Hot, Holy & Humorous


Below is a super-official Privacy Policy that I invite you to read. I added a few comments to the standard language in italics. But what you most need to know is that the Golden Rule is a guiding principle for me: I treat you the way I’d want to be treated. Therefore:

  • I don’t sell or share your contact information. My virtual assistant can also view the information, and a couple tech people have access if needed, but I vetted them and they’re cool.
  • My blog posts and newsletter are intended to minister to your marriage, but I also let you know about resources I recommend, including my own books.
  • Your data gets compiled sometimes for statistical purposes (website analytics), but you’re not individually tracked.
  • I moderate comments, and if someone asks me to change or remove a comment, I do.
  • If you ever want to unsubscribe from my newsletter or blog posts, there’s a button at the bottom that makes it easy to do that.

Without further ado, here’s the formal stuff (along with my informal comments).


My website address is:

Personal Data Collected & Why


When visitors leave comments on the site we (this is the royal we) collect the data shown in the comments form—which can include your real name or whatever nickname you make up, like Snoopy Fly or Ms. X, your choice—and also the visitor’s IP address and browser user agent string to help spam detection.

An anonymized string created from your email address (also called a hash) may be provided to the Gravatar service to see if you are using it. The Gravatar service privacy policy is available here. After approval of your comment, your profile picture is visible to the public in the context of your comment.


If you upload images to the website, you should avoid uploading images with embedded location data (EXIF GPS) included. Visitors to the website can download and extract any location data from images on the website.

I don’t even think you can upload images to my site, but it’s in the Privacy Policy WordPress provided, so hey, better safe than sorry.


If you leave a comment on our site, you may opt-in to saving your name, email address, and website in cookies. These are for your convenience so that you do not have to fill in your details again when you leave another comment. These cookies will last for one year. But God remembers you forever! And if you leave a super-awesome comment, I’ll remember you too.

If you have an account and you log in to this site, we will set a temporary cookie to determine if your browser accepts cookies. This cookie contains no personal data and is discarded when you close your browser. With all this talk of cookies, is anyone else hungry?

When you log in, we will also set up several cookies to save your login information and your screen display choices. Login cookies last for two days, and screen options cookies last for a year. If you select “Remember Me,” your login will persist for two weeks. If you log out of your account, the login cookies will be removed.

If you edit or publish an article, an additional cookie will be saved in your browser. This cookie includes no personal data and simply indicates the post ID of the article you just edited. It expires after 1 day. Again, you can’t publish content on my site, so I don’t know why this is here. But I’m afraid to take it out…just in case Big Brother is watching.

Embedded content from other websites

Articles on this site may include embedded content (e.g. videos, images, articles, etc.). Embedded content from other websites behaves in the exact same way as if the visitor has visited the other website. As a Christian sex author, I’m thinking “embedded should have a much more exciting meaning.

These websites may collect data about you, use cookies, embed additional third-party tracking, and monitor your interaction with that embedded content, including tracing your interaction with the embedded content if you have an account and are logged in to that website. More cookies! Will milk be served soon?


Google Analytics compiles data to produce statistics for administrative use. This is where I can see my top posts, primary referral sites (e.g., Google search, Pinterest), geographic regions of readers, bounce rates, and more. To see Google’s privacy policy, which includes analytics, click here.

Facebook Pixel also compiles data to produce demographic statistics for advertising use. When I run a sale on my books or an ad for a resource, I might use the Facebook Pixel to collect that data and then target ads to readers and potential followers on Facebook, to ensure they don’t miss out on an opportunity. This is aggregated data and not tracked individually.

Who Else Sees Your Data

MailerLite is my subscription service provider, and it maintains a list of subscribers identified by the name/email used when you signed up. Only myself and my virtual assistant have access to this account. If you subscribed, you were asked to confirm your subscription by email—thus ensuring a two-step, opt-in process. If at any time, you decide to discontinue or change your subscription preferences, you may do so by clicking at the provided link at the bottom of any post or newsletter you receive.

Tech Surgeons is my website host provider and security team. They access the technical coding aspects to ensure my website and your data remain safe.

From time to time, a contract programmer might run a few lines of code for me—because he’s cheaper. I mean, of course he’s cheaper, because he’s my (grown) son. But believe me, my son avoids all content areas of his mother’s sex blog like he’s holding out a ten-foot pole. He’s proud of what I do, but he doesn’t want to read it himself.

How long your data is retained

If you leave a comment, the comment and its metadata are retained indefinitely. This is so we can recognize and approve any follow-up comments automatically instead of holding them in a moderation queue. Actually, all of you are in my moderation queue. It’s like the waiting room at an office where I get to you as soon as I can. But sometimes (or often) longer than I wish. Still, did you hear I write about sex? I’m not letting just anything through, y’all!

For users that register on our website (if any), we also store the personal information they provide in their user profile. All users can see, edit, or delete their personal information at any time (except they cannot change their username). Website administrators can also see and edit that information. If you ever want a comment changed or deleted, contact me: j [at] hotholyhumorous [dot] com. 

What rights you have over your data

If you have an account on this site, or have left comments, you can request to receive an exported file of the personal data we hold about you, including any data you have provided to us. You can also request that we erase any personal data we hold about you. This does not include any data we are obliged to keep for administrative, legal, or security purposes. Oh, please don’t ask for this. I’m already overwhelmed enough!

No, really, if you want your data information, it’s your right and I will make it happen. And erasing your data is now a quick-and-easy thing to do, thanks to a WordPress update.

Where your data gets sent

Visitor comments may be checked through an automated spam detection service. You bet they do! You should see my spam folder. On second thought, no, you shouldn’t. 

Your contact information

If you need to contact the website regarding your data, email j [at] hotholyhumorous [dot] com, or fill out the contact form using the Contact J link in the drop-down menu above.

How we protect your data

My site hosted through Tech Surgeons, LLC, which is run by a cyber-security specialist. They only collect enough data to do their job, and they run regular security checks on my site. If you want to read their privacy policy, you can find it here.