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13 Sexy Valentine’s Gifts from Your Grocery Store

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In case you’re strapped for time, yet you still want to put together a Valentine’s gift for your hubby (or wife) that conveys you and me, baby, don’t worry. I’ve got you covered. You can load up on the milk, bread, and meal items, and then add a few extras to your cart for a special, intimate Valentine’s Day.

Yes, you can find sexy gifts at your grocery store. I perused my local supermarket, and here’s what I discovered.


Lubricant. Your grocery store likely has a section of intimacy items that include lube options. Find a product you haven’t tried, maybe something flavored, and add a note for your hubby of how you’d like to use it.

CupcakesBakery treats. Grab a tasty treat from the bakery, with plans to eat it together in bed. Awakening your five senses can lead to an easier time for sexual arousal, so start with livening up your taste buds. You can even mention where else you’d like to put your mouth when the cupcake’s gone.

iTunes gift cardMusic gift card. Buy a gift card and suggest choosing songs for sex together. Make the selection a joint effort. You’ll likely have fun coming up with ideas and putting together a special marital intimacy playlist. You can find some suggestions for tunes here.

Greeting cardGreeting card. Find a more suggestive greeting card — one that not only says you love your man, but you find him sexy. Write something playful and promising in your own hand. Address the envelope “My Lover” or some nickname you’ve given him.Body oilLotionBody oil or lotion. In the body care aisles, look for oil or lotion you can use for massage. Promise to get naked and rub his body, or rub each others’ bodies, with the product. Make sensual touch an integral part of your Valentine’s celebration with a special massage.

Washable markersSharpie markersMarkers. Why markers? Because you can use them to write a special message on your body, just for your husband. Or draw hearts or arrows on your skin to lead him where you want him to touch. The washable markers will go on easily and come off with soap and water. But you can also use Sharpie markers to get your point across; it has more staying power, but comes off with alcohol or acetone (nail polish).

wineWine. If you and your husband drink, buy a special bottle of wine to share together. Add some special glasses wrapped with red ribbon for the occasion. You can even make your own wine label or a note with this verse: “Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth—for your love is more delightful than wine” (Song of Songs 1:1).

Bubble bathBubble bath. Pick your favorite bath stuff, present it, and invite him to join you. Spend some time soaping each other up and soaking naked in the bubbles.

Chocolate candyChocolates. Hey, it’s a classic for a reason. Remember that sweet treat stuff I said earlier? Feed each other the chocolates in turn. Even make a game out of it — letting the one who gets a fruit center choose sexual position and the one who gets caramel (the yummiest one) choose location. Or something like that.

Board gamesBoard gamesBoard game. Speaking of games, does your grocery store have a kids’ toy department? Even small sections likely have a few classic games. But when it comes to marriage, they’re not just games, but rather opportunities to play Strip _____. Almost any board game can be adapted for a clothing-removal challenge that ends with both of you winning. Or grab Twister, throw it out on your bedroom floor, and play naked; you’ll have fun and end up perfectly entangled.

Marriage booksMarriage books. If your grocery store has a book section, they might have some books you could read. For instance, you could go through this Love Is a Verb couples devotional book in bed together. Did you know that couples who pray together have very low divorce rates and report very satisfying sex lives? Becoming spiritually intimate is a great idea on its own, but it can also boost your sexual intimacy.

RosesRoses. Buy the roses, but don’t leave them in the paper! Pull the flowers apart and scatter the petals on your bed as an invitation for special, intimate activity. Make your bedroom smell like a garden, then post a sign or give him a note citing, “Let my beloved come into his garden and taste its choice fruits” (Song of Songs 4:16).

chocolate syrupwhipped creamChocolate syrup and whipped cream. Need I explain what you can do with these? Just know that they even have reduced calorie and sugar-free options, so you can probably find something that works for you. And be sure to grab a towel, because while this is fun, it can get messy. Enjoy!

See? You really can find good stuff at the grocery store. Just be creative about the presentation and let hubby know you’re up for a special night of intimacy, in honor of Valentine’s Day and your covenant marriage.

What else have you bought or seen in the grocery store that would make a sexy Valentine’s gift? Any ideas for presentation?

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Does He Just Want Sex for Valentine’s Day?

Valentines BedIt’s two weeks away, but already couples are considering, planning, or even sweating what they will do for each other on St. Valentine’s Day. February 14 has been designated as the ultimate day of romance and love, and many married couples celebrate it each year.

When asked what husbands want for Valentine’s, the standard answer is — let’s face it — sex.

Which strikes many wives as odd. Isn’t Valentine’s about romance? Where’s the romance in spreading out on the sheets and going at it? Couldn’t you do that another day and instead devote yourselves to deep affection and sweet gestures of love?

So here’s my answer to the question: Does he just want sex for Valentine’s Day?

The Yes Men. For a certain number of husbands, the answer is an emphatic YES. Whether you understand it or not, that husband feels closest to you when you make love. It rekindles and refreshes his love for you. When you bare your body to him, he’s ensured that you trust him with your fragile form. When you engage in lovemaking, he’s reminded that he alone has this special relationship with you, that this relationship is unique and beautiful. When you are aroused and pleasured by him, he feels potent and confident in his ability to care for you and give you happiness. When you have intercourse, he is filled with a sense of unity and intimacy. When you are both sated, his body responds with feel-good chemicals and warm-fuzzy feelings that equate to the emotion of love.

Yep, when you have sex, he feels loved. It’s really that simple. So if your husband asks for sex for Valentine’s Day, he’s not saying, “Give me physical release,” he really is asking for something deeper, something that communicates love to him. Give it to him. Sure, ask for whatever romance you desire, but give him the gift that’s meaningful to him. Have sex on Valentine’s Day.

The Romantics. However, there are plenty of husbands who revel in romance. They enjoy buying their wife flowers, writing love notes, planning thoughtful dates, slow dancing in the living room, and declaring their love with serenades or poetic words. Sex isn’t enough for them. If sex is on their wish list, they want it wrapped up in pretty romantic paper and a bow. Indeed, Valentine’s Day may be just the day to step it up and create a memorable lovemaking experience.

If that’s your guy, then set the scene! Bring on the romance! Have that candlelight dinner, at home or in a restaurant. Make an intimacy mix CD or plan for a night of music and/or dancing. Take time to prepare the bedroom with candles or rose petals, or make a hotel reservation. Purchase lingerie he’ll enjoy seeing you in . . . and then removing. Consider bringing something special to bed that night — perhaps a flavored lubricant or an intimacy board game. Go the extra mile to make the whole night romantic, including your time together in bed.

The Humbugs. I admit it. I’m a bit of a holiday humbug myself. I admitted last year that I’m not that into Valentine’s Day, and this year I laughed aloud when I read the title of a post by Mission Husband: Why Valentines Day Makes Me Want to Barf (it actually has some great marriage-building stuff in there). My not-so-romantic husband was wise to marry a gal like me, for whom Valentine’s Day can generally be covered with a single greeting card.

Maybe you’re married to a guy who doesn’t care about this holiday. Or even to a guy who doesn’t care about sex as much as you do. When asked if he wants sex for Valentine’s Day, you get a shrug like it doesn’t really matter one way or the other. So what should you do for him? Some of that depends on the depth of the issue — like if your marriage just isn’t where it should be and needs work in that department or he really is disinterested in sex generally and that’s an ongoing issue in your marriage. Those should be dealt with outside the subject of holidays.

But the best gifts are tailored to the recipient. So if it’s not a huge deal for him, don’t make a huge deal out of it for him. Yes, you should ask for what you desire, but also show him love in a way that he’ll understand. Even better, do something that doesn’t necessarily seem geared to the holiday but still warms your heart to know that you made an extra effort. Cook his favorite meal. Offer to watch his television show or take an after-dinner walk or play a video game with him. Give him tickets to an upcoming sporting event or a concert he’d like to attend. Do something for him, sure. But don’t expect fireworks if your guy isn’t the fireworks type.

If you can have sex that night, do so. But if it doesn’t work out, don’t beat yourselves up. Valentine’s Day is a holiday for many, but you can make other days special too. Indeed, work toward having the kind of marriage in which special encounters between you two are frequent, natural, and not reserved for holidays.

Does he just want sex for Valentine’s Day?

Maybe, maybe not. Like so much else in marriage advice, you have to consider the mate you married. And then, the loving thing to do is to give him the gift that means love to him.

How does your husband approach Valentine’s Day? Does he expect sex and/or romance? Or does he try to ignore the day generally?

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