It’s Saturday, which means it’s the day I share what I’m calling my high-five! That is, five things I want y’all to know about — whether it’s resources, previous posts, tips, or whatever else comes to mind.
Today, let’s talk about some sex specifics. Although I thought I knew my way around female anatomy pretty well when I started this blog, I’ve learned quite a bit since. So let me share five sexually sensitive spots on a wife’s body that you should know about.
Wives, you should know about these places on your body—where they are, how they respond to touch, and how you want to incorporate them into sexual encounters in your marriage bed.
Wives, you should know about these places on your body—where they are, how they respond to touch, and how you want to incorporate them into sexual encounters in your marriage bed. Share on XHusbands, you should explore these areas yourself, taking feedback from your wife on what she likes because, while these are all high-arousal places, women have varied preferences on how they like them handled.
Okay, here are the five spots!
1. Nipples.
Ohmygoodness, did I just say nipples on my blog?! Yes. Yes, I did. Hey, we all have them, but in puberty the secretion of female hormones make their nipples far more sensitive than men’s. So while both genders report enjoying nipple stimulation, sexual touch in that area can cause particularly high arousal for wives.
A small percentage of women report being able to orgasm from nipple stimulation, and research has indeed shown that nipple stimulation lights up the same area in the brain the clitoris lights up: the genital sensory cortex.
But although most wives won’t achieve orgasm this way, paying attention to the nipples can enhance arousal, extend foreplay, and increase the intensity of an orgasm that originates elsewhere. So yeah … nipples.
2. Clitoral bulbs.
And now, we’re going to pause and have an anatomy lesson. Because if you thought the clitoris was just that little nub sticking out at the top of the vulva, you thought like a lot of us did. We were all taught that … and we were wrong. Here’s the real story:
Did you see those bulbs that go down the sides of the vagina? Those are also sensitive, arousing spots that can be stimulated with massage. Experiment with stroking the area on the outside and then inside of the labia majora, or outer vaginal lips. This area will require a little more firmness, but it can be a very pleasurable sensation and can lead to a longing for more direct touch of the clitoral hood.
3. Clitoral hood.
And here’s that part that sticks out at the top, which has often just taken the whole definition of clitoris for itself — selfish girl. Then again, you could make a case that she’s selfish for a reason … because making her a center of attention can really pay off in the marriage bed.
Directly stimulating the clitoral hood is often the best way, and sometimes the only way, a wife can achieve orgasm. If you want great tips on stimulating that area, with hands or tongue, I have relevant chapters in my book, Hot, Holy, and Humorous: Sex in Marriage by God’s Design, which is currently on a huge sale for the ebook!
4. G-Spot.
Whether the G-Spot is real seems to get debated as much as the existence of Bigfoot or extraterrestrial life. But having had those aliens land in my bedroom, so to speak, I’m in the camp of believing that the G-Spot is not only real, but wants you to make contact.
The G-Spot is merely an area on the front side of the vagina that, when stimulated, can produce very pleasurable feelings. Some say it can produce orgasm as well, but others say that it’s contact with the extensive clitoris that actually makes that happen. Regardless, if you can find the G-Spot — and it’s not imperative that you do — you might enjoy the sensation. Your best bet is using fingers, but it’s possible for the penis to reach it. Here’s an illustration to help you know where to go looking:
5. Skene’s Glands.
Take another look at that drawing above. Right above the G-Spot are the Skene’s glands. What is that area for? I don’t know, other than being connected to what’s sometimes called “shejaculation.”
You see, some women report that having that area stimulated results in both good sensations and the release of fluid. This fluid isn’t the same content or consistency as lubrication secreted through the vaginal walls. And while it’s not really all that well-explained by science yet, many wives have experienced this phenomenon colloquially referred to as “squirting.”
Let me warn you, however, that it’s mostly a crapshoot to find these glands. They vary in size from woman to woman, so it might be relatively easy to find for one wife and nearly impossible for another — and that could be about nothing more than different structure.
However, I also want to reassure you that this isn’t the peak of stimulation. It can feel good and produce an intriguing expulsion of liquid, but it’s not like full-throttle orgasm. If you never find it, that’s okay — you have plenty of other spots to explore and enjoy.
So those are the five spots! Let me leave you with two final thoughts:
- Husbands, these are five sexually arousing places, but they are not the keys to the kingdom. You get those keys by paying attention to your wife throughout the day, wooing her in the way she enjoys, giving extended attention to other places on her body she enjoys you touching and kissing, and finally, eventually, you can head for these goodies. Because by then, she’ll (hopefully) really want you there.
- Wives and husbands, these spots on not like playground rides where you can’t get on the swing and the seesaw at the same time. You can stimulate more than one spot here simultaneously! And doing so could yield big pleasure dividends. You never know until you try, eh?
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Sources:Â Komisaruk, Barry R., Nan Wise, Eleni Frangos, Wen-Ching Liu, Kachina Allen, and Stuart Brody. “Women’s clitoris, vagina and cervix mapped on the sensory cortex: fMRI evidence.” The journal of sexual medicine. October 2011. Accessed January 18, 2018. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3186818/.
I love to suck on my wife’s nipples. I didn’t know they could still be sensitive although she is breastfeeding . I got a funny surprise the last time we had sex. She has been wearing a shirt and just when we were both about to finish she took it off and wanted me to suck on her nipples. And I was so aroused that I didn’t even think about them being filled with milk. That was the weirdest orgasm I have had until now. To ejaculate and at the same time get milk squirted in my mouth. ?
It didn’t taste as bad as I thought tough .
This is a great article!!
What I have found now, is after I have stimulated these 5 erogenous areas (among others) a certain way and my wife has experienced multiples, is that her mental and physical anticipation level starts to climb the following day.
Maybe she is washing the dishes and I stand behind her and begin to kiss and nibble behind her neck/shoulder area. Even an ultra soft whisper in her ear, with the heat of my breath “you are my baby” Maybe I wash the dishes and that stimulates her mind, though it seems me taking out the garbage seems to have the same affect as me doing the dishes. Even scratching her back when she asks, all stimulates her mind. Maybe watching a movie or house hunters,, anything. Is bonding and does exacerbate intimate build-up.
A lot of it is how we communicate during the day, as that also matters,, as there are civilized solutions in discovering compromises which also stimulates the mind, rather that trying to force feed our wills on one another. (too bad we didn’t figure that out sooner,, we would’ve discovered bliss sooner)
I find there is a lot going with her body and mind in that one can’t function without the other when it comes to anticipation. Her mind and body remembers the previous physically euphoric intimate encounter, so by the time we are intimate, she is already revved up with intimate urgency almost at an insane level. She could release in 2 minutes or less and believe me she wants to, even with soft feather touches in all the places you mentioned, though the nipples not so fast.
So the slower I go, the higher her arousal elevates,, even feather touching all around the surrounding area of clitoris but not the clitoris itself I have to be careful as she will climax there as well, because I want her arousal level to elevate so high, that intimate moisture is oozing from her pores, while the opening of her intimate gate becomes saturated, before climax even occurs. I can go on,, but I think everyone gets the picture,, it’s sites like this and a book written by a woman that has given me intimate guidance.
Thank you so much for talking about the ‘5’ it is very helpful and informative.
I love kissing, nibbling and sucking my wife’s nipples.
I bought my wife a vibrator that stimulates the clitoris bulbs and it is very effective.
I will try the other spots.
Your blog is so helpful.
I bet you could stimulate those bulbs with your hands too! Enjoy. 🙂
Oops,, I don’t know how I skimmed through the most important part of the article,, the anticipation or build up, which you already included,, it really does work with my wife as I noticed that by the time our playfulness and mental connection before we even enter into a naked embrace, she is already on fire.
“So those are the five spots! Let me leave you with two final thoughts:
Husbands, these are five sexually arousing places, but they are not the keys to the kingdom. You get those keys by paying attention to your wife throughout the day, wooing her in the way she enjoys, giving extended attention to other places on her body she enjoys you touching and kissing, and finally, eventually, you can head for these goodies. Because by then, she’ll (hopefully) really want you there.”
No problem. I suspect some husbands skim all but the “good parts.” Lol.
I once loaned a Christian sex book to a friend, and her husband opened it up, scanned the Table of Contents, and went straight to the chapter on oral sex. Missing all the build-up chapters! She just laughed and told him he was going to read the rest too.
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I just got married this December and just became sexually active. I remember stumbling on your blog when hubby and I couldn’t have penetrative sex cos it felt like nothing could fit in. Glad to report we crossed that bridge without pain or bleeding.
To the article, Sadly, the more obvious parts don’t have any effect on me sexually. My breasts and nipples do not have any sensitivity at all. The only reason nipple stimulation still features in our rather young sex life is because it pleases my husband not because it arouses me.
Imagine my shock when we found my more sensitive parts to be my feet, ears, neck, stomach and (the normal one) clitoris. I was sad to see feet classified as a fetish and not a normal errogenous zone.
My husband spends time researching my body and my responses for more sensitive parts so I can’t complain.
Dont worry my wife’s breasts and nipples do not have any sensitivity either! But I like your husband have done research and it certainly pays off!
I realize that most of these points are just generalizations and that everyone is different and I’m sure that you know it too. I have severely inverted nipples which are not sensitive at all. My husband might as well be touching my elbow. Having said that though, I do actually like the attention that is paid to them and I’ve encouraged him not to ignore them. The fact that they are inverted isn’t the reason they are not sensitive, it’s also known that some women with protruding (normal) nipples don’t find theirs particularly sensitive. As for the G spot, I’ve never found mine as I’m over 60, it’s doubtful I ever will.
Definitely general. I often tell husbands to take such information but then ask your own wife what she thinks.