Spock (husband) and I are fans of board games. We both enjoy learning, strategy, and competition, along with cooperation when the game requires (e.g., Pandemic). A few years back, we tried our first bedroom game, and we’ve played a few since.

Why would a married couple add games to their sexual intimacy? Three benefits quickly come to mind!

Learn Your Repertoire

Bedroom games provide ideas of sexual activities to try. The suggestions might appear on the squares on a game board, within the card deck, or a pair of dice, but you’ll likely encounter something new or a twist on something old as you play.

You may discover a new idea that you like or that you enjoy something you didn’t realize you would.

But you also learn about your repertoire by what you won’t do. That is, most bedroom board games were conceived and manufactured by secular companies, and thus some suggestions are beyond what you are—and sometimes should—be willing to do. As one or both of you look at a suggested sex activity and says, “Nuh-uh, ain’t gonna happen,” you are delineating boundaries. Even if it’s “for now.”

The point is that a bedroom game can help you both expand and define your sexual intimacy repertoire.

Introduce More Playfulness

Have you noted the title of my website? Yes, I believe sex should be hot (enjoyable) and holy (honoring to God), but it’s also humorous. Anyone who’s had intimate sex in their marriage for years can tell at least one sex story that’s outright funny.

Not only that, it’s important to cultivate a sense of lighthearted enjoyment. Laughter is a bonding experience that’s good for your marriage, and you can even catch aspects of this attitude in the Song of Songs. Introducing playfulness can increase intimacy. Bedroom games are one way to encourage that playfulness.

Introducing playfulness can increase intimacy in your marriage. Bedroom games are one way to encourage that playfulness.
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Bedroom games often include activities outside your comfort zone that feel awkward or even funny or provide opportunities to be humorous with what you’re doing. Even the experience of having an activity timed, and then stopping right as the beep goes off and saying to your beloved, “Your turn!” can cause laughter … since that’s not usually how you do things. (At least I hope it’s not. ~wink~)

Whether you’ve struggled to lighten up or already have a great sense of bedroom humor, games can help you foster your sexual playfulness with one another.

Extend Foreplay

It takes time to play a game, and most of the game is typically focused on arousal and pleasure. That is, you’re not likely to draw a card that says, “Have intercourse until you reach orgasm.”

Rather, the bulk of play involves seduction, exploration, and stimulation. You often have to delay your full gratification until you move a certain number of spaces or complete a series of activities, which draws out foreplay.

Guided by the rules of the game, you may discover that longer lovemaking creates greater connection, anticipation, and eventual satisfaction.

(Putting it more bluntly for certain hubbies: You may realize that she can get really “wet” and even be eager for intercourse—with more attention and buildup.)

You have to set aside enough time for game play, but extended lovemaking could produce a particularly delightful experience for both of you.

Which Bedroom Games to Play?

Good question! I’ll answer that soon on my site with reviews of a few bedroom games. In the meantime, if you’re looking to go ahead and try something out, check out the Married Spice section of bedroom games.

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I fondly remember an instance not long after we met when we were sitting with a bunch of people (probably our church singles group) and he uttered a joke. It was a very dry line that was a play on words, and no one else seemed to get it. They didn’t even react. But me? I was twisted up in stitches. His sense of humor drew me in and made me want to know him more.

The other kind of joke I adore is pure silliness — like changing up song lyrics to say something completely ridiculous. My husband and I even trade out lyric lines sometimes, him adding one line and me coming up with a rhyme that goes along. If you walked in on us in the midst of this, we’d look like total geeks. But we’d be smiling.

I suspect the laughs we share outside the bedroom is one reason why we have a shared sense of humor inside the bedroom. We’re not above coming up with dorky initiation lines or quirky word play to make one another chuckle when it comes to sex.

Look, I already think sex is funny to begin with. Just imagine trying to explain it to an alien who doesn’t copulate this way: “So the husband and wife get naked, kiss and grope for a while, then they get into this position where she is . . .and he is . . .” Um, what?! Surely, God could have come up with something more dignified.

But you know what? Overly dignified people don’t throw their hands up and scream on roller coasters or do the Chicken Dance at children’s parties or eat chocolate chip cookie dough straight from the Pillsbury wrapper. In other words, they’re missing out on some of the fun of life. So I for one am glad God made sex a little on the side of playful.

If you accept that sex is at least a little humorous, and if you and your husband know how to laugh together, it seems only natural to let some of that humor invade your marriage bed. So how do you introduce laughter in the bedroom?

Laugh together, not at. First, do not harm. You’ve heard that, right? So I figure it’s best to start out with the caveat that if it’s funny to you, but hurtful or irritating to your spouse — it’s not funny. If you’re the only one laughing, rethink the punch line. And insulting jokes — regardless of how cleverly you stated it — have no place in the marriage bed.

Above all, this should be a place that is pleasurable for both husband and wife and pleasing to the Creator of sex, our God.

Access your innate funny bone. Yes, you have one. Remember as a child when you had giggle-fests with friends and siblings? Or snorted at knock-knock jokes? Or did silly dances and fell down in fits of laughter?

Why did we stop doing that? What is it about becoming an adult that made us get so serious?

Sure, we see more and know more, and the full reality of life can make us contemplative and even sad at times. The Bible says, “For with much wisdom comes much sorrow;
the more knowledge, the more grief” (Ecclesiastes 1:18). But even that same book says there is “a time to weep and a time to laugh” (3:4). So lighten up sometimes! Take some deep breathers and get yourself to the relaxed, welcoming state that encourages laughter.

Laugh at your own bloopers. Have you even seen the “blooper reel” for a TV show or movie? I think we could have one for our marriage beds too. Sometimes we have those embarrassing oopses where things don’t quite go as smoothly as we’d hoped.

If you trip, stumble, say the wrong thing, make an unusual noise (yes, sadly, farting can happen during a sexual encounter), or otherwise do something that makes you or your spouse feel foolish, laugh about it — together. You’re not on camera or being graded on a 10-point scale. You mess up, you laugh, you move on.

Make the mutual decision to give each other grace and grins when things go awry. With an upbeat attitude and a hearty chuckle, you’ll recover and have a wonderful time.

Be intentionally playful. Bring your comedy act into the marital bedroom. There was a great TV show called Make Me Laugh in which comedians were given three minutes to make a contestant laugh in any way they could. For every minute the contestant lasted, they got a dollar. I still remember a few of the absolutely crazy things these comedians did. Maybe you could take a night and make your spouse the contestant, you the comedian, and see how long it takes to get them laughing.

Crack a joke. Wear a silly outfit. Do a crazy dance. Jiggle something (assuming, like most of us, you have something on your body that jiggles). Work up the craziest initiation line you can think of. Go for broke.

Get you smile on, and then get your sex on. (Which, well, also makes you smile.)

Play a game. I will never forget this one time that my husband and I were playing a board game designed for the marriage bed and he did this thing where he ________, and we both laughed until we cried. Yeah, not going to fill in the blank. Private moment!

But the point is that games often get you smiling, so feel free to play one in the bedroom. Get your kids’ twister game and re-purpose it for a little naked limb-tangling, or grab the Nerf guns and have a foam dart battle, or play Strip ___. (I like Strip Battleship — sink a ship, and your opponent loses an item of clothing.) There are probably a hundred or more games you could play with your spouse in the bedroom, or simply buck naked wherever, that would get you both laughing.

And remember this is the best kind of game — where you “win” even if you “lose.”

Use word play. This is by far the thing that enters my marriage bed the most, probably because I love a good pun. Now if I gave you examples, I’d be letting you steal our thunder — because hubby and I are pretty good with this.

But I suspect you can turn regular phrases into your own suggestive, sexy ones with a bit of imagination. It helps if you’re willing to refer to each other’s body parts in playful ways. (Of course, remember the first caveat above. And treat your spouse’s body parts not just with humor, but with honor.)

Okay, fine, here’s one example I found on the Internet: “Let’s have sex while we’re camping. It’ll be really in tents.” Get it? In tents, intense? Sure, a ba-dum-bum would help. But you grasp the idea.

Now what suggestions do you have for introducing laughter in the marriage bed? And how does your husband make you laugh?

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