Is Your Husband the Sexiest Man Alive?

Male silhouette with blog post titleAlmost every year since 1985, People magazine has named its “Sexiest Man Alive.” It’s become a widely publicized event to find out who scored the year’s honor of being the world’s most attractive (celebrity) man.

Previous winners include Mel Gibson, Brad Pitt, Harrison Ford, Pierce Brosnan, Hugh Jackman, Johnny Depp, and Adam Levine. This year’s winner? Chris Hemsworth. (In case you don’t know who that is, I have one word for you: Thor.)

But I take issue with that whole thing. Because hey, I’m living with the sexiest man alive! At least in my opinion. And my prayer is that every wife would feel that way about her husband.

All too often, I hear wives speak about and drool over some celebrity guy, even joking that they’d leave their own husband if that hunky actor or singer showed up at their door. Look, I get it. God made some highly attractive men, and I notice them too. As they say, I’m married, not blind.

But when it comes to where we place our sexual drive focus, that should go to the man who put a wedding ring on your finger and a lifelong vow on his lips.

So yeah, I think my husband is the sexiest man alive. Not because he has big biceps or baby blue eyes like Chris Hemsworth (he doesn’t), but because his intimate love for me is beyond sexy — it’s holy and hot and mine-all-mine.

So how can you cultivate that feeling that your husband is the sexiest man alive? Here are a few ideas:

Stop focusing on some far-off celebrity. A reminder about most of these celebrities: It’s part of their job to look good. Thus, many of them have personal chefs, athletic trainers, make-up artists, hair stylists, etc. to enhance their features. So when you see that guy in a photo shoot for a magazine, he’s been spruced up. But sexy is more than looking good. Remember that you don’t know that guy, not really. So don’t dwell on getting hot and bothered over some stranger whose biggest draw is their amped-up appearance.

Remember what appealed to you about your husband. When you first picked your hubby, I’m sure you gazed at him lovingly. He looked good in your eyes. You wanted to check him out, be near him, kiss his handsome face. And he’s the same, even if there are some more wrinkles or maybe love handles on him. Tap into those memories and the feelings you had about how sexy your husband was when you picked him out.

Remind yourself of his current assets. I recently posed a quick question on social media asking people to name three things they loved about their spouse. I started the ball rolling with my answer of “his integrity, his humor, and his wintertime facial hair.” I loved the responses I got, which included a lot of good and godly characteristics but also physical features — like his eyes, his handsome good looks, his height, his hands, his dimples, his butt. Why not take stock of what you like about your husband’s body? I bet he’s got some sexy stuff you could note and appreciate.

Romance your guy. There’s a lot of talk about husbands romancing their wives, and that’s a great idea. But make your own efforts to stoke those romantic feelings for your husband. When you invest in flirting, dating, and stirring up the sexy factor in your marriage, you’ll start to see your man as well-worth your second and third glances. If you’re looking for romantic ideas, I recommend reading The Romantic Vineyard.

Nurture your sexual intimacy. Sexy is as sexy does. If you have satisfying sexual intimacy in your marriage, your husband will feel pretty darn sexy to you. What’s sexier than the man you love more than anyone else in the world bringing you to the peak of pleasure and melding his body with yours? Find time to be intimate, playful, and sexual together. If you follow God’s design for sexual intimacy, your definition of sexy will become the way your husband treats you in the marriage bed.

Yep, I’m convinced that, regardless of what People magazine says, my husband is the sexiest man alive. Chris Hemsworth, or any other celebrity, would finish a distant second.

Now tell me why you think your man is the sexiest man alive. And how can you cultivate that approach to your husband?

10 thoughts on “Is Your Husband the Sexiest Man Alive?

  1. happywife

    Yes, my husband is, in fact, the sexiest man alive and I tell him that all the time.
    It really bothers me when women go on about how good looking/sexy certain celebrities are. I find it highly inappropriate and disrespectful to their husbands. Sure, I can appreciate a visually appealing man, but I don’t dwell on it and I would never in a million years vocalize about it to my husband. My husband is all the sexy eye candy I need and I want him to know that.

  2. libl

    Anybody else’s sex appeal is frankly none of my business. So, I couldn’t even tell you. Yes, some actors in movies (their characters/situations) have made my heart flutter like a school girl on a crush, but to harbor those caterpillar feelings, and worse, nurture them into butterflies is not what a spouse should be doing. Besides, it isn’t real. My husband is real. Our marriage is real, our love real, our sex life real and tangible (we have kiddos to prove it…lol). To put hubby up against another is disrespectful to both of them.

    Hubby has remarked on the beauty and sex appeal of other women and it is crushing. But when I question him on it, he doesn’t get it. To him, I am set apart. There is no comparison. You cannot put me alongside any woman because I am beyond all that. I am his wife! I stand alone.

  3. Amy

    Yes, my hubby is the sexist man alive because he is mine, and he loves and cherishes me beyond anything else.
    Personally, I’ve never been one to swoon over actors, I actually laugh when I look through a copy of People’s Sexiest Man Alive issue because I think that overall these are just average Joes who happen to have someone picking out their clothes for the photo shoot, styling their hair and possibly dabbing on a little makeup to boot. And honestly, I think to myself how they are probably not that sexy in real life — they are just pretty boys for the big screen!

  4. Greg

    True beauty comes from inside (men and women alike). Like Amy noted, “pretty boys” is an accurate description–especially when you take someone like Tony Curtis, who arguably was very handsome, and an extremely talented actor; and had everything (materialistically) a man could want.

    …but take a look at Tony’s personal quotes on the imdb.com and tell me they don’t turn your stomach…those good looks and talent mean absolutely nothing with a completely selfish, decaying soul beneath.

  5. El Fury

    My wife Sexy Corte and recently read a marriage book, and one of the lines we both like from it was this: your spouse is your standard of beauty. My wife is the sexiest woman in the world!

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  7. Jem

    This was pretty neat for me today because I saw a copy of the cover of that magazine yesterday at supper, looked at it a minute, and told my husband that Chris Hemsworth was not the sexiest man in the world- implying that my husband was, instead. And for all the reasons you described. He is more beautiful to me all the time. And he’s mine.

  8. erica

    Why is my husband the sexiest guy around? Yes, he’s crazy handsome and has a great butt. It’s so much more, though, including (but not limited to): that sparkle in his eye; the way he looks at me when we dance together; his need to snuggle; his total commitment to our marriage;’his committment to God; the fact that I can still make him laugh; his love and strength during the hard times and crises we’ve faced; his desire to hold our dying son for hours, giving him skin-on-skin contact; his desire to be close to our teenage daughters; his faithfulness to me; his sincere enjoyment of our marriage. Sure, there are lots of really “hot” guys out there, but my husband is real and is mine. No one else gets to see his body – it’s not flashed on movie screens for all the world to see – and no one else gets to know the deepest parts of his heart or feel his touch the way I do. Is he perfect? Nope, but he’s perfect for me, and that’s all that matters!

  9. Rose

    Yes, I feel this way about my husband. No matter how age and time have changed him. His gorgeous blue eyes that crinkle when he smiles, and yes, a butt that won’t quit! Arms that make me swoon. I just wish he felt the same about me. He has been very clear that I can never compare to an 18 year old and that he really hasn’t found me attractive since the first few years of our marriage. He admits that he checks out every attractive young girl he sees, and that probably 50% of the time we are out together, his eyes and mind are on other women. But he says he loves me, he considers me his best friend, and says he is happily married to me. Yet it hurts me that he his desire belongs to those young women – not to me. I am 52 and in better shape than the day we married. 5’8, size 2, blond. Yes, my face is not as youthful as it once was, I have stretch marks, and I guess those things matter to him more than “inside beauty”. It is crushing. But I will love him the way I always have. And pray that one day he comes back to me.

    1. J Post author

      I can only imagine how you feel, since it crushed me to simply read how his eyes have strayed. I pray that your husband will begin to fully appreciate your beauty, inner and outer. Many blessings, Rose!

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