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#DesireCon 2023 Resources

Secrets of Sex & Marriage by Shaunti Feldhahn & Dr. Michael Sytsma

Sex is one of the most common marriage issues (for example, almost 80% of couples are mismatched in how often they want it), but it doesn’t have to be that way.

Relationship researcher Shaunti Feldhahn and renowned sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma have identified eight simple, transformational factors to help you move from disconnection to delight. This is knowledge you can trust, based on vast clinical experience and their breakthrough research, including the largest nationally representative study ever conducted with married couples about sex. This book is not a “sex manual”; it is a fascinating, practical field guide that will help you intimately understand your spouse and create the marriage you’ve always wanted. 

Behind Our Smiles Podcast with Joe & Tara Buchanan

“No matter how perfect someone’s marriage looks from the outside, every relationship has its struggles. We’ve been married for 24 years and in that time we’ve have had our own share of obstacles. From healing from childhood abuse to battling our own sin and selfishness, we know marriage is not easy. But we do believe when God enters the equation and we surrender our lives to Him, it’s always worth it. Stick around as we share the struggles and stories behind our smiles.”

Pursuit of Passion: Discovering True Intimacy in Your Marriage by Jeff Murphy & Julie Sibert

Have you allowed skewed views and bad theology to hijack the question, “What does sex mean to our marriage?” In “Pursuit of Passion,” we offer you detailed suggestions on building your sexual connection and pleasure, as well as overcoming common struggles that rob couples of authentic sexual intimacy.

This book equips engaged and married couples to replace misinformation with God’s truth — that sex is His idea, and that God designed sex to be an essential and passionate place of bonding in your marriage.

This book comprehensively looks at the spiritual, emotional and physical aspects of your sexual intimacy, tackles some of the toughest questions that couples face and includes discussion questions that will foster deeper communication for you as a couple. This book also includes an extensive list of marriage-building resources. Get ready to take your intimacy to a whole new level!

In or near Virginia Beach, Virginia? Work with Dr. Jessica McCleese!

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Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations About Sex for Married Couples by J. Parker

How can you experience sizzling and satisfying sex in your marriage if you can’t even talk about it? Yet couples often struggle to understand their spouse and discuss their sex life. Getting the conversation started can be awkward, create more confusion, or result in conflict.

Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations about Sex for Married Couples provides the right framework for productive communication on a myriad of issues, from physical health to building trust to sexual fantasies. Pillow Talk teaches you how you to ask questions, listen, and converse in a way that will avoid argument and promote understanding and intimacy. Each chapter introduces a topic, presents questions to ask one another, outlines a biblical viewpoint on the subject, and concludes with active steps to help your progress sink in. Pillow Talk will help your marriage bed move from awkward to amazing.

Sex Chat for Christian Wives Podcast

Join us at the Virtual Kitchen Table for authentic conversations about the sex in marriage! Episodes release on Tuesdays every other week.