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5 Ways to Celebrate My 500th Post!

This post right here is my 500th post on Hot, Holy & Humorous. Thanks to all my regular readers and visitors who have kept this blog going, challenged and encouraged me, and shared their stories of personal pain and marital victory. You are why I continue to engage in this important ministry.

To celebrate my 500th, I wanted to share five special treats with y’all.

5 Ways to Celebrate My 500th Post!


So what has attracted the most attention on Hot, Holy & Humorous? Here are the most-read blog posts of all time:

5. Showering and Bathing Together: Why You Should Try It. What?! This is number five? (A part of me wanted this post to shimmy down a little to make room for 4 Great Bible Stories About Sex that came in right behind it.) But this is indeed one of my most popular.

4. Getting Comfortable Being Naked with Your Husband. The number who’ve read this post is another reminder of the struggle many wives have with body insecurities and shyness about sex. Baring yourself before your husband, however, is a beautiful gift — to him and to yourself.

3. Oral Sex: How To. For a long time, this was top of the list. It’s moved down a little, but it’s still a very popular post with practical tips for giving fellatio (aka “blow jobs”).

2. Penis Size: From the Wife’s Point of View. If I had to bet, I’d say more husbands visit this post than wives. Because yeah, many men worry. And for the vast majority of them, they needn’t worry a bit.

1. What I Wish I’d Known before the Wedding Night. This was nice to see, because I like being among the biblically based resources out there for those getting started with sexual intimacy in marriage.


Written in the same format as Intimacy Revealed: 52 Devotions to Enhance Your Marriage, here’s a free five-day devotional for wives on Sex in Marriage.

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Where do I go from here? Here are five goals I have for the future of this marriage ministry.

  1. Speaking events. I’d planned to start speaking this fall, but it turns out I’ll be launching my speaking ministry in early 2016. I’m preparing my talks and materials now, so that any church that books me will get a quality presentation. Watch for news on that front!
  2. Q&A with J. The last two summers, I’ve hosted a Q&A with J. I extended that feature into the fall, and it’s been so well-received, I’ll be keeping it up. I have a queue of questions to cover, but if you have another one you want me to tackle, head over to Contact J and shoot me an email.
  3. Website update. I love the look of my website, so don’t expect the background or header to change. But this site functions entirely like a blog, and I want the website to be more interactive and navigable. Look for an update reflecting my movement from a personal blog to a marriage ministry.
  4. Another book. I have two more book ideas that have been rolling around in my head. In case anyone was wondering, yes, I will continue to write books as I feel called. I’ve started one of these books and plan to finish in 2016. Please pray I have enough time and godly wisdom so I can keep presenting positive resources for Christian marriages.
  5. More humor. This has felt like such a serious year since I added a Q&A post, in which many spouses are in heartbreaking situations. I believe in mourning with those who mourn (Romans 12:15) and trying to provide biblical answers. Yet I also believe there is “a time to weep and a time to laugh” (Ecclesiastes 3:4) and that “a cheerful heart is good medicine” (Proverbs 17:22). Having a good sense humor helps us get through life, and I’ll be looking for more ways to keep the humorous of Hot, Holy & Humorous a major part of my blog.


One lucky commenter will win not one, not two, but all three of my ebooks!
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Sex Savvy: A Lovemaking Guide for Christian Wives
Behind Closed Doors: 5 Marriage Stories
Intimacy Revealed: 52 Devotions to Enhance Sex in Marriage

But wait! I said a 5-book giveaway. What are the other two? Well, two of the marriage blogging wives who helped me so much from the beginning and through the years have donated copies of their ebooks to this giveaway! A big shout-out to Sheila Wray Gregoire and Julie Sibert. If you haven’t followed their blogs or checked out their resources, I encourage you to do so. They have wonderful wisdom on Christian marriage and sex. So here are the fourth and fifth books:

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31 Days to Great Sex by Sheila Wray Gregoire
Pursuit of Passion: Discovering True Intimacy in Your Marriage by Jeffrey Murphy and Julie Sibert

Leave a comment at the end of this post, and you’ll be automatically entered. (Be sure to provide your email address, which will not appear on the site.) I’ll draw a winner on Friday, November 20, 10:00 p.m. CST.


For a long time, I’ve been calling my ever-logical husband “Spock” on this site. Believe me, it fits. And here’s a treat in which we sat down and answered five questions about our relationship and marriage.

And that’s it for POST #500! Woo-hoo!!! Thanks for being part of my celebration and this ministry. May God bless you and your marriage!

93 thoughts on “5 Ways to Celebrate My 500th Post!”

  1. Love your blog and would love it if our church had a night or weekend event for sexual intimacy and invited you to be a part of the speakers!!

  2. Thank you for posting this!! I’m so blessed and encouraged by your emails every week ? Your blog has made such a positive difference in my marriage!

  3. Thanks for all you do to encourage us toward a godly view of intimacy in marriage! Congrats on 500 posts! I’ll continue to be a faithful reader for as long as possible. I’ve learned so much already 🙂

  4. Congrats on 500 posts! Most bloggers I’ve read (regardless of topic) don’t even make it past 100.

    Wish you would rewrite number one for me 😉

  5. Congrats on 500 posts! Most bloggers I’ve read (regardless of topic) don’t even make it to 100.

    Wish you would rewrite number one for men 😉

  6. Your blog is on the few I get by email (rather than feedly). You help me to remember to be intentional with my hubby, to love him completely. Thank you.

    Its exciting to hit 500 posts!

  7. Yay! Thank you so much for all your posts that deal with topics considered “un spoken of” in church. Your website and ministry are invaluable!
    I’m going to hear Sheila Gregoire speak this coming sunday, I’m super excited! I would love to hear you speak sometime too!


  8. I’ve been married 7 years and reading your blog since just before that from the UK. Thank you for being practical, light-hearted, educational and often inspirational. You’ve made me laugh but also dealt with serious issues with honesty and sensitivity.

  9. Congratulations on your 500th post!
    Loved the video with you & “Spock.” I hope you can keep up your blog; I find your posts encouraging and helpful in my own marriage.

  10. What an awesome bunch of books you are giving away! I really could use help with wanting sex… Discovered we’ve only had sex twice a month for quite a while… Even with this knowledge I’m not excited about having it more often…. 🙁

  11. Congratulations on your 500th post!! Greatly enjoy reading this blog! I have been a faithful reader for almost 6 years and greatly appreciate the ministry you provide to your readers. My life has been blessed by your ministry!! Thank you!

  12. I found your site a little before I got married earlier this year and have been very grateful for the helpful things you’ve posted and continue to post! Keep on truckin, gurrrl! 😀

  13. Yay 500 posts!!! Congratulations! That’s a huge milestone. It’s because you’re so awesome. I know how much you helped me and my marriage. I feel like we’re girlfriends 🙂

    And can I just say, you and Spock are adorable. And I totally get the Spock thing 😉

  14. Happy 500!! I love to read your articles. You have helped me so much in so many ways with your articles. Can’t thank you enough. So nice to find real advice from a Christian perspective. You are truly a blessing!

  15. Thank you for all the honest and open communication about sex. It has been so helpful to have a Christian perspective on the matter and a safe place to learn more.

  16. Thank you for your honest, candid, and Biblically sound thoughts on marital intimacy. You have helped me develop a healthier, more well-rounded view of sex and, I believe, strengthened my marriage because of it. Keep on blogging another 500!

  17. Congrats! Absolutely love your blog! You’ve given me the courage to stretch myself and try new things in the bedroom. 🙂

  18. Congratulations on your 500th post. I have enjoyed reading your blog and I have gotten a lot of great info on how to be more intimate with my husband. Keep up the great work. May God’s blessings overshower you and give you the strength and ability to accomplish your goals for the coming years ahead.

  19. J, I discovered your blog just after I got married a few years ago. Thank you for all you share, it’s been a real blessing. You’ve made both myself and my husband laugh out loud… looking forward to what’s coming up. Best wishes, Mrs mh

  20. Happy 500th post! I’ve been following your blog “silently” for a few months now. Skimming most posts, sitting down and reading when I have time…but enjoying your perspective nonetheless. Thanks!

  21. Thank you for being bold and brave to write and connect with us. I always open your email. I have grown so much because of your honesty. Thank you.

  22. Thank you for sharing your wisdom with the world. I really relate to having a Spock since I do too, and I love your sense of humor. Keep doing what you do!

    1. Did you notice in the video how much I moved and gestured…and how still he was? LOL. I can’t be that low-key if try!

      1. He is so still because he’s a Type 4! And you are obviously either a Type 1 or 3 which have higher energy. If you don’t know what I’m talking about, check out Carol Tuttle’s It’s Just My Nature and/or Dressing Your Truth. It has really helped me a lot understanding myself as well as the people in my life.

        1. Not aware of that. Very conversant on the Myers-Brigg Type Indicator, and I’m fully aware of our personality differences there. Thanks!

  23. Congrats, J! What a blessing you’ve been to many marriages. Looking forward to your future endeavors. May God richly bless you in all that you do. Enjoyed watching you and Mr Spock. Hugs

  24. Congrats on the 500 benchmark! Loved getting a glimpse of you and Spock together. Thanks for sharing the video.

    Keep up the great work!

  25. I have truly enjoyed your blog. I appreciate your transparency and keeping your insight Christ-centered. God bless!

  26. Congratulations! I think I’ve read every one of your posts 🙂 and I’m always happy to read more! I would love to have your books, and share them with my grown girls.

  27. As a newlywed, you’ve helped me so very much in establishing strong marital intimacy. You’ve given me biblical knowledge, bravery in allowing my husband to see my body, and courage to keep fighting for a strong marriage. Hands down, my favorite marital intimacy blog!! THANK YOU!

  28. 500 posts woo! Congratulations. What a blessing your posts have been to a newly wed wife! Thanks for writing and sharing your wisdom with the world!

  29. This is my all-time favourite blog. Keep going, J, just keep going!
    Blessings for your ministry and for your marriage!

  30. Your video cracked me up! It was like watching US! Thank you for all you do and say – you have helped so many couples, including US! Keep up the good work!

  31. Congrats on 500 posts!! What a wonderful accomplishment and cheers to 500 more 🙂 Was great to see and hear Mr. Spock too 🙂

  32. I don’t remember when I started following your blog, but it’s been several years! I look forward to your posts, and I have learned so much! Thank you!

  33. I would love to win your books. I have recently discovered your website and find it honest and to the point. There are so many things that apply to my relationship. My husband suffers from porn addiction and he has always had trouble with intimacy. I am slowly trying to learn not to blame myself for an addiction that started way before me. I could us some insight and help. Keep up the good work and keep writing.

    1. I haven’t written on porn a lot. I should probably talk about it more since it’s affecting a lot of sexual intimacy in marriages. My heart goes out to you. Thanks, Deanna.

  34. This higher-drive wife loves your blog! Our 20th anniversary is this week, so winning would be like a special anniversary gift.

  35. I just found your blog recently and signed up for your newsletter. I appreciate your honesty and candor in sharing great and much needed information. Thank you and congratulations!

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  37. Happy 500th from a reader from down under! Yours was the first “Christian sex blog” I’d ever read and it’s still my favourite. I was just looking for some tips or encouragement regarding intimacy with my husband and then we hit a tremendously rough patch. That’s when your blog really helped me through. I am eternally grateful. I guess you’ll never really know the great work God has done through this ministry until you see Him face to face. Thanking you and God for your faithfulness through 500 posts and more to come.

  38. Congratulations on your 500th post. You are providing a great resource. Can’t wait to read your next 500!

  39. Keep up the great work covering subjects from which so many Christians shy away. You are an inspiration and a great role model. The Church needs to hear what you have to say. Thank you!

  40. Congratulations on your 500th post! I have so enjoyed and shared your posts and wisdom. Thank you for all you do! Hugs and blessings.

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