On Monday, I posted about Fun Findings on Sex — interesting conclusions drawn from studies on sexuality.
When I’ve read about how some of these studies are conducted, I admit to wondering who in their right mind would volunteer for that. For instance, one study involved women masturbating to orgasm while researchers nearby recorded their body’s responses and brain activity. Another asked female participants to “have sex” with a fake penis that had a camera on the inserted end.
Most of us gals cringe at the thought of our next mammogram or pelvic exam, so the idea of being a research participant for a sex study would be like asking us to dance in a thong at the next inaugural ball. We would never agree to that kind of exposure.
But I have news for you! You can be a research participant. You can learn a lot about your body and your sexual responses. You can learn about your husband’s body and his sexual responses. You can sign up for this research today!
Because the very best information about what works for your sex life will be discovered in your own bedroom. You and your husband will be both the research participants. No extra equipment or cameras needed. No third parties to observe you. No fear of exposing yourself and your private sex life to others.
You see, I and others can give you a lot of information about what we have discovered generally. Some things are simple fact — like the clitoris existing solely for the wife’s pleasure — but how you use those facts is something you and your spouse should explore and discover together. And the specifics of what works with your particular bodies in your particular marriage may be different from the general prescription.
Here’s an example. Most wives can more easily achieve orgasm through manual or oral stimulation of their clitoris than through vaginal intercourse. That’s a general conclusion that has been studied and found to be true. But in your marriage, it may be that you reach climax more easily through your husband’s penis making internal contact with your G-spot. You figure that out by researching with your husband what feels good.
Research (noun). Investigation or experimentation aimed at the discovery and interpretation of facts, revision of accepted theories or laws in the light of new facts, or practical application of such new or revised theories or laws. Merriam-Webster.com.
I like the idea of investigating my husband and experimenting in our sexual encounters so that we can discover facts, revise what we’re doing, and apply our knowledge in a practical way. Sign me up for that research study!
Go ahead and gather knowledge about sex from reputable medical and Christian resources. I’m certainly in favor of learning anatomy and techniques that will help in building a quality sex life in your marriage. I have personally benefited from gathering and using such information, and I have committed to provide information in this blog that might help your sex life.
However, you have to test out what you learn in your own marriage. It’s okay to treat your bedroom a bit like a lab and test those theories of which touches, positions, environments, and techniques produce the results you both want in your marital intimacy. Perform your own research. Consider your findings. Apply what you’ve learned.
Volunteer for your own marital intimacy research today!
I have a feeling your spouse would enjoy being your lab partner.