Taking a Break Today: Here’s Why

I’m sitting here, knowing I have a few posts drafted that could be edited and polished and published. Or I could start a new topic and write something up. But some days, things just aren’t clicking.

Many of you know that feeling in the bedroom. Maybe you want to have sex, want to enjoy intimacy, but even when you try, you’re just struggling and things aren’t happening. Most of the time, I’d say keep going and see if you can still get there.

But sometimes, you have a reason that things aren’t working — maybe something happened in your day or week that just makes that struggle so much harder.

My blog thing is the loss of a pet. Our cat of 18 years died yesterday. At night, I’m usually wedged between husband and kitty in the bed, and as I fell asleep last night one side was empty.

As a kitten, then as an adult, with R.I.P. Shadow

I’m really not crying much. It was time for him to go, and I thank God for the time I had to care for one of His beautiful creatures. But I simply feel hollow today and things aren’t clicking. So I’m going to take a break, mourn and remember, and come back next week refreshed and ready to go.

Which is how I think you should treat those times in your marital bedroom too. If things aren’t clicking that moment, it’s okay to say not now, but don’t go too long before you come back and experience intimacy with your spouse. Indeed, sexual intimacy can be a comfort in times of grief.

By the way, the loss of our Shadow means we can no longer blame any unusual noises coming from our bedroom on the cat. *smile*

Related post: Get Off Our Marriage Bed, Fido!

12 thoughts on “Taking a Break Today: Here’s Why

  1. Bob L

    Loss of a pet is hard.
    Your relating of your hubby being on one side and Shadow being on the other side. I can almost picture Shadow snuggling closer to you than your man is because cats are a jealous lot and WILL get closer.
    My wife has 2 that snuggle next to her or on her and me on the other side.
    Take time for the memories with Shadow jumping on your feet as you move them under the covers – pets bring some great joy.

  2. MG

    Mrs. Parker, I’m sorry to hear of your loss. I have become attached to many animals over the years, and losing one you’re fond of is never easy. I hope the happy memories flood your mind and you find peace and comfort–I know the feeling all too well.

  3. Chris

    I’m so sorry for your loss. Losing a pet is hard. Grieve however you need to. Both sex and the blog will be waiting when you’re ready.

  4. Lina

    Oh, so sorry for your loss. Eighteen years in a loving home – that’s good run for a kitty.

  5. Marisa

    Oh ((hugs)) to you!! Our kitty is 21 and I am thankful for every day we have with him and am dreading the day he is no longer as he will leave a big hole. Hopefully you have many wonderful memories – such a pretty kitty.

  6. Debbi

    I am so so sorry for the loss of your beloved kitty. Much love to you as you greive and remember. Hugs.

  7. Gottfried Bernard

    I am sorry for the loss of Your Kitty. My Wife and I feel with You. Last November our little Twinrabbit died after 14 1/2 Years. According to Randy Alcorn…we will see our pets again. Why should God care about creating “pets” in innocent creation and called it good, while in the redemed creation it would be of no avail.

  8. Teresa R

    So sorry to hear of the loss of your kitty. We will patiently wait for you to grieve. Take all the time you need

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