Every year, I post some list of holiday gifts for your spouse—from sexy stocking stuffers to romantic experiences. Have I expended all of my ideas? Not yet, but it has gotten harder to come up with fresh ones! Which is why I’m adding a few more this time, but also providing a collection of prior posts that you can peruse to find fun ideas for your spouse and your marriage.

A Few New Gift Ideas

Open When Letters / Envelopes

Present your beloved with envelopes that say “Open When ____” on each and have a customized messages inside. I looked at several options, downloaded a couple, and ended up really liking this printable set from PrintyIllustrations that includes labels, cards, and envelopes if you need them, as well as inspiration for what to write in your messages. What a great way to encourage your spouse and express your love!

Weighted Blanket

These blankets have become rather popular in recent years. My son got one, and at first I thought it was just some whatever trend. But then I got underneath the weighted blanket, and ooooh, aaaah … I get it. A weighted blanket may be just what your spouse or your bed needs for you to have a good night’s sleep and some even better snuggling.

Check out the blanket here!

Split Blanket & Sheet Set

But what if your spouse keeps stealing your covers? Well, Uncommon Goods has you covered with a couple’s split blanket & sheet set. Who knew!

Sexy Christmas Cookies

It’s pretty amazing what you can find on Etsy, an online marketplace for vintage and handmade items. For instance, a cookie cutter set you can use to make both cookies and a clear invitation to have sex. In case you need a good sugar cookie recipe, try this one or this one.

Personalized Scented Candle

Have you heard of the idea of you or your spouse lighting a candle when you’re open to having sex? Well, you can buy candles that say that basic thing (“when this candle’s lit, then…”), but the verbiage is often crass. How about putting your own message on the candle? You could say something like: “When this candle is light, let’s get intimate” or “Time to Play” or “I Burn for You.” Come up with the right invitation for your marriage bed, along with some good aromas to get you both in the mood.

See the candle here.

Gift Ideas for Our Podcast

Be sure to check out our gift-themed episodes from Sex Chat for Christian Wives (links in show notes).

• Episode 120: Our Holiday Gift Guide – Sexy and Romantic Gifts for Couples
• Episode 96: 35 Gifts for Your Marriage
• Episode 72: The Ultimate Sexy Gift Guide

Where to Shop for Lingerie?

Check out MENTIONABLES.
Classy styles, model-free photos, pretty prices & inclusive sizing.

Visit the Online Store

And now for many ideas from prior posts…

Stocking Stuffers (for Hubbies)

• 10 Sexy Stocking Stuffers for Your Husband
• 10 Sexy, Manly Items for Your Hubby’s Christmas Stocking
• 10 Last-Minute Stocking Stuffers for Your Husband

Christmas Gifts for Your Beloved

• Wrap It Up For Hubby: 10 Christmas Gifts For Your Marriage Bed
• 5 Fresh Christmas Gift Ideas for Your Husband
• A Sleigh-ful of Gift Ideas for Your Spouse
• 5 (More) Christmas Gift Ideas for Your Husband
• 5 (More) Christmas Gift Ideas for Your Wife
• 6 Sex-themed Gift Baskets for Christmas

Valentine’s Gifts That Work for Christmas Too

• 8 Sweet Valentine’s Gifts for Your Spicy Wife
• 8 Cool Valentine’s Gifts for Your Hot Hubby
• “Go Big” Valentine’s Gifts for Your Spouse
• 5 Free Valentine’s Gifts for Your Spouse
• 7 Sexy Valentine’s Gifts You Can Make
• 13 Sexy Valentine’s Gifts From Your Grocery Store

Gifts for My Readers

• My Gift to You: Christmas Intimacy Playlist
• A Free Christmas Short Story for You! (the PDF is free, but ebook is $.99—still a bargain!)
• ‘Twas the Intimate Night Before Christmas: A Marriage Poem
• Marriage & Mistletoe: A Free, Downloadable Christmas Board Game for You

My Christmas-Themed Resources

A Great Gift Book for Your Sexual Intimacy

And a Quick Word about Giving Tuesday

Today is “Giving Tuesday,” a day designated to donate service and money to charitable causes. While I’m not a charity for tax purposes, I am incredibly thankful for the donations my ministry receives. Honestly, this last year I announced to my husband with ridiculous joy that my business made above the poverty level in 2020! And then, Uncle Sam took some of it. ~shrug~

My costs involve web hosting, stock photos, virtual assistant fees (and I’d use her more if I could afford to), a bit of marketing, office and shipping supplies, and resources (like books and courses) that keep me updated in my field. If you would like to defer my costs and help me cover my rent, I would greatly appreciate it. If you’d rather support another ministry, please go do so! There are a lot of good ones out that could use the funds.

Mentionables Ad photo credit: ©Klanneke

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What should you get your beloved spouse for Christmas? For some of you, that’s an easy answer, and for others, it’s a challenge. Today, I want to provide:

• 10 fresh gift ideas
• A roundup of past posts with more than 80 gift and stocking stuffer ideas
• A short list of recommended places to shop
• A quick rundown of my own and others’ resources

Thus creating the ultimate gift list of well over 100 ideas for your spouse and your marriage this holiday season!

Many items have affiliate links, but not all. And I do not suggest something just because I get a small commission. I only recommend a product if I polygraph-proof think it’s a good idea.

10 Fresh Gift Ideas

1. Oh, Susannah Tonight Not Tonight Reversible Throw Pillow Case Cover Fits 18×18 Insert. Send a clear signal about lovemaking tonight with these pillow cases. Fun way to initiate sex!

2. Married Is Great t-shirt. Marriage really is great, when done well. Go ahead and celebrate it with a t-shirt for one or both of you. I love mine!

Married Is Great has several designs and hoodies as well!

3. Love Tokens – Set of 10. And begging the question: Why did I think of that? Love this tokens you can give your spouse to give back to you!

4. Love Mop Premium Cotton Sex Towel. Keep one of these in your nightstand or nearby to clean up after the oh-so-worth-it messiness of physical intimacy.

5. Intimately Us Marriage App. Bedroom games, conversation starters, sexy bucket list, and much more with this app. Put together by the creator of the Get Your Marriage On! event I spoke at a few years ago and Dr. Corey Allan, host of Sexy Marriage Radio who has guested here on my blog.

6. Printable Roses. As of this writing, these are FREE. Yep, you print them out, make them, give them to your beloved. How romantic!

7. Printable Fortune Cookies – Another freebie! “A thrilling night is in your future,” other messages, and create-your-own. Your fortune is a good one with this gift!

8. Liberator Decor Fascinator Throw. The love mop towel above is great, but what can you use to protect your whole bed? Try one of these. It absorbs and it’s very comfortable to your skin.

9. I Have Found the One I Love Pendant. One of my favorite Song of Songs sayings, which I have on my bedroom wall as art! But you can gift it in jewelry too.

10. Home Date Kit. In “Pandemic Year,” you can gift your beloved the perfect date night for home. Think about what you both enjoy and load it up with the right stuff for you two. Some ideas:

• Start with a decorative box or basket. (Locally, try a Tuesday Morning or Hobby Lobby.)
• Add a restaurant gift card; a meal kit; or a gift card for UberEats, DoorDash, or Grubhub.
• Include items to create a romantic setting, like flameless candles, dinnerware, and cloth napkins folded into beautiful designs (if I can do it, you can too!).
• Choose an activity, like a board game, movie, conversation starters, or DIY project.
• Finish up with intimacy items—like specialty lube, a tasty treat, and/or sexy Christmas-themed undies (his/hers).
• Big-time bonus: Write a love letter to your one-and-only, with specifics on why you treasure your beloved and would choose him/her again, and slip it into the basket. (You may want to add a tissue or two.)

Gift Idea Posts (with around 80+ options)

Below are my past gift-giving posts, including Christmas and Valentine’s, with links to various products, services, printables, and more. I cannot guarantee all links will work, because some posts are older and links sometimes change or disappear. But if you really like an idea, you might be able to do an online search and find it elsewhere.

• Wrap It Up For Hubby: 10 Christmas Gifts For Your Marriage Bed
• 10 Sexy Stocking Stuffers for Your Husband
• 8 Sweet Valentine’s Gifts for Your Spicy Wife
• 8 Cool Valentine’s Gifts for Your Hot Hubby
• 5 Fresh Christmas Gift Ideas for Your Husband
• A Sleigh-ful of Gift Ideas for Your Spouse
• 5 (More) Christmas Gift Ideas for Your Husband
• 5 (More) Christmas Gift Ideas for Your Wife
• “Go Big” Valentine’s Gifts for Your Spouse
• 10 Sexy, Manly Items for Your Hubby’s Christmas Stocking
• 5 Free Valentine’s Gifts for Your Spouse
• 7 Sexy Valentine’s Gifts You Can Make
• 13 Sexy Valentine’s Gifts From Your Grocery Store
• My Gift to You: Christmas Intimacy Playlist
• Favorite Books for Christmas Gifts
• 6 Sex-themed Gift Baskets for Christmas
• 10 Last-Minute Stocking Stuffers for Your Husband

Recommended Places to Shop

From time to time, I get asked where to shop for intimate things! Well, here are a few recommendations.

Married Dance. For marital aids/sex toys.

Honoring Intimates. For lingerie and lube.

Mentionables. Another quality lingerie site.

Dating Divas. For fun date-night ideas, games, and printables).

Faithful Counseling. For individual and couples counseling. To be fair, you don’t really “shop” for counseling, but Faithful Counseling is a site where clients can connect with faith-based counselors that match their needs and preferences. The biggest plug I can give here is to say that I tried it with regard a specific issue I was facing, and I had a fantastic experience. But if you don’t, you can easily request a different counselor.

My and Others’ Great Resources

Christmas Stuff in My Site Store

Webinars from Sex Chat for Christian Wives

Webinars from KHS (Knowing Her Sexually) Ministry

My Books

Christian Living

Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations About Sex for Married Couples

eBook: $5.99

Author: J. Parker
Genre: Christian Living

Yet couples often struggle to understand their spouse and discuss their sex life. Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations about Sex for Married Couples provides the right framework for productive communication on a myriad of issues and helps your marriage bed move from awkward to amazing!

More info →

Buy This Book Online

Hot, Holy, and Humorous: Sex in Marriage by God’s Design

5.00 (66% off retail!)

Author: J. Parker
Genre: Christian Living

Do you want to be a hottie in the bedroom without sacrificing holiness? How can you make the most of God’s gift of sexual intimacy in marriage? In Hot, Holy, and Humorous, author J. Parker gives candid advice for wives from a foundation of faith with a splash of humor.

BUY THE BOOK

More info →

Intimacy Revealed: 52 Devotions to Enhance Sex in Marriage

$9.99eBook: $2.99

Author: J. Parker
Genre: Christian Living

What does the Bible say about sexual intimacy? Quite a lot actually. From marriage-specific scriptures to biblical principles, Intimacy Revealed: 52 Devotions to Enhance Sex in Marriage guides Christian wives through weekly devotions that shed light on God’s gift of marital sex.

More info →

Buy This Book Online

Beatitudes in the Bedroom: Embracing the Blessings for Your Marriage Bed

eBook: $0.99

Author: J. Parker
Genre: Christian Living

Once we accept that God’s Word infuses every area of our lives, we can apply biblical principles from various passages even to such places as our marriage beds.

In this short book, bestselling Christian sex author, blogger, and podcaster J. Parker, of Hot, Holy & Humorous, walks you through each separate blessing from Matthew 5:3-10 and shows how Jesus’ Beatitudes are relevant to sexuality and marriage.

More info →

Buy This Book Online

Online Courses with Marriage Experts

Sex Seminar with Dating Divas. Nine experts, nine presentations, life-changing information for your sex life. I address When Your Drives Don’t Match. Usually $35, BUT ONLY $20 with my special URL (discount shows up at checkout and not before).

Online Marriage Retreat with Awesome Marriage. 24 presentations covering everything from improved communication to bedroom savvy. My offering is on 5 Steps to Better Sex. Regularly $49 but take 10% off with coupon code PARKER10 (enter code, click Apply, then continue checking out).

Side Hustles from My Assistant

In addition to working for me and a few other bloggers, my fantastic virtual assistant also runs a few home businesses. Feel free to shop through her, knowing that you’re putting money in the pocket of a stand-up Christian woman.

• Creative Memories Scrapbook & Craft Supplies
• Origami Owl Personalized Jewelry
• Lilla Rose Hair Accessories

Wrapping It Up!

Whew. That’s a lot of info! Have fun clicking and shopping. But stay tuned for a special treat I’ll have for my readers in a couple of weeks.

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I haven’t done nearly as many posts with ideas for wives, but here’s a previous one for Christmas: What Does Your Wife Want for Christmas? And from Valentine’s posts: here and here. Here are my five more ideas:

1. Making Love Potions.

How about some home recipes for foods and oils that could enhance your sexual intimacy? Making Love Potions has wonderful illustrations, inspiring quotations (including a couple from the Bible, but other sources as well), and instructions for making aromatic drinks for stimulating mood, to sensual massage oils, to natural personal lubricants. If your wife enjoys cooking or being crafty, this could be a great choice for her to use her interests and skills in ways that benefit your marriage bed.

P.S. You men can also make these recipes, of course.

2. Aphrodisiac oils and perfumes.

Good Clean Love — and other companies, I’m sure — have a line of aphrodisiac products that includes essential oils, perfumes, and personal lubricant. Our sense of smell is definitely connected to the emotion center in our brain, and it’s this insight that has caused aromatherapy to really take hold in recent years. Some wives detect a difference in how sensual they feel with the use of aromatic products like these. Maybe your wife would enjoy them as well.

3. Comfortable Sleepwear.

I’ve advocated plenty for wearing lingerie and covered the why and how of getting lingerie in my book, Hot, Holy, and Humorous: Sex in Marriage by God’s Design (which is also a great gift). But when asked in my closed Facebook group what intimacy-related gift was my favorite, I answered that my husband once bought me sleepwear that was super-comfortable, but something that he enjoyed viewing me in. A few hubbies followed up with questions about what that means.

Well, some lingerie is so uncomfortable and/or revealing that many wives don’t want to wear it. Indeed, when I look through what counts as “sexy lingerie,” some items look more like contraptions than clothing. So why not get your wife something that feels really feels good and covers her, while still being suggestive or nice to look at. Here are some ideas:

• Camisole and shorts set
• Cotton or satin chemise
• Long, single-straps nightgown (wives: wear without panties)
• Pajama set in thin or sheer cotton
• Satin nightshirt

Your best bet for finding such items is a local department store.

4. Behind Closed Doors.

When I’m not writing about Christian sex and marriage, I’m often writing fiction. While I write some other mainstream stories (under a different name), my book, Behind Closed Doors, was a labor of love in which I joined my passion for godly sex with my joy of writing fiction. The genre is basically Christian romance, but specifically covers issues of sexual intimacy in marriage. Each of the five stories deals with a different challenge in gaining or maintaining hot and holy intimacy, but none of the “lessons” are hit-you-over-the-head. They’re just stories, which I think your wife would enjoy.

5. Bedroom budget.

I admit this one isn’t necessarily cheap. However, ambiance matters to many women, yet we tend to spend money on other stuff for the house more readily than our bedrooms. What if you just handed her an envelope with money or an IOU inside with the caveat that it must be spent on sprucing up the bedroom so that it’s a place you both want to be?

Let her redecorate with better sheets, nice pillows, soft lighting, and even word art, like I have in my bedroom:

Bless her with the opportunity to make the bedroom a place she wants to be … with you, of course.

What other ideas would you add to my list?

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It’s a day for even us natural pessimists to be Glass Half Full people.

And tomorrow begins the Wallet Half Empty season. Also known as Christmas!

For those who are already finished with their Christmas shopping, you probably don’t need to read any more of this post and we sorta don’t like you anyway. You give us a case of envy the size of our Thanksgiving turkey. (Just kidding.)

But for the rest of us — who start our shopping on Black Friday, Small Business Saturday, Cyber Monday, or any other cleverly named days inviting you to spend money — I wanted to give you a single place to access all of my gift ideas.

Following are posts in which I suggested specific items you can give your beloved which might just spark a little Christmas cheer in the marriage bed.

Note: Some of these posts were written a while ago, and if a link doesn’t work, it’s because that item or link is no longer available. Sorry!

10 Sexy, Manly Items for Your Hubby’s Christmas Stocking

Top Marriage Book Picks for Christmas

13 Sexy Valentine’s Gifts from Your Grocery Store (works for Christmas too!)

7 Sexy Valentine’s Gifts You Can Make

8 Cool Valentine’s Gifts for Your Hot Hubby

8 Sweet Valentine’s Gifts for Your Spicy Wife

Favorite Books for Christmas Gifts

Wrap It Up for Hubby: 10 Christmas Gifts for Your Marriage Bed

Love & Sex Coupons for Christmas

10 Sexy Stocking Stuffers for Your Husband

Of course, you could always pick up a copy of Hot, Holy, and Humorous: Sex in Marriage by God’s Design! It’s aimed at wives, but there are many tips couples can read about and give a try. Indeed, plenty of husbands would love it if you tuck that book under the tree, open it together on Christmas Eve, and then promise your hubby you’ll read the book and prioritize sexual intimacy in the coming year.

You probably have a friend or family member who could use this book as well. And you could even match it with a couple of other marriage books to show your support for their whole marriage.

Stay safe on the roads and in stores. And enjoy shopping this weekend, this season, or — for those who wait until the last-minute — Christmas Eve.

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1. Romantic Tea or Java. Romantic tea? Have I gone nutters? Nope. While shopping for tea flavors, I found a lovely line of Valentine’s themed teas from Adagio.

Most women I know are fans of tea, but if your wife is a coffee lover, how about something special in that department? Godiva Chocolatier makes a chocolate truffle coffee. If she’s a Keurig user, maybe you could pamper her with a bit of Raspberry Chocolate Truffle Coffee.

2. A Vase and a Vow. You could get your wife flowers for Valentine’s Day, and maybe that’s what she’d like. But if she really loves getting flowers, how about giving her a new vase with a note vowing you’ll bring home flowers one day each month for the rest of the year? She can look forward to seeing what kind of flowers you bring home, anticipating which day you surprise her with them, and then enjoying the bloom and fragrance of a fresh bouquet.

3. Necklace with Personal Charm. There is a necklace charm for everything. I don’t think that’s an exaggeration, after touring James Avery, craft fairs, and Etsy.com. Whatever interest, hobby, career, personality, etc. your wife has, there is a jewelry charm for that.

You could also go a purely romantic route. Like a heart or key-to-my-heart charm. Or perhaps write a personal note and give her a love letter necklace, like this one I found on Etsy:

4. Wine Bottle Labels. Wine has become a more popular beverage in recent years, and plenty of wives enjoy a glass of wine. If that’s your thing, how about some personalized wine bottle labels — for those bottles you can share on a romantic evening?

Using Song of Songs 1:1 (“Your love is more delightful than wine“), I created a sample wine label you can use.  Edit it to your taste, or simply replace “Husband” with your name and “Wife” with hers. (Click File, Make a Copy, and you’ll get a document you can edit). The labels are best printed on 4 3/4″ X 3 1/2″ labels (Avery 22826). Get a bottle of wine, slap it on, and you’re done! (Save the extra labels for later.) How easy is that?!

By the way, if you’re not into wine, these labels can be placed on other bottles, like your wife’s iced tea or Frappuccino (pictured above!)

5. Sensual Atmosphere for Your Bedroom. Yep, whether you understand it or not, many wives have a hard time getting in the mood when their bedroom looks like a tornado blew through and left laundry, kids’ toys, and/or clutter. Sure, I encourage wives to ignore it or clean it up and then make sex a priority, but you could gift her a beautiful invitation to be intimate by creating a sensual atmosphere to welcome your wife.

What that entails depends on your budget, her preferences, your savvy, etc. But creating the mood could include anything from cleaning up the room, to getting new silky sheets and/or his/her pillowcases, to candles or colored light bulbs, to an intimacy music playlist, to massage oils and lotions. And hey, if you can fold a towel swan, knock yourself out.

Just make your bedroom like a gentle invitation to your wife to relax, be pampered, and enjoy your intimate time together.

6. Clothing Reminder of Her Beauty. I’ve personally declared 2015 the year we wives learn to feel beautiful! Honestly, I don’t know a single woman who hasn’t experienced body image issues. But what I continually hear from husbands is that y’all think we’re beautiful anyway!

Guess what? We’d love for you to keep telling us (at least most of us would). While she’s working on feeling more confident, believing what you say, and taking care of her body, your wife might like a reminder of how you feel about her beauty. Several Christian clothing shops sell clothing and other items that make this point. Like this lovely T-shirt

7. Bucket List Pail. That’s right: Give your wife a metal pail. But be sure to write on the outside something like “Our Bucket List,” then spend an evening writing down things you both want to do in the course of your marriage, and drop them in the bucket. Keep adding to it as you think of more stuff.

Of course, you know what comes next, hubbies! You must start doing those activities in your bucket. But this gift will open up conversation, encourage you to look toward a positive future, and share some dreams.

On the practical side, you can find buckets at your local hardware store, hobby stores, and even discount stores. If you want something easy, grab one with a chalkboard label or slap chalkboard paint on it. Then write your title with chalk: “Our Bucket List.” “Our Twosome To-Dos.” “Life and Love List.” Or simply your names: “Mike & Lily’s Bucket List.” Make sure you have paper and pen to write your dreams and desires.

8. The Gift of Nothing. Now, before you think you’re off the hook because I used the word nothing, I’m NOT saying you shouldn’t get her something. I’m saying you should give her The Gift of Nothing — meaning that she gets to do nothing. You honor her with a day or night or weekend during which she is obligation-free. No meals to cook, no children to watch, no laundry to wash, no groceries to buy, no work to complete, no alarm clocks to answer, no ________[fill in the blank].

Many Most wives feel an ongoing burden of responsibilities, whether externally expected or internally felt, and having a break from that weight can be incredibly wonderful. Imagine this, guys: It’s like your wife finally getting to go to that mental “nothing box” the male species has as a retreat option. Like it or not, most of us gals just can’t mentally go there, unless the exterior demands are removed.

So line up the childcare, take care of the household, sweep her away somewhere if you need to, and let her do absolutely nothing for a while.  (And while there are no guarantees, so don’t add any demands to this gift for her, some men who have done this have found that something happens after the nothing. )

That’s all I’ve got. But make sure you consider who your wife is. For instance, my husband rarely brings me flowers, because I’m just not that into getting flowers. But if I’d be all over that bucket list idea! So think of what your wife needs, values, and desires and shop with your lovely woman in mind.

“He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord.”

Proverbs 18:22

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