t have any."

Comment on We All Have Sexual Baggage by Steve Hinton

Steve Hinton — Fri, 04 Sep 2026 16:41:07 +0000

Thank you, J, for your work and brave honesty in this matter. Your story – and what Jesus has done with it, can be an encouragement to so many.

You are spot on in that EVERYONE brings some kind of baggage into the marriage and bedroom. Sometimes the biggest baggage is thinking that we, well, don’t have any.

My bride and I have our own stories. We also know the grace and transformative power of how Jesus can make all things new.

Keep up the good work – and as the British say – “Good Show!”

Comment on 6 Reasons Why Sex Isn’t Happening in Your Marriage (and How to Address Them) by J

Tue, 01 Sep 2026 18:29:11 +0000

In reply to Clifford Wharton. Oh, no. I don't think my mom knew much either. Some parents just didn't talk about it.

Comment on 6 Reasons Why Sex Isn’t Happening in Your Marriage (and How to Address Them) by Clifford Wharton

Clifford Wharton — Tue, 01 Sep 2026 07:36:12 +0000

‘These days’ – probably yes. But ‘should have been told’ does not equate to ‘was told’.
I was born in the mid-50s so I was a teen in the late-60s & early 70s. There was no ‘popular culture’ then that I was ever aware of. Other boys at school sometimes asked ‘do you know about the facts of life?’ and I didn’t know what the question meant. So I was then bullied for not knowing.
So I would ask my parents what it meant. They just said ‘you will know when you’re older’. Then they would just clam up.

Comment on 6 Reasons Why Sex Isn’t Happening in Your Marriage (and How to Address Them) by J

Tue, 25 Aug 2026 21:18:09 +0000

In reply to Clifford Wharton. You definitely should have been told! I am curious what generation you're from, because these days, I really don't know any teen who hasn't been exposed to the idea of sex through popular culture. The quote you cited was from my Making Love When You Have Teens in the Home post, and I didn't say they necessarily know the particulars, but they know men and women have sex.

Comment on Let’s Talk About Husbands’ Orgasms by J

Tue, 25 Aug 2026 21:14:17 +0000

In reply to Clifford Wharton. I'm so sorry you've been through this. It shouldn't be so hard to get answers! I do wonder, however, if not talking about the elephant in the room halts its impact. At least one of you likely isn't okay with the status quo. I wish I had a solution for y'all.

Comment on Let’s Talk About Husbands’ Orgasms by Clifford Wharton

Clifford Wharton — Tue, 25 Aug 2026 12:53:25 +0000

I am the husband who wrote to you about male orgasm. I have had any amount of advice and treatment from HCPs (blood tests and scans) none of which has made any difference at all.
My wife and I have also had lots of couple-counselling from Drs and Christian friends none of which has helped. In fact some of the Christian-based counselling has actually been damaging.
Having a reasonable marriage relationship for us depends on not having sex in any form. It is the elephant in the room, better not talked about. It just causes trouble between us.

Comment on Let’s Talk About Husbands’ Orgasms by Anonymous

Anonymous — Sat, 22 Aug 2026 02:27:13 +0000

My issues started about 1-2 years ago. I suspect that one of my medications for enlarged prostate gland is causing this. Since I am in a sexless marriage, I have not bothered to ask my doctor to change my medication. To be honest (and I know this is not a healthy attitude), I am glad to have this issue…it eases my emotional pain of a sexless marriage.