In my post last Thursday, I wrote In Celebration of the Kiss. Kisses have been lauded for a long time as a beautiful expression of love between a man and a woman. My focus on this blog is the love between a husband and a wife. And sometimes, we forget to keep the romance alive through tender and passionate kissing in our marriages.
Now there are types of kisses — from the quick peck to the soft exploring kiss to the open-mouthed twisting of tongues. They all have their place.
Jeanne Bourgeois said (in 1955): “A kiss can be a comma, a question mark, or an exclamation point.” How true! The type of kiss can say a lot about what is going on between the two of you, and — like grammar — there is room for all kinds of punctuation.
Here are a few kissing types:
Butterfly Kiss. This kiss is often given from parent to child and vice-versa. It involves blinking one’s eyes to rub eyelashes against another’s cheek or some other area of skin. It’s sweet, but not particularly romantic. If you get hot and bothered from a butterfly kiss from your spouse, it’s been way too long since you had some nooky.
Peck. Pecks are those quick puckered-up kisses usually given in a hurry as one of you rushes out the door. A peck can also be a nice way of kissing in public without making everyone cover their eyes or puke. Pecks are great for what they are — a quick reminder that you love this person and cherish them.
Face Kiss. This is simply one of you kissing the other anywhere on the face — cheek, forehead, nose, etc. A face kiss allows one of you to express affection or distract your spouse from whatever he/she is doing. Like if I’m blogging here, and my husband starts kissing my forehead, check, chin,… Where was I? Anyway, you get the idea. Soft kisses on the face are initiated by one partner, but usually rather appreciated by the other.
Soft Lip Kiss. My favorite! A soft lip kiss is simply leaning in and tenderly kissing one another’s lips. In this kiss, lips are typically parted like a cracked door or a hot dog bun — a small opening, but not too much. This soft kiss should last several seconds, to allow lingering on one another’s delicious lips. It can be enjoyed alone or as a teaser for a more passionate kiss. Many classic Hollywood kisses are soft lip kisses and leave us wanting more.
French Kiss. I don’t know why the French get credit for this one. Were they the only ones with tongues? I think not! It’s also called “tongue hockey” (lovely, eh?). Basically, you tangle tongues and share saliva. A great French kiss is incredibly passionate and can tickle you all the way to your toes. A terrible French kiss chokes you or leaves you calling the HazMat team to clean up all the extra spit. The most important thing to remember here is to be gentle and flexible. Don’t attack your spouse’s mouth; tease, explore, and enjoy it.
Licking Kiss. A licking kiss involves your tongue stroking his/her tongue, teeth, lips, etc. This is also a titillating move, as long as you remember this is your honey’s mouth and not the Tootsie Roll Lollipop that you must reach the center of. Take it slow, and use your tongue lightly.
Nibbling Kiss. How much should you involve your teeth in the process of kissing? Some people like to nibble on their spouse’s lips. Notice I said “nibble,” not “bite.” Yes, Edward and Twilight are all the rage, but if you feel a vampire impulse with your beloved…not cool. Keep it a nice soft use of your teeth. Of course, some people don’t like this at all, so gauge your spouse’s pleasure as you try it.
I’ve kept my kissing types to the lips, although the beauty of kissing is that you can pucker up, lick, and nibble almost anywhere on your spouse’s body (as long as they enjoy it too).
If you need more help in the kissing department, I found some hilarious video tutorials for kissing. Here’s one on How to Kiss Passionately (warning – lots of kissing, of course). And here’s a link to bad kisses; for example, the Grouper and the Wrecking Ball.
Here are a few questions for you: Can you think of any other kissing types? Do you have a favorite? What do you like about your favorite type of kiss?
Here are a few questions to ask your spouse: What is your favorite type of kiss? How important is kissing to you feeling loved and cherished? How can I be a better kisser for you? Do you want to kiss now? Hopefully, that’s the last question you’ll get in before your lips and tongues entangle. It might lead to other things, or if your house is like mine, it might lead to your kids walking in and saying, “Eeewww!” Either way, it’s a better use of a few seconds than whatever else you were going to do!
“Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth!”
Song of Songs 1:2