Welcome! I’m thrilled you’re visiting my website. My name is J. Parker, and I have been writing the Hot, Holy & Humorous blog since December 2010. What I started as a once-a-week hobby has grown into a full-fledged ministry, reaching millions with now-thrice-weekly posts.
My mission is to reclaim sexuality for our marriages as God intended. Thus, my tag line: Sex & Marriage by God’s Design.
I wholeheartedly believe that sex is a significant part, and perk, of a godly marriage. I want to help others experience the best sexual intimacy in their marriage they can have, and that comes through believing, pursuing, and experiencing sex as God created it to be.
A few others things you might want to know:
Why Hot, Holy & Humorous? I believe those are three aspects of healthy, godly sexual intimacy: It feels good (hot); it honors God (holy); and it’s playful or even funny at times (humorous). Also, I like to add my own brand of humor to posts when the subject matter allows.
Who am I? For more about me, and why I’m writing a Christian sex blog, check out my bio here or read my testimony. Essentially, I’m a Christian wife and mother who has worked on ministry staffs, but now spends most of my time writing. My own journey from messed-up sexuality to godly physical intimacy drives me to reach out to others and help them find God’s blessings for their own marriages.
What else have I written? I currently have three books out:
Hot, Holy, and Humorous: Sex in Marriage by God’s Design is a how-to manual of sorts, describing everything from how to write a love letter to kissing to oral sex to achieving orgasm. All from a biblical perspective.
Intimacy Revealed: 52 Devotions to Enhance Sex in Marriage is a devotional book, with fifty-two entries that take you through a passage from the Bible, thoughts about how it applies to sexual intimacy, questions to ask yourself, and a guided prayer.
Behind Closed Doors: Five Marriage Stories is a collection of short stories about couples facing challenges in the marriage bed and working through them in healthy and holy ways.
What other ministry formats do I offer?
You can schedule me to speak at your women’s event! In fact, for the rest of 2018, I’m offering a special in which I waive my speaker’s fee and only request expenses. For more information, click over the my speaker page.
I am one of four co-hosts for the podcast, Sex Chat for Christian Wives, which airs a new episode every other Tuesday. You can find us on iTunes, Stitcher, and other podcast providers. Come join us at the virtual kitchen table as we talk about a sexual topic with authenticity, practicality, and humor!
What posts do I recommend to new readers? To get a sense of my approach to the Bible, marriage, and sexual intimacy, I recommend the following:
What’s the Foundation for Your Views on Sex?
8 Things I’d Say about Sex If I Had NO Filter (Heaven Help Us All)
I write primarily write to Christian wives, with thoughts for the plenty of husbands who also read. But I’m not sure every visitor to my website should stay:
Should You Be Reading My Blog?
And if you’ve made it this far, this is one of my favorite funny posts (with some real takeaways thrown in):
Sex Is For Bunnies…But Not Only Them
How can you contact me to submit a question? I am no longer able to personally respond to all of the queries I receive. However, I now have a weekly feature of Q&A with J in which I answer reader questions with a blog post. If you wish to submit a question, you can send me an email here.
How can you help my ministry? At this time, I have chosen not to monetize my blog or ask for donations. The best things you can do to help Hot, Holy & Humorous are:
- Share this site with others to spread the ministry’s reach
- Purchase any books I have published: Hot, Holy, and Humorous, Intimacy Revealed, Behind Closed Doors
- Tell others about my books or recommend them to your church leaders
- Send my speaker information to your women’s or marriage ministry leader
- Keep me and this ministry in your prayers