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Want Better Sex In Your Marriage?

Are you struggling to embrace your God-given sexuality, unsure how to get your spouse on board or looking for sex tips that align with godliness?


While sex is a significant part of marriage, it’s not always easy to navigate or nurture. Hot, Holy & Humorous provides information, encouragement, and resources to help you experience the best sexual intimacy you can have—sex in marriage as God designed it to be. Take a look around, find resources that address your marriage’s needs, and begin improving your sex life today!


Listen to Sex Chat for Christian Wives podcast co-hosted with three other marriage bloggers. We're godly girlfriends providing kitchen table talk about real and biblical sexuality, with episodes released every other week.

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Looking for a speaker to address the topic of sex in marriage, with a focus on a godly perspective? J. Parker, is an expert in the field who specializes in fostering intimacy within the context of a marriage rooted in faith.

Hi there, I'm J. Parker

I started Hot, Holy & Humorous as a blog in 2009 with the goal of helping others understand God’s design for sex in marriage and embrace God’s blessings for your marriage bed.

Making It Hot.
Keeping It Holy.
Embracing Its Humor.

Enjoy sizzling and satisfying sex in your marriage- and talk about it!

Couples often struggle to understand their spouse and discuss their sex life. In Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations about Sex for Married Couples, J.Parker provides the right framework for productive communication on a myriad of issues and helps your marriage bed move from awkward to amazing!


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Must Read Books by J. Parker

My books about sex come from a Christian point of view that have been described as “practical,” “God-honoring,” “helpful,” “honest,” and “hilarious.” Learn more about how to have a great sex life by checking out J’s books!

Become the higher desire wife God wants you to be!

The Higher Desire Wife is a community of godly women, just like you, who share and support each other in marriage. This community is founded on faith, using biblical principles to govern intimacy in marriage, whilst keeping it hot, holy and humorous

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