Today’s question is from a young, single man who is wondering about the sexual intimacy he’ll one day have in marriage. His query is filled with issues I want to address, so let’s get started. I struggle with guilt about wanting regular sex in my future marriage. My sex drive is unfortunately very high to […]
differences in sex drive
I had to pare down the reader question today. There was some more background, but I included enough to get to the core of this husband’s question: My wife and I have been in marriage counseling for almost a year with little progress. There are several issues in our marriage but one of the most disappointing
Today’s reader question is a short one, with a longer answer. I had (what I hope is) a quick question. I’ve read that for men, arousal tends to follow desire, whereas for women, desire tends to follow arousal. Do we have any thoughts on why God created things this way, assuming it was not by
You might think the three things higher-drive spouses long for are sex, sex, and sex. But while I’m certain higher-drive husbands and wives would like greater frequency of sexual intimacy in marriage, I truly believe they want more. So here are three other, very important things higher-drive spouses long for. 1. Recognition that their sex drive isn’t bad.
I wrote last Thursday on What’s the Aim of His Sex Drive? and made the case that the majority of husbands aren’t just after the sex. Rather, sex is a way to be intimate with their wives. Their goal is less the sex (although, sure, that’s a big part of it) and more the connection with