A little while ago, I answered a reader’s question in a post titled Q&A with J: Surviving Childhood Rape & Building Sexual Intimacy. That was a tough post to write, especially because I can only imagine the emotional pain of my readers who have gone through childhood sexual abuse.
To take an innocent child and abuse them in the most vulnerable way is a heinous kind of evil I simply don’t understand. And It breaks my heart.
Yet I believe in my Redeemer. I know my God is capable of bringing people out of the pit and into the light. I’ve seen it in my own life, and I’ve seen it the lives of others.
So when one of my readers responded to that Q&A post with a link to his personal testimony, I watched the video with both deep sorrow for what he’d been through and great rejoicing at how God had walked him through healing. Today, all I want to say is watch this video.
It’s important to recognize the horror of sexual abuse, to provide a safe and restorative place for those who are hurting, and to celebrate what God can do once we let Him work in our lives.
Thank you to the reader for sharing this video with me and for his permission to share it with you. His testimony is powerful, because our God is powerful.
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That was hard to watch. I feel so sorry for him. Any form of abuse does this kind of damage. Severe emotional abuse too. Or being raped as a teenager or adult. Its so hard to work through these things because you wish you could just snap your fingers and its gone. But it can be a long and painful process because you have to slowly reprogram your brain from the false programming you were exposed to. Its hard work. And it requires lots of patience and grace. And it can be so hard for the spouse involved! Its best that they learn as much as they can about the psychological effects of abuse so that they dont take offence at their spouses behavior because sometimes the survivor just cant help it. Its important to research attachement trauma that comes from abusive childhoods and the effects it has on relationships. It usually lies at the core of all intimacy issues.
” Any form of abuse does this kind of damage. Severe emotional abuse too.”
Amanda is 100% right. Because I was a skinny nerd, brainy, and the kid who went to church and tried to witness to others in a mostly godless upper-New England community (my dad was the Sunday school superintendent in the only church in our town), I was bullied and knocked around in junior high and for the first two years of high school. Not sexually–just bullied. And years later I had to deal with the nightmares. Then one day I discovered the secret of Matthew 18. I needed to forgive, and to do this unilaterally, leaving it with Jesus. He took my nightmares and gave blessed relief.
Years later I and a Christian marriage counselor were working together on a book. And I learned something interesting from her: most sexual abuse victims are confused, falsely believing that they can never forgive unless the abuser (in many cases he/she died years earlier) apologizes. And of course it’s rare when an abuser ever apologizes. So they go on for years–or a lifetime–carrying a burden that Jesus died for.
Then one day I heard a woman startle a group of 30-40 other sexually abused women by telling them how the Lord had delivered her from the tormentors of false guilt that had deviled her soul night and day now that she was an adult. She claimed Matthew 18 and forgave sincerely the one who could never apologize, her dead grandfather. She’s been happy ever since.
Thank you for sharing. I don’t know what else to say. I just cried watching this video. That should never have happened, but it did. That the gentleman in the video is now able to heal is indeed a great testimony.
How horribly sad that he went through that. This makes me want to be more of a light. I don’t know the hurt that may be inside the people I see each day.
Paul Maxwell has an excellent post at Desiring God blog 01-05-17 entitled Trauma is Not a Life Sentence. Here’s the link http://www.desiringgod.org/articles/trauma-is-not-a-life-sentence
Thanks for the HHH blog.
So beautiful, thank you Cory for sharing your story. I’m so thankful for those men, brothers in Christ, in your life who listen and love you for who you are and surround you with prayer daily. So thankful for your precious wife who loves you so much and is journeying with you. So thankful for Jesus guiding you all your life, even in the tough horrible times. T
Just this week, on 01/17/17, I received healing from God concerning mental, emotional, and spiritual suffering I have endured due to childhood sexual abuse I had experienced at a very young age. On that day, I read the scripture John 16:22-24 in which Christ says, ” So with you: Now is your time of grief, but I will see you again and you will rejoice, and no one will take away your joy. In that day you will no longer ask me anything. Very truly I tell you, my Father will give you whatever you ask in my name. Until now you have not asked for anything in my name. Ask and you will receive, and your joy will be complete.” So, I prayed to Jesus, asking him to heal me. When I was finished I ‘heard’, “you are healed.” And I had peace and clarity of mind that I had not experienced before, from God. Now I know that I am healed. I was healed the day Christ died on The Cross for me. I am in therapy and will continue my therapy as Christ continues to walk me through this process of Divine Healing. My faith has been renewed. In my weakness, I am strong. God bless you.
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