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20 Date Nights You Can Do at Home

I remember the days when hubby and I couldn’t leave the house — at least not without a lot of planning, a babysitter and a backup, and a chunk of money it was hard to spend on a simple date. After all, we had a diaper bill to pay!

These days, hubby and I have more freedom, with teenagers who don’t need a babysitter (we think), but we still often enjoy having date night at home. There’s something cozy about hanging out and getting romantic in your own familiar space.

Which is why I was excited to read Creating True Agape: 20 At Home Dates. Written by author and blogger, Cassie Celestain, this book walks couples through 20 do-it-yourself ideas for dates you can plan and execute at home.

Creating True Agape book cover

Each chapter has a focus topic, materials, instructions, discussion, and goals. Cassie is wonderfully detailed, making sure you have everything you need to follow through with the date night idea. All of the dates are designed to get you closer, interacting, and deepening the marital relationship.

From considering your goals to cooking together to an intimacy challenge (yay! right in the Hot, Holy & Humorous wheelhouse), there are sure to be experiences you’ve never done with your spouse that you’d enjoy. Although you might be surprised that my own favorites were probably the spa day and service project ideas.

These Creating True Agape ideas are also the very definition of “cheap date.” The materials needed are things you’ll likely have around your house, like writing utensils, scissors, a bowl, etc. But just because you aren’t laying out a bunch of money doesn’t mean it’s not meaningful. Instead, it will take a bit of effort and planning to make the date happen. But no more planning than getting a babysitter for the little ones or counting your pennies for the week to pay for an outside-the-home date.

I liked how these dates also demonstrate that with some effort and creativity, you can do a lot in your own home to open up communication, deepen your connection, show physical affection, and strengthen your marriage. It simply requires commitment and intentionality. You can start with a resource like Creating True Agape. And working through these ideas might inspire you to come up with a few of your own!

Click right over and purchase this resource! Also, leave a comment below, and I’ll pick two lucky winners on Friday to receive a copy of Creating True Agape: 20 At Home Dates.

Creating True Agape book coverCreating True Agape includes 20 easy and fun at home dates for you and your spouse to enjoy. With these activities, you will get to spend quality time together and share laughter while facilitating discussions about real life scenarios. These at home dates do more than just give you something to do. They are designed to cultivate communication, intimacy and growth! The dates also were created to include all Love Languages to ensure both people are feeling loved.


Cassie CelestainCassie Celestain is a wife, mom, runner and a marriage and family blogger at TrueAgape. She believes respect, trust, understanding and willingness creates happy marriages and families. She strives to keep those things the main focus in her daily life and wants to challenge others to do the same. You can get her free 6-page guide “The Secret to Making your Husband Feel Loved” now.

Make Date Night a Marriage Adventure

I recently asked Facebook followers to suggest topics for this summer, and one respondent suggested romantic getaways. To be honest, I’d probably get an “A” in sexual intimacy and a “C” in romantic endeavors.

52 Uncommon Dates book coverThankfully, Moody Publishing offered me a review copy of 52 Uncommon Dates: A Couple’s Adventure Guide for Praying, Playing, and Staying Together. Because a gal like me, and even some of you romantically seasoned folk, could use a resource with fresh ideas for date night — or even date weekend — with your spouse.

Biblically based. I’ve seen date night books before, but what I really liked about this one is how Scripture is interwoven throughout the ideas. There’s a focus scripture at the beginning, questions for relating to one another and to God, and follow-up passages to reinforce biblical understanding and intimate time.

Uncommon ideas. The book boasts that these date are “uncommon,” and indeed they are. For instance, how many of you have bonded over a trip to a cemetery? Or gone apple-picking? Too many of us default to dinner and a movie, or conversing about household tasks and parenting, or — let’s face it — trying to figure out how to skip all that and end up in bed. But a good date night helps you stay connected, grow in intimate knowledge of one another, and keep the spark alive. These uncommon ideas foster exactly that.

Little or lots of planning — your choice. The date ideas are flexible enough to allow you to put a little or a lot of effort into each one. If you’re especially creative or an organized planner, you could really amp up the experience. If you’re more about living on the fly, most of these dates don’t require too much money and effort, and you can simply follow the script and meet with success.

Intentional dating. Intention is key when it comes to continuing to date your spouse. Getting to know one another and enjoying time together shouldn’t end when we say “I do.” Our lives are far more meaningful — and the sex even more intimate — when you’re spending time with someone you know well.

Not every chapter may hook your interest, but with 52 ideas, there’s bound to be some dates you’d like to try and would enjoy. For instance, I’ll share two dates from the book that Spock (my hubby) and I have actually done — one that worked poorly and one that worked well.

Canoeing. Some years ago, Spock and I went to a nearby woodsy resort where you could rent a canoe and head out on the river. We thought that would be fun. However, we did not — as the book wisely suggests — pray or discuss anything beforehand. Instead, we grabbed our life jackets, our paddles, and pushed off into the calm waters.

Now one of us had spent every summer at church camp canoeing and had a reasonable amount of experience in paddling, steering, avoiding or navigating rapids, etc. . . . while the other one thought he was stronger, smarter, and generally better able to command the ship, so to speak. Both of us became frustrated with the other, and by the time we finally pulled back up to the bank, I’m pretty sure I’d had way too many stray thoughts of other ways I could use a canoe paddle.

All that said, it’s a shared memory now. And one we actually laugh about. So was the date a disaster? On one hand, we weren’t exactly falling in love with each other on that river. But on the other hand, we got to know things about one another, we look back with humor at that day, and we could canoe together far more successfully next time. I’d definitely do it again — but following the book’s prescription of better preparation.

Factory tour date. I adore this idea, and it’s been fabulous for us. We’ve toured the Blue Bell Factory in Brenham, Texas. (Don’t know what Blue Bell is? Then you are missing out on some fabulous ice cream!) We’ve toured the Llano winery near Lubbock, Texas. Both were fascinating trips and spurred conversation during and after the date. It was so interesting to see how these products are manufactured, and we learned more about each other based on what intrigued each of us. Of course, we also got to share some wonderful ice cream and a few sips of wine at the end of the tours.

But perhaps the coolest was a private tour. You see, my husband’s work is associated with the space industry (see how well that “Spock” moniker fits!). Due to a project he was working on, we were invited to tour the digs of a space engineering firm and see what they are working on for the future. It was so cool seeing the project in action, feeling the inner pride that my husband was connected to this amazing endeavor, and discussing the experience with him afterward.

Even though we’ve done the tour date before, as soon as I saw it listed in the book, I thought, “Why don’t we do that more often?!” Plus, there were more ideas in the chapter on how to enhance the experience.

You may find inspiration on every page or simply every other chapter, but 52 Uncommon Dates is likely to spur your imagination, motivate your marriage, and lead to some wonderful shared experiences. You’ll build intimacy as you intentionally date your spouse.Book Giveaway

Moody Publishing has allowed me to give away one free copy of 52 Uncommon Dates by Randy E. Southern. If you’re interested, please comment below with your best marriage date ever. It can be something you’ve done, or something you’d like to do.

52 Uncommon Dates book cover


I was given a free copy of 52 Uncommon Dates in exchange for an honest review of the book. My review is my own. The link provided is an Amazon affiliate link, but the book is available from other retailers as well.

Thanks for the comments! The winner of the giveaway copy is Janna McGregor. Congratulations, Janna!