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What Does a Sex Devotional Look Like?

Woman readingOne of the reasons you should study your Bible again and again is that you’ll glean different lessons from different readings. Depending on where you are in your life and your spiritual journey, God can speak to you through His Word right where you are.

Have you ever had that experience? Like when you read a Bible story you’ve heard time and time again and notice something that hadn’t stuck out to you before. Perhaps the Holy Spirit is tugging you in a direction you need to pay attention to—something you need to apply to the life you’re living now.

That’s how my new book, Intimacy Revealed: 52 Devotions to Enhance Sex in Marriage, came about. I started looking at scriptures I’d seen numerous times and noticing that they had application to my marriage . . . and even to my sexual intimacy. Even familiar Bible stories contained biblical principles I could apply to my marriage bed.

Digging further into the Word of God, I drafted 60 devotions and then chose 52 to include in the book. It wasn’t that I didn’t like the leftover eight, but I’d either covered the point in another chapter or a devotion didn’t fit as well with all the others. From that “cutting room floor,” here’s an example of a Bible story you may have heard about Nehemiah, but with an application to your marriage and marital intimacy.

Scripture

Meanwhile, the people in Judah said, “The strength of the laborers is giving out, and there is so much rubble that we cannot rebuild the wall.” Also our enemies said, “Before they know it or see us, we will be right there among them and will kill them and put an end to the work.” Then the Jews who lived near them came and told us ten times over, “Wherever you turn, they will attack us.”

Therefore I stationed some of the people behind the lowest points of the wall at the exposed places, posting them by families, with their swords, spears and bows. After I looked things over, I stood up and said to the nobles, the officials and the rest of the people, “Don’t be afraid of them. Remember the Lord, who is great and awesome, and fight for your families, your sons and your daughters, your wives and your homes.”

NEHEMIAH 4:10-14

Our marriages are under daily attack, just like the Israelites were when rebuilding the Jerusalem wall. Look around at the plethora of sinful sexual messages in our culture, and it’s easy for us to also say, “Wherever you turn, they will attack us.” It can be overwhelming at times to weed through what the world says about sex—that it’s foolish to wait until you’re married, that it’s purely physical, that there are no limits, etc.—and settle on the truth of God’s design instead. It can feel especially foolhardy to trust in God’s plan when your marital sex life isn’t everything you hoped it would be.

But maybe the wall simply isn’t built all the way yet. And the enemy doesn’t want you to succeed in erecting a strong wall in your marriage—a solid structure of satisfying sexual intimacy. He wants your marriage to be rubble. So what’s our answer? Like Nehemiah, we need to do two things: Guard the wall and trust in God’s plan.

Nehemiah set sentries to protect the workers, and likewise we need to guard our hearts and minds against wrong views of sex. Then Nehemiah appeals to the people: “Don’t be afraid of them. Remember the Lord, who is great and awesome, and fight for your families, your sons and your daughters, your wives and your homes.” We need not cower or apologize for our view of good sex in marriage, but rather remember God and His excellent plan and fight for our families. Our best defense against the enemy is the offense of an ever-growing marriage and God-honoring sexual intimacy.

Questions

♥ What erroneous messages about sex is the world sending today? How do they differ from God’s perfect plan for sexual intimacy in marriage?

♥ Where do you need to focus in your marriage? What needs to happen to strengthen your wall of sexual intimacy?

Prayer

Glorious God, we praise You and Your perfect plan for humankind. Thank You for the excellent examples of faith and righteousness throughout the Bible. I know my marriage is under attack from the enemy, and I don’t want to give the devil even a foothold through weaknesses in our sex life. So I pray You will help me guard my heart and my mind against sinful messages from the world about sex. Help me also to trust in Your plan and to be faithful in pursuing godly sexual intimacy in my marriage. In the name of Christ I pray, Amen.

What lesson or lessons do you draw from this story of Nehemiah and the building of the wall? How can you apply God’s plan for His people to your marriage specifically?

For more devotions, check out Intimacy Revealed: 52 Devotions to Enhance Sex in Marriage. (And yes, this would make a great Christmas gift!)

Intimacy Revealed Book CoverWhat does the Bible say about sexual intimacy?

Quite a lot actually. From marriage-specific scriptures to biblical principles, Intimacy Revealed: 52 Devotions to Enhance Sex in Marriage guides Christian wives through weekly devotions that shed light on God’s gift of marital sex.

Each week includes a Bible passage, application, questions, and a prayer. These short devotions will deepen your understanding of God’s design of sexuality and encourage you toward a holier, happier, and hotter marriage.

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Intimacy Revealed: My New Devotional Book Is Here!

Some themes crop up again and again on Hot, Holy & Humorous, like:

  • Sex is a gift from God to marriage.
  • God’s generosity is seen in how pleasurable and intimate sex can be for a married couple.
  • The Word of God is our guide for how to have God-honoring sexual intimacy.
  • Scriptures about marriage can be applied to the marital bedroom, as can scriptures about how to treat ourselves and one another.

Early in 2014, I began to earnestly search the Bible for lessons for the marriage bed and draft devotions based on what I found. I was amazed by how God’s plan for marriage and sexual intimacy shines through so many passages, both those we consider marriage scriptures and ones we don’t usually think to apply to that relationship.

I would love to walk you through that journey of discovering how God’s Word can nurture the sexual intimacy in your marriage. And my new devotional book, Intimacy Revealed: 52 Devotions to Enhance Sex in Marriage, does just that.

Intimacy Revealed book coverWhat does the Bible say about sexual intimacy?

Quite a lot actually. From marriage-specific scriptures to biblical principles, Intimacy Revealed: 52 Devotions to Enhance Sex in Marriage guides Christian wives through weekly devotions that shed light on God’s gift of marital sex.

Each week includes a Bible passage, application, questions, and a prayer. These short devotions will deepen your understanding of God’s design of sexuality and encourage you toward a holier, happier, and hotter marriage.

Amazon (Kindle ebook)
Barnes & Noble (Nook ebook)
Print book

Many devotional books are 365 days, but I went for 52 weekly devotions. To be honest, when I try those 365-day ones, I hit about March 8 and feel bad that I’m still on January 27. (And all too often, by June I’ve just given up.)

Yes, of course, I should study the Bible daily, but my devotional activities tend to be a mix-and-match sort of thing — depending on what other Bible-study pursuits I’m involved in at the time. So weekly devotionals on sexual intimacy seemed just about right to me, allowing you to work on this aspect of your marriage while still doing other devotional or Bible study activities. You’ll also have time to ponder the questions throughout the week and maybe try out a different approach to a challenge in your marriage.

Each devotion only requires a few minutes. However, you may want to spend more time on the questions to really dig into your own marital situation and how to apply the Word of God there.

This devotional book is intended for wives in any stage of marriage. Whether your sex life is struggling or doing pretty well, the Word of God can illuminate areas where you can foster greater intimacy in your marriage.

The ebook is ready for purchase right now, from Amazon and Barnes & Noble. Priced at $4.99, the ebook is cheaper than a tube of personal lubricant, a pair of Victoria’s Secret undies, or a bottle of bubble bath. I’d assert that your marital intimacy is worth $5 and 10-15 minutes a week.

The print book will be available very soon, since I’m just waiting on proof copies to double-check before I click Publish. I’ll announce here (and everywhere else I can) when the print format goes live.

As you can see, I’m pretty excited about this. From germ of an idea to fully-finished book is a journey in and of itself, but even more wonderful was what I learned and had reinforced as I wrote and then read back through the devotions. My God is a loving, generous Father. And today especially, it’s easy to thank Him for the beautiful gift of sexual intimacy in marriage.

May you experience all He has in store for you in your marriage!

Happy Thanksgiving!