The two most beautiful words in the English language to me now are endometrial ablation. Aaaahhhh! Don’t they just drip off the tongue with sweetness and satisfaction?
Like many women, I dreaded the arrival of Aunt Flo on the calendar. For one thing, Aunt Flo always stayed too long — 8 or 9 days. She also cramped my style, literally — as in curling up into a fetal position while my abdomen and back convulsed with pain. And for the first few days of her visit, she was heavy and demanded attention every hour. I spent most of Aunt Flo’s visits popping Ibuprofen like they were M&Ms and begging God for her to go away.
Needless to say, my marital intimacy took a free fall during the time that Flo was in the house. Now that’s a pesky relative that you definitely don’t want around when contemplating romantic recreation!
As it turned out for me, the loss of blood at such a high level can cause anemia. Which was good news because that meant that my medical insurance was willing to help me get rid of my Aunt Flo problem.
My gynecologist had recently started doing a procedure called endometrial ablation in which the uterine lining is destroyed, thus reducing or preventing menstrual bleeding. There are several methods for ablating the endometrium — laser, freezing, heat, electricity. She was performing the zapper method (NovaSure) of delivering a boost of radiofrequency energy which fries the uterine lining (more or less).
Most women who had undergone endometrial ablation went down to having mild periods for only a few days. That sounded like absolute heaven to me! I scheduled surgery.
It was a quick day surgery — in and out in several hours — with a brief recovery time at home. I waited for my next period to arrive.
It didn’t. It hasn’t.
Now, my experience is atypical. And even if I did have 3-4 days of moderate menstruation, it would be a vast improvement on marking off almost a third of the month as “No Way, José” days to my husband. Now any day or night is fair game (well, when it comes to that issue).
Not having to deal with terrible periods has done wonders for our sexual frequency and fulfillment. I’ve recommended this procedure to every post-childbearing woman who struggles with a bad period. If you are completely done with having children (and you must make sure that you are!), then an endometrial ablation may be the answer for you. Check with your doctor.
Kicking out Aunt Flo or limiting her visits to a few days instead a week and half might help you be more available and interested in having sex with your husband. I know it did for me!