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Resource Roundup: January 2021

/ Sexual Intimacy Encouragement

This year, I’ve decided that the post on last blogging day of each month will be a roundup of marriage and sex resources. I’ll include links to recent posts here, but also:

Let’s kick off with January and some great stuff! Scroll through to find what you might have missed or your next great resource for marriage.

This Month on the Blog

  • Why Are We Having Less Sex?
    Have you heard that we’re in a “sex recession”? The data backs that up, including for married couples. Let’s talk about why and what to do!
  • No More Bartering for Sex
    “I’ll give you sex if you ____.” That offer is far too common in marriage. Let’s look at why it’s a problem…for both spouses.
  • The Emotional Gap of Mismatched Desires
    When there’s a large desire gap in marriage, both spouses tend to have heavy emotions. Let’s have compassion for one another.
  • What Should Sex Cost You?
    Have you heard of “sexpenses”? Probably not, because I made it up. But let’s talk about what you should spend to have a great sex life!
  • Your Marriage, Your Bedroom, Your Seminar
    Just released, the 2025 Sex Seminar with 25 marriage & sex experts (including me) covering a variety of topics & ONLY $35 with my unique link!
  • Does Penis Size Matter?
    Does penis size matter? Let’s talk about what science says, what wives experience, and what really makes for great sex in marriage.

From Sex Chat for Christian Wives Podcast

From Knowing Her Sexually Podcast

My Post at KHS Ministry

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A Few Great Reads Elsewhere

Recommended Resources & Products

I recently discovered Bible Project, an online resource with videos, Bible studies, a podcast, and more. My husband and I have been using their material to study together, and it has increased our spiritual intimacy. (P.S. When you work on one kind of marital intimacy, it tends to positively affect the others areas or intimacy.) As always, with any resource, you may disagree with something, but overall we’ve found it to be an authentic and in-depth attempt to discover the truth of God’s Word and the character of God Himself.

This past year, my daily wardrobe has primarily consisted of t-shirts and yoga pants (I promise, my yoga pants are not too tight and my t-shirts are long, so I’m still plenty modest). The t-shirts I keep turning to are two that I got from Married Is Great:

I love their simple design, the tailored yet loose sizing, but mostly the comfortable cotton! Spock also wears his Married Is Great shirt quite often, and my grown-and-married son loves his hoodie! Check ’em out. (And yes, this is an affiliate, but I don’t recommend products I haven’t checked out and like.)

Shop at Married Is Great

What J’s Up to These Days

I always want to answer the question, “What are you up to?” with “About 5-foot-four.” Because I like even stupid humor apparently. ~grin~ But here’s what I’m actually doing that you might want to know about.

  • Taking a college/grad level course on human sexuality from the Institute for Sexual Wholeness, the organization that certifies Christian sex therapists (like my friend Dr. Jessica McCleese).
  • Trying to get my too-large-for-two-people house ready to sell. Which was the plan for 2020, but of course got pushed to 2021.
  • Troubleshooting my health problems, which include a diffuse array of symptoms that have frustrated me in one way or another since October 9. I’m better, but still working on some issues. Prayers for wisdom, answers, and healing appreciated!

Biblical Inspiration for the Coming Month

The verse that I’ve been hanging out on a lot lately is this one. Food for thought: How does this apply to the way we treat our spouse?