what’s okay and what’s not for Christians in sex

Married, Consenting Adults: Whose Okay Really Matters?

Have you noticed that in our current culture a number of historically problematic sexual activities have become No Big Deal or even encouraged? Most often, the reason I hear is that it’s between “consenting adults.” We also hear this about marriage. After all, whose business is it if a married couple mutually agrees to engage in …

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Setting Boundaries in the Bedroom

Marital intimacy advocates often advise wives to engage more and spice up the sex in their marriage. Plenty of wives could use gentle, or even more passionate, encouragement to be adventurous in the marriage bed. But some wives get cornered by their husbands with inappropriate requests . . . and then they try to balance …

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Has the Mainstream Embraced BDSM? Should You?

Have you noticed that BDSM is going mainstream? Or maybe “gone” is the appropriate word. In case you don’t know what BDSM is, it’s an acronym that stands for: B = Bondage D = Domination/Discipline S = Submission/Sadism M = Masochism Such practices have existed for centuries, but in most societies they have been considered …

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Uh, No: Off Limits Practices in the Bedroom

So God designs marital sexuality to be like a feast that delights the senses.  It’s beyond any meal we could prepare for ourselves, with course after course of succulent samplings, mouth-watering meals, and delectable desserts. Imagine your favorite food.  Is it Chateaubriand?  Chicken enchiladas?  Seafood gumbo?  You look down at your plate in anticipation, ready …

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