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5 (Random) Analogies for Sex in Marriage

I have a tendency to use analogies to make points about sex in marriage. For instance, I’ve compared to sex to food, sports, and bunnies (yes, bunnies).

While I certainly believe God made us humans more complex than many of the word pictures I paint, comparing sex to other things we relate to can help us better understand a principle or application. So I got to thinking . . . what else could I compare sex to? I suspect I could draw a principle or application from just about any analogy someone suggested.

Today I’m giving it a shot.

I started with the statement in my head of “Sex in marriage is like ____.” Then I used an online random word generator and got five nouns — completely random! — and here I go.

Sex in marriage is like a tower. Easy phallic references aside, sex in marriage is like a tower. How so? Put simply, it stands above the rest.

Towers are taller than the buildings around them — whether it’s the Sears Tower in Chicago, the Eiffel Tower in Paris, or the water tower in your small town. Likewise, godly sex in marriage rises above the rest, its intimacy superior to any other sexual relationships. And it needs to be held up like a tower for others to see that it supersedes the short, squat versions of sex that don’t mirror God’s design. Indeed, God is the master architect of sex, and when we follow His plan, our sexual intimacy with our husband can soar to great heights. Let’s aim to climb to that top and enjoy the amazing view.

Marital Intimacy Man superhero
courtesy of Create Your Own Superhero

Sex in marriage is like a cape. Capes are known for doing two things — keeping you warm and signifying you’re a superhero. Both apply to sex in marriage.

Experiencing true intimacy with your husband in the marriage bed gives your relationship a comforting warmth. You can snuggle right into that secure feeling of knowing that you belong to him and his desire is for you (Song of Songs 7:10). Moreover, that foundation of satisfying intimacy can give you greater confidence to get through your day and accomplish what you need to accomplish. It likely has that effect on your husband too. Many husbands report feeling like Superman when they experience great lovemaking and especially when they pleasure their wife to climax.

So yeah, grab your cape.

Sex in marriage is like an encyclopedia. The constant message in our world is that unmarried, uncommitted people are having the best sex. And that’s a lie. Both the Bible and research are clear that married couples have more frequent and more satisfying sexual intimacy. Why? Because sex in marriage is like an encyclopedia.

Over the course of many years in a marriage, you build up so many entries of what your husband likes, what arouses you, positions you tried, locations you made love, activities you enjoy, and on and on and on. Dating relationships, “friends with benefits,” and one-night stands are like a single entry, whereas a covenant relationship allows you time and opportunity to get to know one another so deeply that you can become the expert on your spouse. Who wants a single page torn out of Britannica when you can get the whole set of encyclopedias?

Michelangelo’s Pietà — by Stanislav Traykov, via Wikimedia Commons

Sex in marriage is like a statue. It’s a goal in my life to see Michelangelo’s work in person — specifically, his statues. I’m awed by his ability to sculpt marble into beautiful carved likenesses. When you look up Michelangelo’s famous statues, you discover that they took time — years. Surprisingly, Wikipedia reports that “Sculpting of the [Pietà] took less than two years” — like that’s a short time!

Sex in marriage is like a statue in that same way — it takes time to bring the best out of the block of marble you begin with. We can get frustrated at the time and effort required to deal with obstacles and challenges; sometimes, it feels like the “marble” is hard and uncooperative. But with God guiding our hands, with patience and care, and with ongoing hope that a beautiful statue waits to be brought forth, we can sculpt something absolutely gorgeous in our marriage bed — an intimacy unrivaled here on earth. As Michelangelo famously said, “Every block of stone has a statue inside it and it is the task of the sculptor to discover it.” Be the sculptor of your marital intimacy, and let God guide your hand.

Sex in Marriage is Like a SquareSex in marriage is like a square. Not being very big on math and spatial relations, I had to think about this one for a bit. But yeah, sex in marriage is like a square.

A square is a four-sided figure with sides and angles of equal length. It’s a balanced figure, with two sets of parallel lines, and a line running through its center produces two figures of the same shape and size (triangles). There is true symmetry to a square. Likewise, marriage without sex is unbalanced, unconnected. It’s like two triangles that never fully meet, while sex in your marriage brings them together and creates a new whole — a square.

But that square has boundaries too. There are outer limits and those “walls” need to be maintained to keep sexual intimacy where it belongs — exclusive to you two and your marriage.

So that’s my sex in marriage is like ___ exercise! I really, truly did use the five random words given to me. Now let’s hear your take: How do you think sex in marriage is like a tower, a cape, an encyclopedia, a statue, or a square? Or what other analogies do you have for sex in marriage?

14 thoughts on “5 (Random) Analogies for Sex in Marriage”

  1. that was an awesome post!!!

    Thank you for all your post…they truly are a blessing to me.

  2. That was interesting. I think this is my first time commenting, since I am unmarried, and therefore, chaste.

    But seeing Michelagelo’s statues in person is a worthwhile goal. Go to Italy. Rent a little flat in Florence. Buy some produce and cook. And make sure you go in winter (off season). (Rome and Millan are nice, but much more expensive). I think the big Michealangelo collection is in Florence anyway, including the David. Btw, nothing prepares you for seeing it. Yeah you see picture of it. But David is AT LEAST three stories high. It’s amazing. Make sure you see some other sculptures and paintings too.

  3. I wrote a devotional based on the Song of Solomon, when I read your post I thought of this verse and what I wrote about it.
    “They neck is like the tower of David builder for an armory, whereon there hang a thousand bucklers, all shields of mighty men (The Song of Solomon 4:4).

    This poetic verse doesn’t seem very sweet at first but it truly was a compliment. The tower of David, a man made landmark, was visible from afar and helped give protection and direction in Solomon’s day. The bridegroom is proclaiming that this woman is stately like a citadel with her commitment and will being only toward God. She is not like the people who disobey God and are considered “stiff-necked”. The bride is willing to take direction from her king, adapting and moving whatever direction he tells her. The woman’s strength compares to an extravagantly large storehouse of offensive weapons that protects from enemies.”

  4. A veil is kind of like a cape so I thought about what I learned and wrote in the devo. “Moses asked God to let him see His glory. God allowed his presence to pass by and placed Moses in the cleft of the rock and covered him with His hand. They had intimate fellowship for 40 days. When Moses returned to the people he did not know that he was “glowing”. The others were afraid so he had to wear a veil because the radiance was so great that it intimidated the others. (Exodus 33:18-23)

    When Ruth laid at Boaz feet he was surprised to wake up and find her there. He spread, like a veil, the blanket over this virtuous woman. Showing his desire to cover her and take her as his wife. (Ruth 3)

    In Solomon’s day a woman who was betrothed in marriage wore a veil whenever she went out in public to prevent others from looking at her with desire, her purity was then assured.”

  5. Sex in marriage is like fine wine,
    That improves with age over time.
    An occasional tweak,
    Can elicit a squeak,
    Sparking desire for the next dine.

  6. We had a Pastor who did a series on ‘Marriage’ and he called the husband the ‘umbrella fella’. When we are under the umbrella with our husband, we are covered. The Lord is our protection and our husband is our ‘spiritual’ covering. I love to think of my husband and our life together as being safe under God’s ‘umbrella’.

  7. A tower needs a strong foundation–much deeper than is evident to the casual passerby. The foundation of our marriage has strengthened and deepened over the decades of our marriage, and a beautiful sex life is an integral part of that trust.

    1. Wow. Also, towers were usually the place of the lookout or the defense structure. Sex is our defense against the enemy.

  8. When I read cape, I thought of a cape size ship. They are huge vessels, have something of worth to carry and have a destination. I think I’m more considering then in the sense of analogy for marriage…

  9. Marriage is like a square.

    Lay 4 boards end to end in the shape of a square. Join them together at each corner with a single nail. The structure is weak because the corners can pivot. Raise the square to a standing position.

    The square is the marriage and embraces the husband and wife. The square is easily collapsed by outside forces. The marriage square is only as strong as the commitment of the husband and wife to support and strengthen it unless they too let it fall.

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